Banquet halls are out. My FH has decided they’re not happening. Period.
We live in Mississauga Ontario (which is basically Toronto) which means that everything is expensive. Most of the venues we’re looking at are unliscensed meaning we get a special occasion permit and supply our own liquor – HUGE savings.
I fell in love with a place on the weekend (the McMichael art Gallery in Vaughan, about 30 minutes from where we live). It’s BEAUTIFUL. The rental cost is $2100 for reception and ceremony and that includes tables and chairs (haven’t seen the chairs, but I can probably live with them).
they have 3 exclusive caterers, I got pricing from one, the menu sample is much more extravagant than what we want – we want BBQ type food (probably just chicken and a vegetarian option, we can sacrifice a red meat for the sake of budget)
I received pricing from one of them so far and for 100 people everything included it’s $21,215.30 (that’s taxes, rentals, staffing, landmark fees, booze EVERYTHING inlcuded.
So that means, we’re at $23,588.30
I’m determined to find a $500 dress (but the shoes I want are $300…I can probably give them up if I have to).
We can probably reduce the catering bill a bit through food choices AND that includes hard liquor and we’re only going to do beer and wine (and that price has them supplying, I want to see if we can do it and save some more money).
We haven’t actually booked this venue but I love it, and I can see us hitting $30,000 easily and that seems like SO much money. I’ve looked around and most of the venues I’ve been able to find run about the same as this. We sitll have a few places to see…
The other thing – 75% of our guest list will be flying in (assuming they all come) and almost all are from out of town. This will be the case if we had the wedding in my home town as well (which is more expensive and less exciting for guests to get to). My FH’s hometown is out of the question, too small, nowhere for people to stay etc etc. I feel like if people are travelling for the wedding we have to thank them appropriately and throw a good party. I just don’t know what to do.
This is stressing me out and upsetting me and I hate it. We’ve been together 9 years this October, I just really want to be married.
Thank you for reading my rant. I just need to get it out (and my best friend is currently in Brazil right now and my sister has a baby and 1st birthday party to plan…she doesn’t want to hear about my money woes)