Wedding dress addict dilemma!

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
2555 posts
Sugar bee

You’ve alredy got 3, why not 4, especiallyif you can afford it!  Your guests will be so surprised!  Even you don’t know (yet) what you will turn up in!!!!  Havng 4 dressesis not nearly as bad as not having a thing to wear. I say get the one you really love made up for you then do a wedding bee poll if you still feel indecisive.  By the way you look GREAT in the dress pictured ( though I’m sure you could dye it and alter it to be a great cocktail dress).

Post # 3
5767 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Three dresses is too many. You don’t need a fourth. Just because it’s your wedding day doesn’t mean you have to make things super complicated and spend tons of money. Be satisfied with what you have. Stay off of etsy and any other sure where you might find another dress. Don’t go to any dress shops. Be glad you can cross the dress-shopping off your to-do list. What you’re considering is not normal. Most ladies have one dress, and only one dress.

Post # 4
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

karli.e.c:  You look gorgeous in the dress pic you posted!  While the Misdress is pretty, the lace looks kind of thick on the dress.  The BHLDN dress is gorgeous and flowy…  It really suits you.  May I offer a suggestion?  Perhaps reach out to a local bridal boutique and see if they will schedule you for an accessories appointment.  Explain that you’ve purchased three dresses, but are unsure which to pick style-wise.  Once you try on the dresses with a veil and maybe some other accessories, you might get more of that excited, bridal feeling.  It’s fun to look and browse online, but there’s something about putting on the dress and trying it on with a veil that can really make you feel like a bride.

I don’t want to come off witchy on a message board, but also want to offer some tough love:  four dresses is too much. 🙂  Once you pick the fourth, what makes you think you’ll want to stop there?  You are extremely fortunate to have the BHLDN connection (My DC bride friends are crazy for this brand right now)!  If you don’t stop looking and focus on the dresses you’ve purchased, I’m fearful you’ll stress yourself out a lot leading up to the wedding.  Jewlery, head pieces, even flowers are sometimes decided based on the dress you select.  

Post # 5
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I bought three dresses in total – I just wasn’t in love with the first two because they just didn’t feel like “me”. I always knew I would be able to sell them if I didn’t like them. I’m much happier with the third one I bought – it’s more my style and I’m a lot more happier wearing it. I sold the first two on eBay which was great because it made me feel much more comfortable with my decision to ditch the ones I didn’t like. My sister and MOH were pretty judgmental about it all but that’s just her personality!

Post # 6
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

When I purchased my dress I did so because it looked good, and frankly I was tired of dress shopping. never got that feeling of it being the one. I would watch those tv shows on tlc and would always have dress envy. in the end i decided to go with it, and not tourture myself. I felt pretty and like a bride on my wedding day, i think no matter what you wear you cant lose. I think you need to make a decision ether you get this dress on etsy and that is it. or you go with what you have. good luck!

Post # 7
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you afford to waste money like this?

Post # 8
3331 posts
Sugar bee

Life is not an episode of “Say Yes to the Dress”. You already have THREE, I somehow doubt you will be satisfied with this fourth dress that you did not try on before you bought.

Post # 9
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Wait, so are you planning on wearing 3 dresses on the wedding day? Possibly 4?

If you’re just looking to buy another 4th so you can add more to the decision, step away from the computer and close out that window. You are already making this decision far to difficult for yourself.

I mean, it’s your wedding, and if you want to wear 3 different dresses to the occasion, that’s up to you. I think it’s a bit much. And to change into 4 different dresses throughout the night seems like more effort than it’s worth.

But, like I said, it’s your wedding. Although, you seem to be driving yourself crazy.

Post # 10
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Omg joanne150406: I literally could have written your post! Even down to the judgey sister/MOH teehee. I bought two dresses (online) before buying “the one” – mainly because I live in regional town where they don’t sell the brand of dress I was after. The dresses I bought were the same style (one was too small, one was too heavy/cheap fabric), the actual dress is very similar to the first two but the right size and fabric 🙂 The others have gone to lovely buyers on eBay!

karli.e.c: I think you might feel better if you start selling the dresses you truly don’t like. Do you have an idea in mind of the kind of dress you want? Can you pin-point what you don’t like about the dresses you already have? Do you like the style but not the fabric/is the size off?

If your problem is that you like everything, then you have a problem on your hands. There could be hundreds of dresses that you like and look good in. You’re just going to have to pick one dress and stick with it.

Honestly, I think if you went with the Etsy dress, you’d be disappointed.  The BHLDN dress you posted is ridiculously gorgeous – unique, modern and classy. I would try it with a veil/headpiece and some amazing earrings or something. Or you could post a poll on here with all of the dresses and see which one people like best.

Best of luck!

Post # 11
361 posts
Helper bee

karli.e.c:  I giggled when I read your post 🙂  But, with you, not at you 🙂  Ok, so let me just say, the dress you posted that you’re wearing is absolutely stunning.  I love everything about it on you.  It’s really breathtaking and unique.  The other dress you posted that you want replicated is awful…and I mean downright ugly…but thats just my opinion.  I think you should go with which ever dress or dresses make you feel amazing at the end of the day.  Best of luck!   

Post # 12
1170 posts
Bumble bee

karli.e.c:  you might want to check your reviews of misdress again. There are a few on this website

Post # 13
118 posts
Blushing bee

I love the dress you are wearing in the pic, I think it looks fabulous on you.  I also agree with other posters that the lace on the other dress looks very thick.  I do not have any experience with replica dress makers but from the picture you showed it looks like it will be bulky and not as flattering.

Post # 14
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014


janereaction:  hehe and we’re both in Australia! dealing with my sister and MOH about the whole dress issue has been one of the most annoying things, but everyone else has been okay about it!

karli.e.c:  i think you should look into selling some of the dresses before you buy another. I was definitely keen to sell the first two I bought and I knew I always could I sell things regularly on eBay). I’m really happy with that decision because they ended up going to people who really loved them and I basically made back the money I paid. For me it wasn’t a question about looking good in a dress, but me being happy, feeling comfortable and having a dress that was more “me.” You might never be happy with your choice so you might have to keep that in mind. My sister and MOH thought I was crazy (everyone else was fine when they found out that I sold the other dresses) but at the end of the day I wasn’t out of pocket and ended up with something that I feel so much better in.

Post # 15
1300 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

I think you look fabulous in the dress you posted.  I would consider removing the lace panel in front.  

I will also say you have too many dresses and need to stop looking.   

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