(Closed) Wedding drama :(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
8580 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well. First off, these are modern times. It’s very common for the bride & groom to pay for their weddings by themselves. Be thankful for any help you do receive.

That being said, your father isn’t the one getting married, you are. It would be lovely for him to contribute to your wedding, but alot of times that doesn’t happen.

As for your stepdad walking you down the aisle, that’s really your choice. Nobody can tell you otherwise. I am having my mother & step father walking me down the aisle, but I am going to make my biological father aware. He can either choose to go and sit with the rest of the guests, or not go at all. His choice.

Post # 4
Member
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

be thankful your mom, step-mom, and step-dad are helping you out. some of us are your age and have to pay for our wedding by ourselves. my dad is still walking me down the aisle even though he isn’t paying for anything- money isn’t everything..

Post # 7
Member
8316 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Well with the attitude you are expressing here I am not suprised they are reluctant to help. Be grateful for what they are providing. No one deserves a wedding.

Post # 8
Member
5313 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Uh, your father is not obligated to pay for your wedding, no matter how many times he has been married himself. If you want your stepfather to walk you, fine, but if the reason is punishment because your father won’t pay for your wedding that is incredibly immature.

Many couples these days, myself included, pay/paid for their own weddings. If you can’t afford it, either save your money or adjust your expectations for your budget.

Post # 10
Member
8316 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@mirandaLovesace:  If you have such a bad relationship with your father why would you expect him to help?

And we only have what you type in your posts  to draw conclusions from, so from your post all I am getting is an ungrateful, entitled, immature and rude attitude.

Post # 11
Member
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m 20 and not asking a dime from my dad. 

Don’t use excuses as to why you need other people to pay

you can wait till your 30 and pay for it yourself.

Post # 12
Member
533 posts
Busy bee

You have 15 months, start saving.

Also with the whole punishment to your dad, that’s just immature. My folks wouldn’t have to give us anything and I would still want my dad walking me down the aisle.

Post # 13
Hostess
8580 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not sure if the stepdad walking her down the asile has to do with her real father not contributing.

As far as I can tell, these could be two differant things. She hasn’t said it was a punishment.

Post # 14
Member
533 posts
Busy bee

Oops! I read it wrong! :/

Post # 15
Member
5313 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

@jenilynevette:  she also says the reason she wants her stepdad to walk her is because he has been there through “this process” which, if one does not have more information, can easily be understood to be “this wedding process”. Especially tacked on at the end of a post about him not paying and no other information about why she does not want him to walk her. Still, I did not assume that was only reason which is why I said she was free to have her stepdad walk her but IF it was a punishment for not paying it is immature.

Post # 16
Hostess
8580 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@RayKay:  It could be, but even if it was because he has been there through the wedding process, that still doesn’t mean it’s punishment for her father.

I don’t know, maybe i’m crazy.

My mom/step father are contributing, and my father isn’t. My mom & step father are walking me downt he aisle. It’s in no way or form punishment for my father. My step father has just been there for me [havent seen my real father in 6 years].

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