Post # 1
I feel guilty that my wedding day was not the best day of my life. I mean, I LOVE my husband and was so happy to become his wife. The ceremony part was amazing. But that day – how is that the best day of your life? Stress, running around getting hair done, makeup done, meeting the photog, answering my cell phone with my mom and DOC (aunt) asking me a bazillion questions, not being able to see my family b/c I was with the bridal party all day… just doesn’t seem like an amazing day to me. It was super busy and pretty stressful, honestly.
Walking down the aisle and getting married was the best part. But that only lasted… 30 mins? Then it was onto the reception, where we had to again do a million things. Receiving line, saying hello to a bazillion people and thanking them but not really getting to ‘talk’ with any of them… it was all such a blur. And I don’t love dancing, so dancing wasn’t super fun for me. I really wanted to visit with my family but barely had time and felt so bad.
I feel like I’m going through post-wedding depression or something. The planning and organizing was so fun, but then the day came and it just wasn’t as fun as everyone says it is.
Post # 3
I didn’t really think it was the best day of my life either. So I agree with you!
Post # 4
My wedding day was nowhere near being the best night of my life. After it was over, I was so relieved. I didn’t miss it at all.
I hated the ceremony, except for the obvious getting married, vows, and the kiss. 🙂 The reception was fun for the most part, but the wedding as a whole was nowhere near as great as when my husband proposed or when we spent New Year’s Eve watching movies until nearly midnight.
There’s nothing wrong with your wedding day not being the best day of your life.
Post # 5
It was the most intense and surreal day of my life so far, for sure.
It was a happy day but also tremendously stressful.
Post # 6
You guys always make me feel normal lol. *hugs* Thank you.
Post # 7
It was a great party with everybody we love… and you really can’t get much better than that in theory… but it WAS totally stressful, and worrying that nobody was hungry, thirsty, tired, bored, uncomfortable, offended etc. was EXHAUSTING.
Post # 8
Post-wedding depression is very real, and the guilt you are describing sounds like you are experiencing it. People can feel sad after their weddings are over for so many reasons. Whether you thought your wedding was the best day of your life so far, or you felt stressed and bad about not being able to see everyone, you can still feel unhappy.
The question is what do you do to improve things? First, don’t beat yourself up about how you feel about your wedding day. It’s your wedding (and life) and you get to choose how you feel about it. You could also split it up to say “I loved my wedding ceremony” if thinking about it that way (versus the day as a whole) makes you feel better. Second, since you said you feel bad about not having spent enough time with everyone, make an effort to connect with those friends and family now. Importantly though, do so in a leisurely, non-stressful way (i.e., don’t call everyone and try to have 10 hour-long conversations in a week). If you haven’t written your thank you notes yet, you could go an extra step and make them really personal. Or you could give someone a call, write an email, go over for a visit if they are nearby. I hope you feel better soon.
Post # 9
I really don’t like the saying either; that it’s the best day of my life. The time spent planning and the closeness I felt to my now husband during our engagement and all the anticipation leading up to our wedding day are what made the wedding day awesome for me. It was a 20 monthlong journey that culminated in one big party that we will never forget.
I don’t think that any one day could ever be deemed the “best ever.” For me, it’s about all the experiences that add up.