Post # 1
Hi all! Just wanted to say that though this is my first post, I have spent hours on this site and love the community here 🙂
Anyway, being that my wedding is July 30, 2011 I feel like im in a time crunch as I still don’t know if I’ve found “the dress”. I have tried on over 100 of almost every style and cut and only one has stood out to me- San Patrick’s “Calaf”. It’s different, I love the one shoulder strap, it’s feels as light as a t-shirt and even has a few feathers at the bottom.
The dilemma being this- I simply don’t know if this is it. I tend to overthink, overanalyze everything and don’t know if I’m being too picky or if I should keep looking. I will say that I had that gut feeling that it was the dress. But I can’t help to think that it felt so good on only because I really disliked 15 dresses I tried on right before.
Anyway, sorry to ramble but can anyone relate? How did you really know it was your dress? I just read a few posts on dress regret and I think that’s my worst fear with this whole wedding process.
(I’ve also searched for forums for brides to be in this dress and can’t find anything. Has anyone tried this on? thoughts? photos?)
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Post # 3
what is your venue? time of day? where are you getting married?
Post # 4
It’s a beautiful gown! I can totally relate to this. I actually bought a gown yesterday and went back today to exchange it for the other dress I was debating on. I am so indecisive as well so it was hard for me to decide. One of my friends that got married in April said this was totally normal. She also didn’t feel like she put on a dress that was “the ONE.” She picked the one that she felt like was the best. I did the same.
Post # 5
This dress looks stunning! It’s very different and modern. Would be great to see you in it, but I know salons usually don’t let you take pictures until you commit to buy.
I just picked out my dress two weeks ago and I can totally relate over the stress of picking THE ONE, since the dress choice has become such a monumental thing for a bride. I am also a very indecisive person and typically spend insane amount of hours researching the options before any type of important purchase I make (OCD a little :))). I have waited a long time for the engagement, so I had many years to look at hundreds of different dresses online. I was very nervous to go to the store, because I thought I would also have to try on hundreds of gowns before I committed. I went alone first and tried on about 8 dresses, of which 4 I really liked. In my mind I had a front runner, but I needed some confirmation. The next day I brought my mom and sister to help me make a decision. They immediately nixed the first two. Then it was between two remaining ones. The one I hadn’t even given much thought to became a favorite of my sister, and after really looking at it, I was basically ready to get it, over the one I thought I liked best the day before. I already asked the salesperson to doublecheck on the dates for delivery and everything. Then my mom asked me to try on the other one again one last time, just to be sure. When I walked out in it, my mom burst into tears before I even got on the pedistool! I knew right then that I had to go with that one. My sister was all smiles too and flashing some thumbs up. Although I was surprised that I didn’t have the “OMG! This is IT! This is THE DRESS! Tears…” moment, since I get pretty emotional when things move me, I thought the dress looked great on my body and it was just simply a stunning dress. For me, the most important part was that not only I liked it, but my mom and sister thought I look great in it, because sometimes you really need an objective eye, especially since I won’t be looking at myself–they will. 🙂
After I bought it and went home, I started having doubts… Started second-guessing my decision to go with this one and not the other one… Then I looked at my pictures in it (probably a thousand times) and remembered my mom’s reaction to it and all was well again. I think some girls simply do not have that teary-eyed feeling about their dress, so it is completely ok if you don’t either. I think you should go with your gut feeling that this one may be right for you and then stop looking at other dresses thinking that maybe you should’ve gone for another one. Go with the one that looks great on you, that you feel good in, and if your family members or friends think it looks beautiful on you, then that is your confirmation that you should definitely get that one.
Sorry for the long post, but hope this helps a little.
Post # 6
Momma- the wedding is on Lake Michigan at a (dare I say) camp. It’s such a unique venue, very private, hidden back behind little cabins so it doesn’t have the camp feel. It is more of a lodge along the whole back side doors and windows overlooking Lake Michigan. It has a 30ft wide, half-wrap around deck right on the dunes. Ceremony at 4 cocktails at 5 dinner at 5:30-6.
