Post # 1
Hi bees, Anyone feel pressure to loose weight before the big day ? I put on a bit of weight over the last year and ever since I’ve told people about my wedding vie gotten a few people asking me if I’m going to loose weight or what I’m doing to loose weight. Or the oh you look like you lost weight, how much are you trying to loose for the wedding. It’s kind of getting to me. I am trying to drop some weight for my health but I don’t want this extra stress and pressure to drop a load of weight before the wedding. I’m not a big girl, I’m a size 12 (aus) , but used to be a 10 so I’ve been slimmer but I’m happy with the way I am now and I think I look good so why do people put this pressure on you. Anyone else felt this ?
Post # 2
I’m a UK/AUS 14, US 10. I’m hating it, I have no self control and I eat allll the time. When I met my FI three years ago, I was an UK/AUS 8, US 4. Wahhhh 🙁
I do want to be slimmer, I want to go on holiday and be comfortable in a bikini, but I love eating! I’m kind of aware of other people noticing my weight, and FI would never say anything but I think he misses the skinny me secretly.
I hope that by the wedding I’ll be an UK/AUS 8-10, US 4-6 but who knows. I’m my own worst enemy.
Post # 3
Screw anyone who is pressuring you to lose weight.
that being said…I actually started a diet a couple of days prior to getting engaged (which was a complete surprise) because we were planning on a beach vacation. Everybody is judging me for losing weight for the wedding. Which is ironic because there won’t be anybody there!!
I don’t understand why people have to have so many freaking opinions about other people’s weight. As if we don’t have enough feelings of our own.
sorry for my rant on your post. Please don’t lose weight because other people are making you feel like you should. Only do it if you want to.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
WHO DOES THAT?????!
I honestly have no clue who would DARE ask someone else about their weight. EVER. Period.
Unless you’re my damn doctor, how is it your business? I don’t understand this at all.
“A few people” have asked you that? I’m appalled.
Post # 5
Definitelly feeling it especially I’m surrounded by skinny people…even my mom is skinnier than me and she is 70 this year
My initial goal was 118lbs but if I dropped to 120-123lbs, I will be a happy bride. Currently I’m at 126.4 for two months now…. however, my SIL and MOH making harsh comments on my weight.. (they are super skinny, like model figure…) … my MOH did not see me for two months and last weekend when I met her up for my wedding planning, even she commented that I did lose some weight cuz’ my hips and face is noticeably skinnier.. ..
I know I can take a lot of harsh jokes from each other but…..being a bride, I’m ultra sensitive to any comments and I dun think she realized that… I changed a few things due to her comments but I didn’t tell her because she truely go over the hills to help me in this wedding planning. Yesterday, I told her if I don’t lose more weight, I’m thinking to do HCG diet and I explained to her what that is… suddenly, she is supportive and told me I look good now … and I still have time to lose weight.. I guess she finally get the idea her criticism does impact me finally….
Post # 6
I started on a big journey towards fitness just over a year ago, and by August 2013 had shed a fair amount of inches. We got engaged, and then I started gaining again through various stress triggers. Finally got things turned around again in January and have been trying to get back on track.
So many people think that I’m doing it just for the wedding, when this is something I’ve been working on for over a year. But secretly, I would love to be trimmer on my back before the wedding, for completely vain reasons. And I’d also love to feel great in a bikini for our honeymoon.
Post # 7
TanyaLeigh050414: i started working out and trying to lose a little bit of weight in january…and of course everyone is assuming its for the wedding, but that’s only a part of it. i’m trying to improve my health, get in better shape, and look better in my wedding dress all at the same time!
some people just have no filter…
Post # 8
TanyaLeigh050414: I haven’t really felt any pressure, but I have lost about 18.5 lbs since I got engaged. I want to be my best-looking self on my wedding day, and I also want to be healthy. I love food too, but I can’t eat what I want all the time and expect to be healthy and happy. I know if I looked back at my wedding photos without having lost weight I’d be mad at myself.
ETA: I forgot to mention that I don’t think it’s ok at all for others to ask you about your weight. Like never is that ok.
Post # 9
I feel it as well…my fiance and I have both gained weight within the past year and are making efforts to lose weight and be healthy, not just to lose weight and look sick, but I keep on telling mysel too that he’s marrying me for a reason, not just my looks, and I keep having to remind myself to basically say screw everyone and all of the societal standards.
Post # 10
What? I’m stressing myself about losing weight, but how would that be anybody else’s business. I can’t believe people are actually asking you this! Jeez, people, seriously?!
Post # 11
Yes, you are all right that is it no ones business what your weight is, and I don’t understand why some people think they can comment. It just makes me fee bad and stressed out about how I look.
I really think that there is so much pressure on women to be thin and ‘perfect’ it creates such a negative body image in people. Remember Marilyn Munro was a curvy girl and she was beautiful and confident. Like has anyone looked at old 50s photos, the women were real and natural and not trying to anything but themselves.
Some girls are naturally skinny but some are naturally curvy…it’s all ok it’s all beautiful.
I think if you always judge yourself and focus on what you don’t like, you will never be happy with yourself.
You see all beautiful and you will all look beautiful on your wedding day.
Post # 12
I conveniently started losing weight off my own back about 6 weeks before FI proposed! haha so I guess when I hear compliments about my weight loss now I can take them exactly as they are (as everyone knows it was something for me, and not just for the wedding, although that is a definite side benefit!).
I’ve lost around 24lbs so far since mid-November and have about the same again to lose by August (should be doable!) but I’m trying to make it a lifestyle change and not a short term diet thing. Seems to be working so far.
I would tell them that you’re trying to get a more healthy outlook on life overall, and that you’re not losing any weight deliberately for your wedding. After all, your FI loves you, and ALL of you! So long as you too love yourself, no-one else’s opinion matters 🙂
Post # 13
LittleMissBlueShoes: No one is pressuring me but me. I think that’s the worst pressure of all.
Post # 14
- Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club
Ugh I. Ant believe people will comment on your weight! I’m sorry people are so ignorant.
I was at my heaviest when FI propossed, 5’5 and 158 lbs. I was 130 when we started dating. My bridesmaids are all size 0 (litterally) so I feel a bit insecure. I would like to get back down to 130, I don’t want to be super skinny, I just want to look and feel like myself again. I’m down to 150 as of today so only 20 lbs to go!
Post # 15
Not feeling external pressure from others, but I am definitely pressuring myself which is the worst. I’ve lost 6 lbs since getting engaged in October and I’m trying to lose 20 more before the wedding next March (I’m 5-2 and 140, between a US 6-8). I’m just focusing on eating healthier (no junk food, sodas, and cutting back on alcohol) and working out more.
Edited to add: i hate that others feel like they can police your body and make comments about losing weight once you get engaged. Thankfully nobody has said anything to me about it, but if anyone does in the next few months I’ll make it known that it’s rude of them to ask!