Post # 1
I have been thinking of pushing out wedding back a year, but as you can see we are so close to the date. I’ve just been stressed and overwhelmed with everything there is to do, and I’m pretty sure my reasons are selfish. I can’t believe a year has already almost gone by since my engagement. I wish I had another year to plan. This is going to be it, my one wedding and soon it will all be over I wish I would have had more time to be engaged. Although I’m sure a year from now I would still wish I had more time to plan. There is no on on earth I would rather be with and I am very secure in my decision to marry, it’s just one of the last big steps. All my family and friends will have their day after mine has passed, time is going by way too fast. I wish I had more time to grow my hair out, and lose even more weight. The makeup/dj/photoboot/videographer/ everyone has deposits and has been paid. Bridesmaids have bought their dressed. invitations have not yet gone out. I guess all the vendors could keep the deposits and just change the date in their books. Same with the venue and everything. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to tell everyone that we postponed, and that we did it to have more time being young and engaged, to travel a bit. What do you that are still reading this think?
Post # 3
I think that’s a silly reason to postpone. Even if you did, you’d still likely feel the same this time next year. I think a lot of brides get a bit too caught up in the “I don’t want it to be over” mentality and lose sight of the real reason for getting married. Yes, planning a wedding can be fun and no matter how much time you have to do it, you’ll always feel like you could use a bit more. Have your wedding, marry your fiance, and take the next step in your lives together and enjoy each moment as it comes. In ten years, you won’t care about whether or not you had “enough” time to plan.
Post # 4
I agree- there is plenty of time to be young and married and acomplish the same things you would as young and engaged 🙂 If you wait for a magic number for your weight, money saved, etc, you will always be chasing a goal. Enjoy your day- it will be wonderful, and then you get to come out of it with a HUSBAND!! 🙂
Post # 5
I have to say I agree with the other ladies. Go ahead and get married and try not to over-think it!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
You need to focus on what’s important- your marriage. You could take five years to plan a wedding, and it won’t be “perfect”- you’d still have could have/should have/would haves.
Are you doing too many DIYs, that you’re overwhelmed? Take some off the list. Get a day of coordinator.
You can travel with your *husband* when you’re young and married, which is a lot better than traveling with your fiance. 🙂
Post # 7
I’ve felt similar to you, almost like I’ve wasted the engagement time and haven’t made the most of it. When I felt that way, I just decided I would talk about what I’m excited about with my Fiance to get my spirits lifted. I asked him what he was most looking forward to about the ceremony and about the reception, talked about the silliest entrance songs (think: “My Heart Will Go On” for the groomsmen introductions, lmao!!), and just anything silly or exciting about the wedding that is actually happening, or would be comical if it did happen. I also made a list of everything minor or huge left to do and organized it based on a timeline of when it should get done.
You’re not alone in your feelings!
Post # 8
You can get it done by the time the wedding rolls around. I wouldn’t push it back. It’s more important to be married than to have some little detail that you didn’t have time to deal with in my opinion. There’s no way I’d push ours back.
Post # 9
Does your fiancée feel like you? I WAS overwhelmed pretty near the wedding and part of me just wished it was all over. BUT ialways felt i was working and stressing planning a magical day that was the BEGINNING of a life, not the end!!!!!
Post # 10
I’m feeling pretty overwhelmed as well, but my reaction is different. I want it to end right now. I’m completely over the stress, money issues, this problem, and that problem. We’ve had a rough 20 months of planning so I’m done. I’m throwing in the white flag. 😉
Post # 11
I’m a worrier/ a stress person and he isn’,t he tries to calm me. There are some people who cant make it because of work/college (dual master programs) and that makes me sad. I got laid off in June and haven’t found anything yet which stresses me out. My Maid/Matron of Honor is in California for the whole summer, and there is still so much to do and less than three months to do it all. It’s not fair to everyone else to push it back and I want to be married to him, sooner rather than later. This October we’ll have been together for 8 years so It’s like we’re married already. We waited this long because we were very young when we got together and I wanted to finish college first. Well I wasn’t feeling this way a couple days ago. Then my dad (who is paying for the majority of the wedding – and I am very grateful) called me. He said that he had a bad dream about the wedding, that he couldn’t remember it but it felt very real. Then he said that this year has gone by too fast and wishes he would have suggested a 2 year engagement, that he wanted to make sure I was okay, and wanted to go through with it, that it’s just money and people understand and if I wanted to postpone it a year, then we would do that and just do it all in a year. All of this kind of got to me – rattled me – I had only thought to myself every once in a while “gee, it’s going by so fast I wish I had more time to plan and relax and enjoy this engagement” but I never seriously considered postponing and then here my dad is saying these things, saying he had a bad dream, and it makes me anxious an acctually consider postponing. (A small part of me wonders if he was trying to get me to postpone or call it off) However, you lovely ladies are right – it doesn’t matter how much time I have, I’m sure I’ll be stressed and there will still be things I could’ve shoul’ve would’ve no matter what, and I’m sure I would still be saying if only I had more time – well that’s just not realistic. I don’t plan on postponing it – I just wish I could quit stressing, and being anxious, and I wish my dad would have never said anything.
Post # 12
Coming from a procrastinator, you could give me two years and it STILL won’t get done till the last minutes.