Kissa- glad to know I’m not alone on the whole indecisiveness 🙂
BalticBee- i don’t have a posed photo since my consultant was so strick on the no photo policy! Though, she did leave to go get a veil which then my friend snapped on from her phone. Not the best and I’m sitting. ha!
I’m totally envious of your experience, being able to bring your mom and sis in for their opinion. I found “Calaf” at a store in San Diego (where I live) and was in Michigan for the holidays with family. I went dress shopping my mom and sis hoping I’d find one with them, I couldn’t get that darn dress out of my head. But when I went back, it just wasn’t how I remembered it. oh decisions, decisions!!
Post # 7
I think the bottom of this dress is really beautiful. I’m going to try on this dress.
At first, before going to salons i thought i’d look good with one shoulder strap, but it occured- i didn’t 😉 so for me this dress would be better without it. But u look really nice with it!
How much does this model cost?
My favourite dress from 2011 collections is la sposa dalmacia, but i don’t know if i can afford it 😉 altough i love this one so much!
anyway, i’d try on another dresses from pronovias group, maybe i’d find something a little cheaper;))
sorry for mistakes, but i’m not from us 😉
Post # 8
OMG even sitting you look amazing in that! You have a great figure! Lol – I didn’t even read the first post, just looked at that gown and then the picture of you sitting, so I’m going back to read your OP. Just had to let you know that it looks really nice on you 🙂
ETA: okay, read the post! Dress regret is tough, that’s true. But I think if you’ve been through a ton of gowns and keep coming back to this you should go for it. Getting that ‘omg this is the dress’ feeling is one of those things that people always talk about but doesn’t really happen for everyone. Sounds like you have a gut feeling for this one and honestly, even with a blurry, sitting cell phone pic I can tell you’ll be stunning in that 🙂
Post # 9
Oh my gosh, you look stunning in that dress! It is flirty and the color goes well with your skin tone! Not everyone looks good in pure white!
Your venue is different and so is your dress. Not everyone can pull off this dress. It’s a show stopper. I can see you now flitting around the deck! Your dress will swish. Go girl. You’ve got the body. This dress was made for you. Honest and truly. Don’t second guess.
What a great dress for that venue!! It is a breathtaking taking gown, really!!
If your friends are not on board, too bad. They could never wear this dress. It is made for a specific figure. You need a long waist, a long neck, a ballerina body, and that’s what you have. Do not settle for something more traditional and expected.
Your venue will be a surprise and a refreshing change from the usual expected reception. So will your dress.
Please keep this one! Wear bling in your hair or a bird cage veil. I like your hair tied back the way it is in the photo. Your dark hair really compliments the dress and you could do it back with a vintage style with either bling or bird cage.
I wouldn’t wear anything at the neck because the strap and your neck and face should be the focal. Don’t do anything to distract your beauty. A little something at the wrist and a surprise ankle bracelet would be great. Or shoes that have the a very thin strap around the ankle with a tiny platform would be so perfect. This is not a dress for pearls. It calls for soft red lipstick….
The reason you are second guessing is that you are a little nervous to step outside the parameters of the expected. This is a dramatic dress. It is not for a pollyanna girl. You are the type of girl who may try on a ball gown, but with pockets because you want that little something different. So go all the way! The reason you are second guessing is because it is different; and, you are worried you don’t have the guts to do something counter traditional and it may feel safer to be more traditional….but underneath that is not you! You didn’t like any of the other dresses because they were not YOU!! bUT, You are worried your man will think “what the heck is that she is wearing?!” instead of “my beauty, my girl, my beloved looks hot in that dress!” Be free honey. He’ll love you in it. HOnest. It’s a classic made for a specific body type….yours.
I’m so excited for you!! Please tell us your decision!! I am waiting with baited breath!! Say YES to this dress.
Post # 10
this dress is gorgeous!
dress regret is tricky. you can’t overthink your choice, and it’s true that not everyone gets that say yes to the dress type of reaction. if you keep thinking about the dress at random times, that’s a good sign it’s your dress. listen to your gut!
Post # 11
Oh wow! I agree, even sitting this dress looks amazing on you. Of course, don’t pick this one just because we think you look great. 🙂 But I also think that the fact that you keep thinking about this one your mind is already made up. P.S. My fiance agrees that it looks great on you. ;))