Wedding Drama

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’d probably say…we don’t need a flowergirl, so if you don’t use the dress I payed for then just forget it. Was the little girl excited or apathetic?

Post # 5
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@octoberbride102013:  thats extremely inconsiderate of them.

Can your FI get involved?


Post # 6
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@octoberbride102013:  They are being unreasonable, and i think your response to them was perfect. Its not being insulting at all- nor comprimising what you want at your wedding. 

Post # 7
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

@octoberbride102013:  Oh, that is sad! They are really ungrateful, but at this point I would probably let it go for the sake of the little girl’s happiness. It won’t make any impact on your day, really, even though her dress might not be great for the event.

Post # 8
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

They are so out of line. Kudos for being the bigger person, its a shame that the girl has to suffer for her parents ignorance. They didn’t even pay for the damn dress (which they should have). All they had come out of pocket for was the alternations? Ingrates!

Post # 9
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@whoa_its_ash:  +1

Though I’m sensitive to what this little girl wants, these parents are holding her hostage to get what they want, and that’s not right.  There’s nothing saying they won’t demand mroe stuff later.

Keep your ground.  Don’t let them bully you into paying for alterations for a dress THEY said needed to be bigger since she keeps growing.

Post # 10
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@octoberbride102013:  If they are intent on throwing the dress out, get it back under the guise of you getting it altered and get your money back on the dress.

Her mother can do it for free and you ordered the dress on their advice? Either they alter it, or yes they can come as guests.


Post # 11
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@octoberbride102013:  if this is your brother, have you had your mom speak to them?

If they want to get another dress, let them, but ensure that they do NOT throw out the dress you paid for, unless they throw it out and pay you back. That dress can be returned so you can get your money back, or it could be donated to people who actually appreciate it. Throwing out a perfectly good (and probably adorable) dress is extremely wasteful! Some people are so selfish and ungrateful!

Post # 15
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

They just made up a reason to not use the dress, so they could use what they wanted.It’s particularly gauling that both the SIL and her mother have sewing skills and hemming a dress is a very simple thing to do for any experienced seamstress – hell I’m a terrible with sewing and even I can hem a dress/pants legs.

Stand your ground, if she doesn’t want to let her daughter wear attire/dress selected for YOUR wedding then the little girl won’t be in the wedding party.  Sad because I’m sure any little girl would LOVE to wear the dress, it’s very cute. Sorry a “crocheted” dress in a wedding party could be very tacky, esp. if no one else is wearing such attire.

I can’t believe they are complaining about their son wearing a suit!?!?! What do they think boys/men should wear to weddings?

Are these the type of people that think jeans and a t-shirt should be okay to wear everywhere?

If they don’t change their tune just cut them out of the wedding party and proceed with them as guests.


Post # 16
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Keep standing your ground!! Update us on what happens.

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