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    Karlipants    August 3, 2012   Denville, NJ

    Hi Bees!

    I could really use some support right now... My family is coming into town this weekend to help me find a wedding dress... They live in CT and I live in NJ... I am SO nervous. I weight 150-155 and i'm 5'4".  I REALLY wanted to lose a lot more weight by the time that I went to try on dresses but several things held me back.. Since last year I lost about 10-15 lbs.. This September I started a weekly regime to get myself in shape... Eating 5 times a day, lots of fruits and veggies... Then my fiance and I experienced a tradgedy which kept me away from the gym and off the diet for the past 2 months... I really want to get started again... But I'm nervous that I just won't be able to do it.. And now i'm so upset that I haven't lost the weight that I wanted to and I'm going to try on dresses in 2 days... I have 8 months to lose 25 lbs... I'm a size 10 in jeans (tight American Eagle)...  I really wanted a lace dress, sort of loosely fit... But i'm worried that my stomach flab will show.. and i'm worried that if there is an open back my flab will hang over the top of the dress.. :(  I feel so silly telling this to all of you!!  Anyways, here are some questions I have...

     

    My first question is... Has anyone the same size as me been to try on dresses?? What was it like?  Could you fit in the sample sizes??

     

    My second question is... Has anyone been able to lose 25 lbs in 8 months before their wedding??

     

    I know I shouldn't stress about it... I know there are other things to stress about when it comes to a Wedding... But this is so important to me... 

     
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    Bella88    June 30, 2012   Germany

    hmmm......i think most brides are trying to loose some weight..including me of course

     

    i have not lost such in such amount..i hope you can...and i dont think your that out of shape no not wear that dress..wear nice spanx that will give you help you with the shape...

     

    dont be stressed ...itll be fine

     
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    tera7363    November 13, 2011   Horseheads, NY

    yep, it seems like most brides are trying to lose weight.  I'm 5ft 4in & when I got my dress I weighted 140 lbs but wanted to get down to 120 for the wedding.  I was 132 for the wedding & just those 8 lbs made huge difference in the fit of my dress & I had to get it altered again grrrr. Anyways, the bra I wore was long & past my belly button & it really smoothed me out b/c I felt like my belly was loose.  So, you may feel better once you are all dressed & also spanx do work wonders...

     

     
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    jagboo33    March 17, 2012  

    I think its natural for every bride to want to lose weight. I too said I was going to lose 10lbs before I went to try on dresses and I didn't. It didn't ruin my experience at all. I do think you need to be aware that bridal sizes run CRAZY. One designer you can be a size 10 and the next one you will be a 14 or even 16, they tend to run small..and some run REALLY small. The sample sizes are typically a 10-12 but the size you order is not whats going to matter. What matters is how you feel in the dress and through trying them on you will find out which style works best for your body. Try on one in every style and go from there... you will find your dress. Once you do, that motivation will kick in! GOOD LUCK AND DON'T WORRY..ENJOY IT!

     
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    KarenA    August 4, 2012  

    I'm a size 8 but was a 10 when I went shopping and there were a few dresses I couldn't get done up but most of them did fit. Some had to be pinned or clipped or held together for me to get a good idea of what they would look like. Overall I didn't have many problems finding dresses that fit. If you go to David's Bridal (tho they have horrible customer service) they have dresses in most sizes so that might be a good place to start for confidence building.

    Also, as for losing weight, I haven't done much differently diet-wise, I usually eat fairly healthy but I've doubled my water intake and that has made a TON of difference! I lost 10 lbs just from doing that. I don't know how much water you drink but it might be worth a thought.

     
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    future_mrs.burns    August 4, 2012   Oregon

    I'm a 12/14 (American Eagle Boot) the 12s are tight and the 14s are baggy. The dress I bought is a 16 with a lace up back. I was slightly small when I got it 3 months ago, that's why I went for the lace up back. one thing I found helped the tummy pouch is a dropped waist with boning to help smooth.

    my dress is:
    http://www.morilee.com/bridals/bridal/2189

    it is very slimming :)

    About the weight loss, I have lost 26 lbs in 8 months, but for 4 of that I wasn't loosing, too busy! for the last 2 months I've been doing weight watchers and have lost 10 lbs. Its possible and if done healthy it will last.

    Hope it helps :)

     
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    jules0580    March 24, 2012   PA

    I felt the same exact way as you had.. I gained alot of weight in the past year after breaking my Knee on vacation lasst year and not being able to exercise..I kept putting off trying on dresses because I wanted to lose weight.. Im heavier than you.  I went to try them on and they have A million that fit me..and they all looked great.. and you will look great too! I told my friends that if all clothes were as figure flattering as wedding dresses Id spent alot of money on clothes..I couldnt believe how flattering all the styles were and I am usually very hard on myself.. believe me.. so I was super nervous.. but I was happy with them all and you will be too.. just relax and have fun easier said then done i know..but after you put the first one on you will feel like a million bucks!

     
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    BerthaToBe    September 13, 2012  

    My wedding is still far away, but losing weight is def. in my plans. It's kinda of normal thinking in this way, and it's not supposed to ruin your mood to try the dresses on, just go ahead, and the profession in the bridal stores will give you ideas.

     

     
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    szaerpoor    June 23, 2012  

    I think 25 pounds in 8 months can be done, and it can be done very healthily.  That's 3 pounds a month.  I don't know about everyone else, but something that really really helps me with a large goal (weight loss or otherwise) is to set small definable tasks.  25 pounds sounds like a lot, 3 pounds a month sounds like less, 1 pound a week with a 1 week buffer every month sounds even more manageable.  Plus, it sounds like you had success before!  And as for the dresses, don't worry, there is a right dress out there for you.  It makes such a HUGE difference.  I'm a pretty petite person, and I have put on dresses that make me look really fat and unattractive.  Another thing I'd recommend, is that you find someone really good for alterations.  It makes such a huge difference to make small changes.  For example, back fat can be addressed by altering the back of the dress to make it dip down lower, so that the edge begins at a part of your back that is more lean.  Don't stress, and enjoy this time!  

     
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    lawschool bride    August 13, 2011  

    I'm 5'4'' and a bit heavier, and about a size 14/16.  When I went dress shopping, the first place I went to had the worst customer service and only let me try on discontinued dresses in my size.  I found out later that places have clips and whatnot so you can try on dresses, even ones to small for you.  The second place I went to, the customer service was much better, and I tried on every dress I wanted to, even the ones that weren't my size.  You'll be just fine!

    25lbs in 8 months is totally doable.  (I'm a seasoned dieter, just not so good at keeping the weight off after a while). Good eating + a good workout schedule is really the best way, and you'll be fine.  I second the recommendation for weight watchers, its the most realistic.  Good luck!

     
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    Bubalou    May 27, 2012   Houston

    I'll bet you can lose 25 lbs in 8 months.  It's really only 3-4 pounds a month.  Totally doable.  Even if you made small changes like cutting out all beverages but water you'd see a difference, especially if you drink a lot of sodas!  Good Luck!!

     
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    radiolassie82    October 20, 2012   Rockledge, FL

    Don't fret. My mother lost 47 lbs in 10 mos. I think you can do 25 in 8. Weight watchers worked for her.  From what I've heard in my own wedding dress shopping, alterations don't usually start until 6 weeks from the date. Also, it's easier to buy big and take in than buy small and let out.  All else fails, just get some spanx. :)  I hear they work wonders. Would probably help you visually during your shopping sessions too. Flattening or taking in what isn't quite there yet, but will be.

     

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