Post # 1
Well, I have been waiting to post about my wedding (for those of you who might be interested) until it was a little less fresh in my mind.
I was supposed to get married on May 17th in Fernie BC. My “dream” wedding didn’t happen. All the headache, tears, stress, planning, excitement, money just gone up in smoke.
My dad had a heart attack at 5am on the morning of the wedding. I was faced with some pretty big decisions to make (in between him being transferred to a different hospital an hour away from the wedding and then back to Fernie and a multitude of tests and confusion and worry as we did not know what was going on with him). My now husband and I decide to postpone the wedding by one day hoping that my dad would be cleared later on the 17th to leave the hospital or at least first thing the next morning. We found out at about 9pm that no, he would not be allowed to leave the hospital. My heart broke. This was supposed to be the best day of my life. We decided to cancel the wedding. It was really hard on my dad. He felt/feels horrible about it and did not want us to cancel. I tried to explain to him that he was not dead, that I didn’t HAVE to get married without him there. I still struggle with my choices a bit (it’s hard because we had 80 guest travel there just to see us get married and I feel like I cheated them and wasted their money). I just couldn’t do it without my dad there and I knew I wouldn’t have fun.
So we revamped and planned on just having a small (street clothes) ceremony around his bedside in the hospital. As my mom was trying to plan this the dr (a different one from the night before) asked her why we would have it in the hospital room, why not use the back yard? The apparently had a portable monitor and as long as he was within like 50 ft of the building it would work and the could monitor it. I can’t even put my feelings into words. This was a better scenario than anything I could have imagined. *cue big old crocodile tears* So we rushed to tell people the ceremony was still on! (At this point it was to late to still have the reception as we had already canceled and I wouldn’t have wanted to any how).
I was walked down the “aisle” (hospital hallway) by my Daddy on May 18th to marry the love of my life.
It was not the day I wanted or had planned. I still hurt. I still feel cheated.
But all in all, my dad’s heart attack was minor (with very limited damage) and I did still get to marry my best friend.
Note to future brides – be willing to roll with the punches and maybe avoiding engraving the date or putting your date on EVERYTHING like we did (I was actually going to engrave it on his wedding band, thank goodness I didn’t).
This topic was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by sbruin99.
Post # 2
sbruin99: Oh honey I am SO sorry you had to deal with thet. I can’t even imagine how scary that was. You handled it all beautifully 🙂
Post # 3
So sorry about your dad but at least he still walked you down the aisle and you handle it beautifully
Post # 4
Wow I am so sorry to hear that happened, but I’m really happy to hear your dad is going to be alright and it was minor. Maybe in the future you’ll be able to do a vow renewal and have the party you didn’t get to have!
BTW, you looked gorgeous. And your bouquet was lovely!<br />
Post # 5
So sorry to hear what happened to your dad. Something similar happened to mine a couple years ago. It was quite scary. The way you handled it was quite an inspiration!
Post # 6
sbruin99: Congratulations! I know it wasn’t what you planned, but I don’t know anyone that’s been married at a hospital, so that’s actually pretty unique! And a really sweet and wonderful story that could have ended very differently. Good for you for making the hard choices and congratulations again!
Post # 7
Wow, what a day for you! I’m sorry it had to happen that way, but congratulations! Glad to hear your dad is OK!
Post # 8
I’m really glad your dad is ok- that is the important thing- that, and that you got to marry your love!
Post # 9
I’m so sorry your day was much different than you planned but at least your dad is okay and he got to walk you down the aisle 🙂 You both look so happy and you look beautiful! Also, I love the backdrop in the second picture. And maybe on a big anniversary you can do a vow renewal or something like that if you want.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry for the day and what happened to your dad! In some way, it reminds me of a fairytale, even when things are looking down and it just didn’t look like it was going to happen, it happened! Congratulations on marrying your best friend 🙂
Look on the bright side, it can only go up from here!
Post # 11
I’m sorry that it didn’t go as you wanted, but I think that’s such a sweet story and wonderful pictures!
Post # 12
Congratulations on marrying the love of your life & I hope your dad is doing better!
Post # 13
This is one of the most beautiful and romantic stories I’ve read since I joined here. Your priorities are so PERFECT- you cannot help but have a wonderful and joyful marriage!
I wish you every moment of delight that you and DH so TRULY deserve.
You have experienced and shared the TRUE meaning of love and devotion to others. Blessings on you both, and your union!