Post # 1
It’s really hard for me to post this, because it makes me feel like such a…well with lack of better word a flunky loser. Weddings are supposed to be happy events and for the most part(especially if you’re not a bridezilla) happy excited planning. But more often than not it makes me a little depressed. Why? Not because I don’t have an amazing man to help me(because he has done more than his fair share) but because I have no real friends. I have/had work friends, church friends. I have gone through several BM’s and two MOH’s. I”m not saying that I want their total attention, but maybe a little bit of talking to me would be nice.
Mr.Bobby never really minded so much until this bought of depression hit. We talking about joining some classes at the gym, maybe switching to a church that has more people our age and can actually get involved in. (Don’t get me wrong, the church we go to is great! But they don’t have any thing to get involved in, except mens dinners and womans dinners, thats about it). Don’t get me wrong I’ve tried and tried to make friends but nine out of ten i get stabbed in the back.
Thanks for reading ladies!
Post # 3
I’m sorry you feel so alone. I didn’t have a lot of friends where I lived when I got married either. I don’t have good advice for making new friends, I haven’t made any here either. I hope you find some soon!
Post # 4
I hate that you are so sad. I know it can be hard when you see movies, tv shows or even just other women who have those “sister” friends… but many times that is not the case. I’m in the same boat you are in… I have moved so often in my life that I have a lot of people I know…. but no best friends to turn to sometime. Try to remember that a lot of the time it is better to have a few really good friends than a lot of ok friends and even better than that in July you will be marrying you BEST friend and he will ALWAYS be there for you… no matter what. Keep your chin up!!
Post # 5
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this, too. I am in the same boat and it is really getting frustrating. I try to keep positive, but it’s really hard when you don’t have friends you can talk/vent to. I guess that’s why the Bee is here!
I just moved home (town of 7000 people) after living out of state for 3 years, and all of the friends I used to have here have scattered. So it’s just me and FI, and I think he’s getting a little tired of me…he’s used to me having lots of friends and isn’t sure what to do with me now! I left all of my good friends behind when I moved home, and I don’t feel like I “click” with anyone here.
The part that gets me depressed is thinking about AFTER the wedding planning. I don’t like doing it by myself, but I’m going to need some serious hobbies for after the wedding, because planning is what keeps me so busy and sane right now!
I am sorry that you’re dealing with this, because I know it is no fun. I hope that increasing your involvement in social activities will help! Let me know if you find anything that works, because I am always open for suggestions!
Post # 6
We’re here for you. I think friendship “cycles” can be so tricky. People who we were so close to years ago are not so much now, and that comes with just growing up and finding out who we are. I recently graduated from college and started at grad school, and I’ve been struggling with the fact that the people who surrounded me for four years at undergrad are scattered across the country now.
Just remember that you are so lucky to have your man. And I truly believe that the real, lasting friendships will come once life is established a bit better (at least, that is what I tell myself).
In the meantime, don’t let yourself give up or hide away. Continue to be your lovely social self, and people will WANT to be around you! 🙂
Post # 7
I honestly dont know what I would of done throughout this whole wedding process without WeddingBee, this site has helped me so much when I needed an ear, shoulder or advice. My best friend is my MOH and she has been telling me for 3 wks that she would come by and pick up her dress and talk wedding stuff but she keeps blowing me off. I dont know why she cant be happy for me, maybe she doesnt understand what a MOH is suppose to do, thankfully I have a matron of honor that is planning my shower all by herself but she has two young kids and owns a business so she’s super busy but doesnt want me to help with it. My sister dropped out months ago and decided not to go to my wedding. Me and my mom talk about it seldomly but she doesnt believe in marriages so there’s no point. I guess this is common with brides feeling alone, at least we have our mans!
Point is, I need new friends, strange how people change
Post # 8
I;m so sorry! I’ve been kinda going thru the same thing as you…I actually googled it & found bridal blues…pretty much wedding depression. It’s a hard time even though you’re supposed to be happy!
Post # 9
I’m sorry I haven’t posted sooner it’s been a little hectic this thanksgiving weekend lol!
Thanks ladies, it’s nice to know that I’m not all alone in this. But I am sorry that thereare other who feel like this!
I’ve moved quite a lot and that’s the main cause of my friendless ness. But I’m working on it! Getting out of my job will help quite a lot!
Post # 10
I feel the same way. I just keep reminding myself how nice it will be to be settled down and married. When I get down I try to go out and do something fun (yoga class, walk the dog, cheap date with FI).
Post # 11
*HUG* I’m sorry you don’t have many people to share all of this with you. I relate in some ways. There are so many other things going on in my FI’s life (which effects me a lot too) that I feel like it overshadows the wedding…
Post # 12
I felt exactly the same way! I have also moved a lot (between countries) and my real friends are thousands of miles away… Here, I have friends, but nobody who REALLY cares about me… But we have our wonderful men and this community: you are not alone! (((hugs)))
Post # 13
@bobbypinpearls- it was easter weekend silly girl! You seriously had me so confused I kept checking and rechecking your post date I thought I was going crazy! Anyways, I know how you feel. My husband and I currently live in MY home town and he has more friends than me here 🙁 my best friends are off at school and I’ve grown apart from all of my other friends. It’s really tough. Especially when you see other girls with their groups of best friends that they get to see constantly.
Post # 14
@ wifeywife LMAO FI said something about that but I had no idea what he meant! thanks for pointing that out ha ha
You’re right it’s hard when you have the best of friends and then have to move away and lose touch with them. But what hurts the most is I used to be part of the group of girls that I see walking around all besty besty, it’s like “oh hey, there goes all my old friends, great to see they stay in touch!”
But it is nice to see that no matter what at least we’ve got the hive lol
Post # 15
You may want to consider bringing some of those acquaintances in closer by having them participate in your wedding. This could be a great opportunity to hone the friendships that are still in the beginning phases. I moved across the country when I got engaged, and I’m pretty sure my wedding has been a great stepping stone for my old friends from the east coast to get comfortable with a long distance friendship.
Post # 16
@bobbypinpearls- I’m sorry that happened with your group of friends. That would be really rough 🙁 are any of them involved in the wedding or has this been going on for a while? I only have 2 friends that have remained good friends, but they’re the ones off at school. My high school group of friends is still in town doing their own thing without me so I kind of know how you feel. I just try and see it as they obviously weren’t the greatest friends if they would just drop me.