- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
We had some major miscommunication with my FFIL and things he expected out of us.
-inviting extra people
-who our officant should be
-demanding that we have a party at his house
we finally addressed after we realized he was going to keep tacking on more stuff. He didn’t realize that by sending out our website and save the date cards that that was an informal invitation to the wedding and that a real invitation would be expected. We negotiated with him on the officant. I think the reason why he’s demanding a party at his place is because he’s so excited. So now he wants to give us more money, host a rehearsal dinner and a brunch.
I am completely overwhelmed and don’t know what to say. It’s way more than I expect/want but he really wants to do this for us and FI is like this is what he wants to do, we can’t dictate how he spends his money if he wants to spend it on us then let’s just be gracious. But for me this is A LOT and I didn’t ask for it, I don’t need it, I don’t expect it. I am overwhelmed by the generosity. I don’t respond well to expensive gifts or gestures. So how do I just accept this graciously?