(Closed) wedding day gaffs (cringe) – show me yours, I’ll show you mine!

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I know how you feel about photos. I only had candid ones as well and feel like I really missed out 🙁

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JoeBeth12: You didn’t get ANY posed photos? Of you & FI or your wedding party?? How about doing a photoshoot & getting all your wedding party together to get group photos??

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Most of the issues on our day were due to our craptastic rental company, so outside of that:

  • The photographer mentioned he wanted to do a few more photos with the wedding party after the ceremony (did a bunch beforehand), but it was like herding cats trying to get them together the first time so I blew it off. We’ll see how they turn out, it may be fine.
  • Not specifically assigning someone the task of distributing bouquets and bouts. I nearly had a meltdown when it was 20 minutes before the ceremony and I realized they were all in a box somewhere and I hadn’t even seen them yet!
  • Not doing a sketch of our cake myself for the cake company. I didn’t like what the did, but I don’t care all that much since I mostly just wanted to eat cake and didn’t care if it was a “wedding cake” or just a regular cake. I just wish since we spent the money on it it had turned out better.
  • Missing the majority of our cocktail hour. I heard it was amazing. I missed the whole damn thing and only saw the cheese buffet from afar. Grrrr.
  • Getting to the late night dessert buffet late! Half the cakes were already gone and I heard they were delicious and the photos looked awesome!
  • Not having more of my fancy pop. I only had one but thankfully it was a moment alone with my photographer and we got some shots of it 🙂
  • Not stopping more often to take it all in. The day went by really quickly and I loved it, but it was such a whirlwind of people and activity, I wish I had stopped and taken a few breaths more often.
  • Not sneaking away with my new husband for a moment to giggle and revel in it all, although I’m happy we ended up spending the majority of the evening together in general.

Overall, no huge issues (outside of aforementioned rental company). I’m happy with it!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Joebeth our reception venue gave me a detailed seating chart months before the wedding.  I had that sucker memorized in my head along with keeping it in my purse and pulling it out several times to go over it along with the Excel spreadsheet I created to match our guest list and # of seats.  I painstakingly went over both hundreds of times to make sure everyone of our guests had a seat.

Come the day of the wedding I got a frantic call from my DOC while in our getaway car with sheer panic in her voice.  The restaurant employees shorted just about every table by one seat (and in some cases, two) so there were definitely seating issues.  My sister, her friend and boyfriend kindly gave their seats up and we ended up putting some guests at the head table.  I saw two tables that were completely switched and there was a bit of rearranging among the guests themselves.

One thing I noticed though is that a lot of people hardly sat at all.  They were either at the bar (of course), or just wandering around mingling, etc.

I never complained to the restaurant (it’s still our favorite restaurant) but my DOC who is a good friend of mine, refuses to go back there and she used to like it as much as we do.  She still gets irked about it when brought up and we’re going on one year now.

Regarding your photos.  We actually requested from our photographer that we wanted more candids then we wanted posed.  Candids are the best!!!

Congrats to you!!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Thanks for the advice on posing for more formal portraits! I tend not to like them and think they’re the most uninteresting of wedding photos to look at, but seeing that you have almost none and regret it, I think I’ll make it a point to at least make sure we get a few important ones squeezed in somewhere.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ohheavenlyday Do it!!! I only have candid as well bc i see the posed ones and all i see…is well…posed and fake…but sometimes that just necessary for printing reasons!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@JoeBeth12: I have to say, the one time I did stop when I was in the bathroom with my sister I started getting really nasceous (this was post ceremony, pre-dinner). I took some of my Rescue Remedy anti-anxiety drops and just threw myself in there. I think I was tired, over excited, yada yada yada, and stopping just threw it all at me at once. As soon as I got back downstairs with the guests I was totally fine. I think the adreneline was keeping me going for sure!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I definitely think you’ll appreciate the posed photos. My parent’s wedding has the standard photo of the bride and groom with both sets of their parents, and it’s become one of my favorite photos!  But I also think a couple random candid shots of all the guests… in the church or outside of it or somewhere in the reception hall… I just think that you’ll wish you had a view of who was there!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

There are a few things  guess that niggle at me a little, but I did have a fabulous time

  • Not spending enough time with my hubs at the reception, we kinda got introduced parted ways and met up either on the d floor, cake cutting and so forth. We had a cocktail reception and parting ways just seemed easier tackle the crowds.
  • Hire a videographer… we had our videgrapher cancel on us and i couldnt find a replacement in time and I thought dont worry about it. But now I wish I did. Kicking myself for it…
  • Getting more photos of the Groomsmen and bridal party as a whole together…. I got plenty of the BMs and hubs and I but not more of them. Ah well…
  • Wore a shaul.. it was absolutely freezing after the ceremony.. overcast day and so cold but I grinned it out like a bride could.
  • I didnt get one solitary alchoholic drink in me.. I just didnt have the time!
  • at the reception wish I had the time to touch up my makeup.. it just didnt happen.. so by the end of the night im looking pretty exhausted!
  • had my hem length taken up more (the dressmaker thought it didnt need to be as my shoes are high enough) but was constantly picking the dress up so I didnt trip! also  a better bussle, mine kept on coming undone.

thats about it tho! Didnt ruin the night tho.. still fabulous!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Just a few minor regrets over an otherwise absolutely perfect day:

  • In the frantic mess of it all, between having a whale of a time, dancing and chatting, I totally forgot to toss the bouquet! And I had been looking forward to that all my life – there just never seemed to be an opportune moment, and I never told the coordinator about it, so she didn’t get to remind me either. Now I am a bit gutted about it – but on the other hand, a lot of my friends are already married, the ones that are single are all but pleased about their status, and considering there were no single (non-gay) males at the wedding to match people up with, maybe it was for the best
  • I was so excited/nervous, that I barely ate half of each of my courses – all that lovely tasting food and I left most of it!
  • My dress was way too ballgowny for the dancing, and the bustle kept falling down, so I changed into something else after the first two dances…why they call it a ballgown when it is so hard to dance in I will never know!
  • The florist didn’t put the crystals on the centrepieces as they had promised to.

The final and major regret – It’s all over now, and I will never get to do it again! Maybe we’ll have a huge party for our 10 year anniversary (in our case 20 years together). 🙂

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