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Wedding Day Cleavage, How Much is Too Much?

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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    I can't help it.  I can't seem to find a dress that shows none.  I am in love with a dress that shows some, but not over the top.  It even has beading at the waist that draws the eye away from the girls.  However, I am scared to buy it because my fiance, a reasonable guy who has never complained about my assets before is suddenly concerned about me showing too much on our wedding day.  I agree that too much is kinda trashy, or at least misses the mark for the occasion, but I can't tell how much is too much. 

    As always, I thought I'd turn to the Bees and see what you think.

     
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    rzblna    July 2008   Los Angeles, CA

    Post pics of your cleavage!    It really is a case-by-case thing.  I don't think anyone can say unless we see what you're talking about. 

     
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    marianneinvan       Vancouver, BC

    I wear a 38G, so this is a serious issue for me. My rule of thumb is to think about what my grandmothers' reactions would be. If they'd be scandalized, it's too much! If they wouldn't even notice, it's safe.

    Really only you can decide how much is too much, based on your comfort and body type.  Good luck!

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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    Okay, I think I figured out how to let you see.  Follow this link at your own risk.

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/30823547@N07/

     
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    CarolineG    10/12/2008   Phoenix, AZ

    I assume you're not having a conservative, religious wedding, in which case your dress is fine. Your girls are not hanging out and they are not in anyone's face, from what I can tell. Your dress looks lovely on you. But, your own comfort is what matters, and if you are going to be self-conscious about it all day, you may wish to choose a different style.

     
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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    Oh yes, I should add, it is not a church wedding.  It's evening at a winery.  Thanks for the feedback.

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    novbride111    11/1/08   New York City

    i don't think you look trashy at ALL in that dress!  i mean, it's not the most conservative dress out there...but far from skanky!

     
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    jeeyol    11/08/2008   Arkansas

     Someone sent this picture to my mom today and when I read your post,it made me think of it.

    I think as long as you don't go this far, you are alright.

    I should probably warn you that you are going to see a lot of cleavage

    Bridal CLeavage

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    MsB    December 2008  

    I think for the venue it is completely suitable.

    For a church you may want to cover it up a little bit but for an evening winery it will be lovely!

     
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    lilbird    July 18, 2009   Colorado

    You and your ladies look great!  Go for it!

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    I think you look fantastic! I think that for the more-endowed brides, covering up just makes you look bigger. (I had a reduction this year so I am very familiar with this issue!)

     
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    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    I think it looks fine.  I am having a conservative wedding, though, so I went with a bateau neckline.  Menorca, La Sposa by Pronovias  Otherwise, I was going to put extra lace or other fabric to cover up...

     
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    HumarockBride    January 2, 2010   Boston, MA

    I think it looks fine too .. not a problem at all.

    Congrats on finding the dress!

     
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    mrsbear    7/22/07   New York

    I think it's taseful and your dress suits you well (as far as we can see). Cleavage isn't just about what appears in the center, it's also about how much of the top of your girls you expose. Clearly, the top and sides of your dress cover the (excuse the terminology) meatiest parts of your endowment, which really reduces the "whoa, hey!!" factor.

     
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    LittleBear    June 28, 2009   Chicago/beach wedding in NC

    I think it is a beautiful dress and covers the girls but doesn't look old lady-ish. It's perfect for your setting and time of day. Go for it!

     
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    lmdh    May 24, 2008   Pittsburgh, PA

    Love it!  Totally tasteful - no one is going to say anything about cleavage or being inappropriate.  It's perfect.

     
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    rzblna    July 2008   Los Angeles, CA

    I agree-- flatters your figure and not inappropriate at all.

     
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    DrB    November 1, 2008   Maryland

    I agree, you look great!  I love the dress (at least what is visible in the pic)!  Just make sure you are comfortable. 

    The first dress i tried was from jcrew, but I am not built like a little jcrew model, and I felt very indecent in that dress so I returned it and found something more suited to my bust size.

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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    Thanks so much for all your help and lovely comments.  I'm going with the dress!  I am so excited!

     

     

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