Post # 1
So I was never one of those brides who dreamed about her wedding – and thefore, had no clue about what kind of dress I wanted. Luckily an engaged friend told me to look early so I started looking summer of 2007 for a June 2008 wedding. I went to four salons and four designer specific boutiques.
I quickly gravitated towards silk dresses with limited crystal/beadwork in an A-line shape. I tried on a bunch of styles but felt that lace wasn’t me (I am not dainty enough) and that the unadorned dresses were too “plain”. I also wanted a dress with some body, because I knew this was the only time I would wear such a big dress.
I ended up with a beautiful Reem Acra because I fell in love with the back.
However, now I feel like maybe it isn’t the right dress. I don’t love the way it looks on me in the front – it seems to have an odd shape
I feel like I was too hasty on my decision making process. Is this too formal for a June black-tie optional wedding with an outdoor (weather permitting!) ceremony? Why does the front make my shape look funny? Why didn’t I consider other styles? Why didn’t I take pictures even though they said not to? Will my FI like it (he is my fashion advisor and I didn’t have him for my biggest purchase ever!) It is really hard to know what dress was best on me without seeing them! Do any of you feel like you made the wrong decision? I know I won’t buy another dress – I already spent too much on this one!
I really hate how much this is bothering me – I look at pics of dresses all the time to compare them to my dress and I am really starting to annoy myself…..
Post # 3
Oh I’ve been there! I think there is another thread on here from a couple months ago with the same discussion.
I’m a June bride, after months of looking, I bought a dress in November. It was quite different than what I had imagined as a little girl. I always wanted the big pouffy fairy tale dress, but when it came to trying them on, that style just wasn’t me. So I ended up with a lacy tight fitting trumpet skirt style. I loved it in the store. But then for the next couple of months after I bought it, I kept having second thoughts, I worried that I wouldn’t like it, it was too ivory, I should have gotten a pouffy dress…etc.
My dress came in last week, and I tried it on Saturday and fell in love with it again. I think it’s all the wedding stress, it makes you second guess things.
I think your dress is lovely, and it doesn’t give you a funny shape! 🙂
Post # 4
Don’t second-guess it- your dress is beautiful and the back looks great on you- I definitely don’t have the back to pull that off so you are really lucky. And Reem Acra- wow, designer!! that is amazing that you got such a pretty dress. Also you have to get your hair done and makeup to truly feel like eveything is perfect and it will be.
Post # 5
I absolutely love my dress. I spent about two months looking at photos before going shopping, and had a really good idea of what I wanted (I walked in with a small stack of photos of essentially the same dress by different designers). I actually tried on numerous styles, but ended up with one my top choices from the photos. I also wondered if I shouldn’t go back with FI and see what he thought, but I showed him a picture from the designer’s website and he thinks its totally me, so I’m not worried.
I don’t think your dress looks overly formal. It doesn’t look informal; it looks definately bridal, but there are some dresses that are definately ballgowns or serious eveningwear. And if your event is black-tie-optional, that’s still pretty formal in the grand scheme of things. We don’t expect anyone to show up in a tux for our wedding; even FI and my dad will just be in a nice suit. I also think you look great in it – you have a great back and arms, and it really shows that off. As far as the front, I’m not sure what you mean. It looks like the dress could stand to be pressed, and it also looks like the skirt is standing rather than hanging, so you need it hemmed. I am sure that after you have your alterations it will drape better in the front. I would also think about having cups sewed in, if I was you.
And stop looking at dress pictures! You can drive yourself nuts second-guessing every decision – I’m doing it right now with my invitations – but there’s no point in it! You loved the dress, and when you go for your fittings I’m sure you’ll remember all the reasons that you did. (Besides, I’m not sure you could order one now and have it in time anyway – you’d have to find something off the rack.)
Post # 6
I think you look beautiful!! The back is so lovely and so is the beading on the front. The bride should always been the most dressed up so don’t worry about the time of year and location.
I think everyone probably goes through this as it’s such a big purchase and you want to make sure you made the right purchase. But I really think you look great – no funny shape at all! Your fiancee will definitly be impressed!!
Post # 7
first of all, No, I dont think your dress looks too formal. having the light beading relaxes it so its not stuffy.
Second, its GORGEOUS. and you look AMAZING in it.
Thirdly, i completely understand. i ordered my dress 2 weeks ago now and have been 2nd guessing myself like no other. to the point where i had heart burn. i ordered a zip up dress with a lace up back instead without actually seeing the back of my dress (the smaple was several sizes too small). I wrongly assumed that the dress had a high back that was straight across.
After finally finding my dress online, i have realized that my dress has a v-back that actually dips a bit low. I am hoping that my design change doesn’t come back looking awful. I wont get my dress until August. I have plenty of time to stew in my own juices….
I also believe that wedding related stress is manifesting itself in your attire. seriously. you felt like it was the one then? It will be the one when it comes back. Just like the previous poster said.
And No, your shape looks fine. you’re just paranoid! Stop looking at pictures. there are other wedding things to focus on, switch focus. breath…..it will be ok!
(please feel free to copy and paste this exact comment when i freak out on the boards in 6 months, lol)
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! I felt so ridiculous to put up the post, but just putting this out there has made me feel a lot better already.
GetMarried4Less – I will be there for you when your dress comes in 🙂
I am putting the wedding magazines and dress pictures away ………..