Post # 1
Hi Bees! Looking for some advice here on wedding day paper and signage.
I’m really into stationery and wanted to have a cohesive look throughout my wedding — from invites to wedding day signage to menus and programs. After a horrible experience with an Etsy vendor who I hoped to work with on my complete suite, I took up the kind offer of my future sister-in-law who designed and printed our invites, RSVP cards and enclosure cards (silk screened — so lovely).
I’d love to have her work on the other elements of the suite, but she’s a busy bee this summer and I don’t want to burden her with the day-of wedding elements. I have spent hours on Etsy trying to find something that works (mint and peach palatte, bunting flags) but haven’t found anything I like. However, I have falled in love with the work of another Etsy seller that comes recommended by a friend. She can provide me with a menu, program, table numbers, escort cards and signage, but the pieces don’t have the same feel as my invites (still has that vintage vibe and the mint and peach colour palette but instead of bunting flags, we’re looking at florals and banners). Even though I love her work, I can’t seem to get past not having the day of items coordinate with my invite.
So Bees, is this a faux pas or am I making a big deal out of nothing? A little moral support needed here; I’m driving the boy crazy! My alternative at the moment, is designing this stuff myself (if I can remember how to use Photoshop after 10 years!).
Post # 2
Well, since I was at a wedding Saturday and couldn’t tell you what linen and other such details they used only 4 days later, I am going with no one will notice. Unless one or the other is super out there, no one is bringing the invite to compare to the menu and going to think badly if they don’t match. If they do, they need a life.
Post # 3
l_bud: I tend to think people really over estimate the importance of invitations. The invitations can look entirely different from everything else, no one is going to notice or care. Aside from your immediate family(maybe), invitations end up in the trash.
Unless it is really going to bother YOU, go with what is easiest.
Post # 4
No one will notice or care as much as you.
Post # 5
No one will notice!! I can guarantee you that!!
Post # 6
I notice. I wouldn’t hold it against someone if it wasn’t cohesive, but I would notice. Some people like those particular things and look forward to seeing them.
Post # 7
I get why you’d want it all to match. That was really important to me too. I knew no one else would notice or care as much as I did… but I did and still do and that’s okay too.
What did you SIL design it in? Doesn’t she have the digital elements for that, even if she doens’t the more work for you, it would be prettey easy to coordinate with just the pieces…
Post # 8
Eradicatereality: I have the Photoshop invite file and have a draft menu about 75% compelete — just doesn’t look as nice as the pro one I like from Etsy! If I can get it to a point I’m happy with (without spending too much time on it), I’ll see about designing the other elements. Nice to save a bit of money here too. Fingers crossed!
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for your input! I’m going to see if I can get the menu to a place I’m happy with (using the design elements from my invite), if not, I’ll go with Etsy. Even if someone does notice the diference, I doubt they’ll judge me for it! Thanks again!
Post # 10
l_bud: I felt just like you! I was going crazy designing my own menu/escort cards/escort card displays/bar signage. In the end, however, I received a LOT of complements on my menu’s and escort cards. Even my wedding coordinator asked if she could have me send over my template because they were done so well.
DH kept telling me that no one would notice the 3 seconds they had to pick up the escort card tag and take it to the table, so I was shocked when that was one of the first things people commented. Although I made it look almost identicle to my invite in terms of fonts and colors, no one ever connected those two. Thus, I think you are totally fine in not carying over the exact feel.
Post # 11
Honestly you are the only one who is noticing these things. I spent so many hours and hours designing my invites, putting them together and only a handful of people noticed how gorgeous they actually were. I know for sure most of them just ended up in the garbage.
The day of the wedding, all the attention will really be on you and your hubby. They are not really going to notice too much about anything else other than the food really.
I totally get why you want to match things though. Definitely as a bride, I want things perfect and everything to flow but now that I’m so close to the wedding, honestly, now that i look back on those days where I stressed about this and that when it came to invites and paper and all that, I kinda wished I spent my time stressing about other parts of my wedding that were more important.
So don’t worry too much.
Post # 12
A a fairly recent bride, I’ll tell you that no one will care as much as you. If you love the work, go for it! Our wedding had a vintagey, chalkboard thing going on with the signage but our invites had chevrons. So, just go with what you love!
Besides, no one is going to bring your invitation anyway (aside for directions!) to compare.