Wedding Dress Bought for prior engagement

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you buy a new dress?
    Yes- New man, new dress : (18 votes)
    30 %
    No - I'd wear the dress. I loved it then and I love it now : (33 votes)
    54 %
    Yes - I feel like it's comparable to a man using the same e-ring from a broken engagement : (10 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    1197 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MrsWe:  I’ve never been in that situation, but I think I would still wear it?  as long as there isn’t too much emotional baggage attached to it, although I could see where things could get difficult.  

    Post # 4
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MrsWe:  Do you watch the Mentalist last episode where Wayne and Grace got married?

    Her previous engagement was broken but she kept the dress to give herself hope one day she would find true love

    the dress will ALWAYS be the dress

    Post # 5
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I know someone whow as in that situation and she wore it. She said that she bought the dress for herself and she was the one who liked it. She didn’t buy the dress according to her ex fiances tastes or with him or anything. Her ex-fiance never saw the dress so she felt like it didn’t really have that much to do with him at that point.

    Post # 6
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I think it would help if you thought of it this way… You bought the dress, for you (because you loved it, it looked great, etc.), why not? Just because the guy wasn’t the one, doesn’t mean that the dress isn’t either. If you love it, rock it. Do what makes you happy 🙂

    Post # 7
    4138 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Well… I mean, the dress was the one, even if he wasn’t. But still, I’m a bit over sentimental over things like that and I probably would have gotten rid of the dress long ago. I dont think there’s anything wrong with someone wearing it, but I personally would probably not. 

    Post # 8
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    No WAY would I wear a dress from a broken engagement!

    I think it’s kind of like a man re-using an e-ring, personally…

    Post # 13
    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I might, if I still really loved the dress.

    This topic came up not too long ago with some friends of mine and my MOH said she would NEVER because she thinks the dress would be cursed for failure. She really said she would do whatever it took to bring good luck to her marriage. In her words she would not “take the chance”…like if anything happened she would blame it on the dress?! I don’t really feel that way myself but she really felt stongly about it.

    Post # 14
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MrsWe:  I definitely am! And I think it wouldn’t matter HOW much I loved my dress, I’d see it and think of my ex EVERY time! And that would be seriously horrible.

    Post # 16
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m actually in this situation.  I was previously engaged, am ecstatic that we never got married, but have a dress in a closet at my mom’s house from it.  I love the dress and if it suits our wedding, then I will absolutely wear it.  My mom was the only one with me when I found it, although I shared pictures with several close friends and family members.  I have no connection from the dress to my ex, because he never saw it or had anything to do with it.  If I do choose to use it, I will absolutely not tell Mr. S though, because even though I am able to put the connection out of my mind, I’m not sure he would.  He met my ex when we were still together and I wouldn’t want that to be on his mind or hurt his feelings.

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