Post # 1
Bought a wedding dress… LOVE it. BUT… mom hates it. And now every now and again I have a pang of guilt like that I shouldn’t have bought it without her. She came to my first fitting and never once said she thought I looked beautiful or anything. I just wanted that moment with my mom. I hate doubting my choice, especially since it’s the dream dress… Thoughts on the situation?
Post # 3
I think you look beautiful! And I think your mom is being selfish. This is your wedding, she’s your mom and you obviously love her but she needs to support you and be happy for you right now.
Post # 4
When I first became engaged, my mother lived in a different state and could not travel due to her having fallen and broken a bone, so she was not able to come with me when I selected my gown. When she saw it on me months later when she and my dad were visiting, I could tell that she did not like my dress. I was disappointed and really didn’t know what to do, since I obviously had no time to order another gown.
I asked her what her concerns were, and she told me, so I addressed her primary issue (that the skirt was too full) by having the salon remove the top later of crinoline. She felt better after I did that.
Do you know what your mother dislikes about your dress (which is beautiful, by the way.)
Post # 5
You look amazing! And I really like that dress!! My mom was really critical when I was picking out dresses and she’s the reason I didn’t get this one I loved from DB. So when I picked out the actual dress (custom made so I hadn’t really “tried it on”) I brought a close friend who is also a certified Wedding planner and only after that did I show it to my mom.
Post # 6
@Brielle: I’m not totally sure. She’s always saying my tastes a too mature for my age and she likely thinks the dress is too “old” for me. *gasp! it has sleeves!* She also thinks the skirt is too plain. These aren’t exactly things I can fix really. But I let her pick out my veil (even though I wasn’t keen on it)… and I hope this changes her attitude about the whole thing. Thanks for the feedback!
Post # 7
@AmandaCaputo: I love your dress! Do you think your mum might be expressing something else, for example the fact she wasn’t with you (and really it wouldn’t have mattered what dress you picked she would still say she didn’t like it because she wasn’t there when you picked it?). I think weddings are a really emotional time for everyone, and sometimes mums don’t express this in the best way and pick on something. You will look beautiful on your wedding day. I think it could help to have a coffee with your mum and tell her that it was important to you that she like your dress and see what she says.
Post # 8
I think you look beautiful!
Not every bride has that experience with their mom. I didn’t either and I see it not happen pretty often on Say Yes to the Dress.
Post # 9
I’m a stylist and I love it (although one tip: a wide belt would be even more flattering and make it just a hint more modern – think “modern vintage” instead of just “traditional”). Don’t let your mother change your mind. And, if you can, explain to her that you love it and that it makes you feel exactly the way you want to on your wedding day. If she can’t get on board it’s on her. Good luck!
Post # 10
@clairetoebemarried: I was going to suggest adding a wider belt too 🙂
Post # 11
@AmandaCaputo: I love your dress! It’s not my style, but I think you look great! Maybe your mom can help you pick out other accessories? For example, if you decide to add a thicker belt or if you haven’t chosen all of your jewelry yet…. But I really wouldn’t regret this dress choice because you look fantastic! I love the sleeves 🙂 So elegant!
Post # 12
It’s so regal and elegant! Once your mother sees you the day of your wedding she will forget that she didnt like it. She will just see how happy and beautiful you look!! And you will be happy with the choice you made, and not with what people wanted you to pick. I found my dress alone on online…I wanted the choice to me only mine. My family was not too pleased but at the end of the day…its my dream dress and my wedding. You should feel the same. J