(Closed) Wedding dress buyers remorse / guilt?! Help, please!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Well…I think the dress looks lovely on you! It really shows off your beautiful figure, and the bodice is so soft and pretty!

I think if you make the skirt poofier, you’ll lose the figure-flattering shape that the dress has right now.  Plus, yes–it will be pricy to alter. You’re basically asking them to redesign the entire skirt. I think you’d do it, spend the money and regret it when you see what a fuller skirt does. 


Post # 4
3588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@camigliotta:  You’ve got a great figure so will likely look good in anything. I like the dress you chose, it’s pretty.

Here’s what I like about it:

pretty, floaty chiffon or organiza fabric.It’s a classic A-line but also it’s trendy with light ruffles, side ruching, and a little sparkle on the bodice. So–you’ve got a mix of on trend and classic.

Post # 5
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@camigliotta:  Honestly, the bodice of the dress is gorgeous but not a fan of the way the ruffles fall on the skirt of this dress. It looks way too trendy for my tastes. But if you love the dress, GO FOR IT! ๐Ÿ™‚ I think the dress would be so much gorgeous if it didn’t have the ruffles that go diagonally and the skirt was more of a ballgown shape or a-line with no ruffles but maybe with embellishments to match the bodice in the skirt. I agree with PP that you have a great figure and you could pretty much wear whatever you want! Good luck!

Post # 6
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that your dress looks FAB on you! I’m usually not a fan of ruffles but I like how unique they are on the bottom, it flows really well!

Post # 7
3372 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think your gown looks lovely on you. The design is not to my taste – I’m pretty anti-ruffles – but you have a great figure so it looks gorgeous on you.

Post # 8
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@camigliotta:  I love, love, love your dress, especially all the gold vine-like beading on the rucheing. I also like the way the ruffles are done — you rarely ever see that kind of style. You made a good choice. Just because you made a fast choice doesn’t mean it was a bad one. You wouldn’t have gotten it if it didn’t look fabulous on you.


Here was my situation if you’d like to read:

I was in a situation where I HAD to get a gown quickly. Because I was visiting family out of state (I only do it twice a year) to look for a dress with my mom, I only had a few days to shop for one — to either buy a sample dress or find a store where I could get one off-the-rack, and quickly ship it home for my wedding on June 1.

I am a girly-girl but I do not like the process of repeatedly trying on wedding gowns. They are heavy, bulky, and a lot of work to go through just to see if looks right or will need hundreds of dollars in alterations. I also don’t like the fact that you have to deal with a gown attendant when you look for a dress.

Honestly, in my opinion, there are very few wedding gowns that aren’t attractive. I liked almost all of the dresses I tried on. The one I bought felt right and more importantly, was incredibly flattering on me.

There could have been other dresses that looked better on me somewhere or were more beautiful, but I’m just not willing to spend all that time on looking for a dress that might or might not be out there. I’m already panicked and emotional about the big day as is.

I only went to one bridal gown store, and even if I wasn’t short on time, that is how I would have done it. I just wanted something that looked great and felt great.


I hope you feel that way about your gown, because if I were you I would!

Post # 9
8696 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

The dress looks gorgeous ON you. I do not like the style of the dress but not everyone will like your dress.

I hate these posts because you have already purchased the dress and it seems like it would not be easy for you to just go out and buy another dress without blowing your budget. I say you keep the dress. Btw, you can make the skirt poofier without alterations. 

Post # 10
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@camigliotta:  first of all, I love the dress on you. It is very flattering and you’ve got a stunning body. 


With regards to the poofiness… I think the skirt has just enough poof to not look crazy, but that just might be my opinion. If you want more, you could always try it on with a different petticoat. It is amazing what difference that would make, and it is a lot cheaper than alterations!

I know where you’re coming from about having some level of remorse after buying a dress too quickly. I only went to two appointments and bought one of the dresses I tried on in my first appointment. Like you, I didn’t have the classic “OMG I love this dress *cry*” moment, but I still love the dress. 

I have come to realise that not everyone has that moment and that it is perfectly okay and even normal. We get socialised to believe that the wedding day is so important and the dress is the most important aspect of that day, but quite honestly it’s one day and the purpose is to marry your best friend and spend a lifetime together. When thinking about it in that way, I would be happy to wear a dress made of stapled together brown paper bags if it meant I could be with him!

Good luck!

Post # 11
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I truly think it is gorgeous. Try it on again, in a less rushed environment, with your full-on best makeup and shiniest hair and tallest heels, and pretend like you’re walking down the aisle to meet your sweetie. I hope that will help you feel like it IS your dress, and that you made the right decision. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
25 posts

You have a great figure and look great in the dress!! I actually feel the dress would look better as more of a mermaid/trumpet that is less full and lets the organza on the skirt look less stretched and instead more floaty. I know this isn’t what you had dreamed of, but with your great curves I think you can totally pull it off. The reason the dress looks funny right now is that  the skirt is being worn withat crinoline that’s the wrong shape.  


Bottom line you could sell this one and try to start over, or try to make this dress the best it can be which means making it the shape that the designer perhaps intended.

Post # 13
1159 posts
Bumble bee

I actually really like your dress.


Post # 14
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s beautiful. And as someone who only tried on 6 dresses, in one trip, and bought immediately, I say try to just breathe and let it go. You didn’t make a mistake. There are probably hundreds of dresses out there that would look great (or better!) on both of us, but it’s only asking for trouble to feel like the grass is greener all the time.

You didn’t date all the men to find the right guy, you don’t have to try on all the dresses.

Also go read the before and after thread that always makes me feel so excited!

Post # 15
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@camigliotta:  i think its a beautiful dress…and I think it looks really good on you.


However lol I have had regret so I know how you feel. I’ll tell you a short version of my experience, maybe it will help you decide.


I bought my dress 18 months ago (the first one), took a few people with me, this was only the 2nd place I had gone too. I liked it, didn’t love it, but it was in my *budget* and did look good on me. We had to change our original date due to finanaces and a few other things…so when we reset a date this past dec (a full year after I had bought the first dress) MAJOR dress dislike set in. I fought it for 3 months then finally caved and went shopping and found the dress I am wearing in 22 days lol


What I know is:

if your not happy…and you have permission you should sell current dress and look for something else. Had I known about the second hand market I might have looked there for the second dress (I knew about it, but not like I do now).


I made the mistake of not taking into account for alterations on the new dress, HUGE mistake. This overshot my budget by about 25%…I’m already struggling to pay for the wedding, that was just a kick in the pants.  Had I thought of that I would have looked for something else, or kept the first dress and spent the $ I spent on the new one to alter it (first dress was $620, sold for $350 brand new, new dress was $1000, alterations are $425! ๐Ÿ™ )

It was dumb, but Its far too late for me now to change my mind or do anything about it.


Its def a tough call for you…but if your not happy weigh your options, list pros and cons…some women are able to make peace with first dress, while others do not and end up in a better sitch and others even worse than before lol


My only saving grace is I know once our day is over in a few weeks I’ll have current dress up for sale and I’ll recoop some of that $ ๐Ÿ˜‰


GL to you! <3

Post # 16
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I actually think your dress is stunning in you, and I really don’t see how anything could look any better because this is perfect.

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