Wedding Dress NIGHTMARE !!! Actual disaster wedding is in 6 weeks !

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think you’d be surprised what a good seamstress can do.  I would go with the store dress and have them alter it. I would absolutely positively NOT pay for the alterations- they should have to cover that.

Post # 4
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

i would contact the manufacturer directly and see what they can do…also try on some other dresses to see if there is anything else that you like And will work out for you.

It might not be what you have envisioned, but when it comes down to it, wearing something that you had to get last minute is hopefully the worst thing that will happen, but it’s not the worst that CAN happen.

Chin up!!! Let us know what happens!

Post # 5
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014


If your dress took around 6 months to come in, I wouldn’t trust them to rush it in within 6 weeks.

You could risk altering the sample, but do you think you’d be happy with the final result, and do you think it could be finished on time?  Sounds like you have your heart on this dress, but is there anything else in store you like? Maybe the sales person can recommend a dress that’s easier to alter? A beautifully tailored dress in ivory might be better than your dream dress sloppily altered and in the wrong colour.  

Finally, I don’t know what kind of refund you should get but I’d have your mother negotiate it because you sound stressed, and I’d emphasize how big a mess this is.  The shop really screwed you over.

Post # 6
2560 posts
Sugar bee

I totally think you are entitled to a refund. [content moderated due to violation of TOS: discussion of replica dress sellers]  I’d demand a full refund and start from scratch but time is not on your side. I would not accept a used sample gown altered to fit unless there was significan financial compensation.

Post # 7
498 posts
Helper bee

Missjan2015:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this. [content moderated for violation of TOS: discussion of replica dress sellers] If yes, then I also agree with canadajane  about getting someone else to negotiate a refund. Maybe your dad or mum? It’s hard to negotiate effectively when you’re emotional. 

I wonder if there any way a seamstress could take the skirt off the sample and attach it to the top of the new dress? 

I hope it all works out for you! 

Post # 8
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Oh no you poor thing.  I really just want to sympathise and hope you get sorted out.  

Post # 10
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

What about finding a fantastic pair of shoes?  Play up some killer heels and enjoy it.  Maybe strass a pair with pearls instead? 

Post # 11
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I am so, so, SO sorry you are going through this. You poor thing!!! Shame on them for ignoring your concerns 🙁 I would really fight to get at LEAST 50% back, especially considering you have an email confirming that they ignored your request!! They didn’t give you the dress you wanted, that is all on their shoulders. You shouldn’t have to pay for a dress that isn’t like what you wanted! 


Now. Something has to be done. Cry it out, vent, mourn your lost dress, and perk up because you’re about to marry your favorite person in the world and nothing matters as much as that! 


Yes, play up the shoes? Look for a new dress in record time? Hunt on pre-owned wedding dress sites and see if you can find a gorgeous dress on a tall woman? 

What about having them add layers of tulle underneath, and potentially cutting some of the top layers, to make it look intentionally layered & slightly fuller? 


GOOD LUCK, I am so sorry, they messed up MAJORLY and I hope you can get someone on your side to fight them on this!! sending good vibes you too x

Post # 12
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Missjan2015:  can we see you in the dress Id like to see how it lays on you and how short it is

Post # 13
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m so so sorry to hear that this happened to you! Ugh, it’s the worst when pepole are unreliable. 🙁

Can you rush a new dress from BHLDN? They have some similar styles and some Watters gowns. Or maybe J.Crew?

Post # 14
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Missjan2015:  I am absolutely fuming on your behalf.  FUMING!  A tiny bit of professionalism on the part of the shop, and this shouldnt have happened.  If they dont take sufficient steps to address this I would be looking to see if legal action would be feasible.  Gawdam and you’re in such a remote part of the world too.  (I was in south island last year).

HAve a look on j.crew and bhldn websites.  They have super helpful customer service agents who would help you out and see if their dresses might suit your height.    

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