(Closed) Wedding day hurt, how do i forgive! Would you stand for it?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Singinggirl:  I haven’t gone through anything similar, and I don’t really know what it’s like to have a huge family anyway, but I know you’ll get trough it. You just need to make peace with the fact that this was/is the way they choose/chose to behave (easier said than done), and be secure in the fact that it isn’t personal – although I’m sure it does feel VERY personal, this badness comes from them. It could be jealousy or other things, but it’s them, not you!

And sometimes people are just happy when they are mean to other people…

You’ll be fine, you’re a good person and a good family member, don’t let them make you bitter!!!

Post # 4
35 posts

I have been at a wedding where family members were not good with each other ! I did not see/hear any fighting (music was loud anyway) but I saw them giving mean looks to each other… it was soooo weird … what really impressed is this: the groom and the bride did not care at all and they were just happy it was their day !


People / cousins not coming to weddings because of family issues? yes ! I have seen that happen a lot..  no big deal. if they chose to be mad over coming to your wedding, just move on, you’re better off without them. I know it’s not easy to cut the ties, but hey, these people dont know to forgiveand forget.


You know they say: the worse the wedding, the happier the marriage !



Post # 6
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

No one is as excited about your wedding as you are. Becasue of years of fighting, your family grew apart and distant.

Just be happy that they didn;t come and START drama at your wedding. Much worse imo

Post # 7
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Some times a “family clense” is needed.  I needed a break from my family and to just focus on me and my fiance.  I took three months away.  No phone calls, no visits and just text or IM and it was great.  I felt so free and able to focus on me and my life and not the drama and bs that was going on.

Be happy that the drama did not come to your wedding.  That would have been far worse than family not showing up.

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