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Hello hive!  Sorry if this gets a little long, but I wanted some feedback (and hopefully reassurance!).  I have 5 BMS and 2 MOHs in my bridal party, and I don't expect them to do much for the wedding at all -- they don't have to go dress-shopping with me, help me out with any projects, listen to me go on and on about wedding planning (unless the want to, of course! :), don't have to get hair and makeup done, etc.  Pretty much, I just want them to be happy for me and have a great time at the wedding.  For the most part they've been amazing, especially one of my MOHs.  But two of my girl friends have really disappointed me.  I don't mind that they're uninterested in the wedding (to the point that I haven't even told them I bought my dress) -- I get that they're a little younger and haven't had too many friends get married and for some people, weddings just aren't that exciting.  Totally understandable.

The thing that bothers me is that I feel like my friendships with these two friends are completely dissolving -- I guess not too surprising since these two girls are also the ones I've known and been close to for the least amount of time (a few years instead of 10+ like my other BMs).  I'm always calling, texting, or emailing and trying to get together -- I get no responses, or they flake out at the last minute.  I can't think of anything I've done to upset them and I've asked them if everything is ok -- they both assure me that everything's fine.  I think in the last six months I've seen both of them once each (we live in the same area and none of us is particularly busy with work).  I understand that sometimes people just drift apart, and to be honest I'm getting tired of constantly reaching out.  At this rate, I feel like we won't really be talking at all by the time of the wedding.  I've thought about asking them to step down but don't feel comfortable with that -- after all, I did ask them in the first place.

My question is, has anyone experienced something similar and was it weird at the wedding?  I know that I'll be so overwhelmed and thinking about other things the day of my wedding, but I just wonder if it will be uncomfortable or awkward with these friends who are big parts of the day, but I haven't talked to or seen in forever!  Any thoughts?  Am I thinking way too much about this?

Thanks!!  That's nice to know that everything was back to normal on the day of, whew!  I can see how that would happen, but it just makes me sad that I'm drifting from my these friends at a really happy time.

Mountainbride -- haha, I totally do have a huge wedding party!  Two of the BMs are my FSILs, who I absolutely love.  And you're right, I should really focus more on all the friends who continue to be there for me.  That's a great point about weddings being catalysts for this type of thing.  I've heard that before, but never really understood why.  I wonder why?