(Closed) Wedding dress nightmare (it's a long post!)

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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964 posts
Busy bee

Oh sweetheart a big hug first.

The one thing I can say is you are in good hands with JSB.  Are you working with James?  They made my daughter’s dress and it’s just fantastic.

Can you post a picture of the dress you decided on.
 

 

 

 

Post # 5
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1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m sorry you’re having such a rough time. I’m glad you decided to go with Jasmine’s; I have also heard good things about the website (though I did not use it myself.)

My mom can be really harsh too and it really hurts my feelings. I went dress shopping by myself and besides pictures, nobody has seen me in the dress. I’m nervous because my mom is so opinionated but hopefully she likes it.

 

 

Post # 6
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220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh I’m so sorry it’s been rough for you! Both dresses are beautiful though 🙂

Post # 7
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964 posts
Busy bee

Both dresses are beautiful don’t worry James will guide you as to what is achievable.

There is a thread dedicated to JSB. It’s great for support and advise and just knowing that everyone is going through the same uncertainties.

The main thing is you will have a dream dress designed and custom made just for you and you will be beautiful bride.

Sorry I don’t know how to post the link:  

Jasmine’s Bridal Shop / China dresses

 

Post # 8
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382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh my goodness, that sounds awful! I sympathize, I am doing almost all of my planning from a distance, from Taiwan, but it doesn’t even compare to some of the hardships you have faced! I’m so sorry to hear it all!

On another note, James at Jasmine’s will make you feel SO much better! He is SO helpful, and the company has been AMAZING to me. I have no doubt that you will look incredible in your dress!

I also think it is time to stop listening to your mother, or at least put your foot down and tell her how awful she is making you feel. I did this with bridal lingerie (my mom offered to buy it for me, but then called everything I liked trashy. I calmly told her how awful that made me feel, and she immediately cried, told me she was so sorry, and offered to get me anything I needed). If your mom doesn’t back down, then I think you need to just get what you want! 

Post # 9
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I ordered my dress from aliepress.com they are in china as well.their prices are outstandig and will make them custom made for no additional cost if you desire–u just send measurements.got a fabulous dress for less than$150…in davids bridal it was 800….good luck

Post # 10
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m sorry you’ve had such a difficult time with no support from those closest to you. How does your fiancée feel about your dress disaster? Was the original dress out of your budget, or just more than you guys wanted to spend on a dress? I would not even ask your mother for her opinion any longer. You and her obviously have different taste, and she seems very negative. I would go ahead and get the dress I wanted. 

Post # 11
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I read your story and I understand you like nobody else probably. 

My situation was similar to yours. We were engaged for exactly two years, though with no date set for the wedding. When I was staying with my fiance at his parents’ house in France, we decided to get married (civil mariage) urgently with a religious ceremony and wedding ceremony/party a year or so later. The urgency was due to all that visa nightmare that we had to go through as a non-married couple (we are from different countries). 

So here I was, 3 weeks before the date, in a foreign country. I did not know WHERE i can get a dress, if I can get it altered, I did not speak French. It was a bit easier as I did not look for a ‘real’ wedding dress though. And of course I missed my mom and friends – I needed their support! So what I did: I went to every single shop where they had little white dresses. I took pictures in the fitting room and sent them out to my friends and family letting them comment. The dress I finally purchased was ‘approved’ by all of them (though I though it was an OK dress, I just had no time to look for a dress I’d love), and they told me ‘No worries, you will get a dress of your dream for the wedding party later”. However, a HUGE argument started when I bought the shoes. The shoes were my ‘dream’ shoes but they were black. My mom sent 15 emails (!!!) within a day saying that I MUST NOT WEAR BLACK SHOES. I cried… for the 15th time probably as I never felt as lonely as within those 3 weeks before the marriage. I showed the shoes to my future mother-in-law and she said they are beautiful. I felt though that she had the same thought as my mom, “Black, really?!”. At the end, I just thought… Whatever! Everything goes wrong, but the most important and the right thing is that I am going to get married to the best man in the world. So I took a deep breath and let it go. 

I am sure you will have a lovely dress from Jasmines. If you have any doubts, just post them in the topic highheel gave you the link to, and other bees will help you out. 

Post # 12
Member
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m so sorry that you’re feeling so isolated out there and you’ve had such a tough experience so far! The bee is such a wonderful, helpful group of people; I hope you can get some reassurance and comfort here!

Do you have pics of you in any of the dresses you tried on? That might help give us an idea of what looks good on you! The thing I’ve found with wedding dresses is that model pics, versus real life pics are 2 completely separate things.

Post # 13
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1999

Hello iseultful2013

 

I hope that you are ok?

 

I noticed that you are living in Newcastle – is this where you are getting married? I am aNortherner and am getting married in August next year and as silly as it sounds because you are in Newcastle I just wanted to reach out and cuddle you.

 

If you ever want to chat, please PM me (even if this sounds a bit silly considering I don’t know you please don’t be freaked out by it).

 

I goy my dress online and wholeheartedly recomend it because the quality is good the fit is brilliant and it was nice and inexpensive. You are the same size as me and I couldn’t fit into lots of dresses in shops – I mean whaaaaat? Really? Way to make a bride feel like a fatty. I went shopping in Cardiff and my experieence was horrid – thus the wimping out and buying online. My dress was £250.00 and it meant I didnt have to be condescended to by bridal shop people about having ‘an ample bust’.

 

Really dumb question – if you fancy a bit of moral support I am back up in Newcastle for Christmas if you fancy meeting up to go dress shopping/looking? Please don’t think me weird for doing this – I just know how it is to be in a place where you have nobody and feel alone and sad and like lumpen fool. I have several American friends (who I met during my Mastes in York) who had similar problems fo getting married/planning a wedding somewhere else where customs (though basically the same) are subtely different and it can all be rather alarming. Please please don’t think I’m an odd-ball for offering but your situation has struck a chord with me and beause I will be in Newcastle (given my family is from there) it might just work. Unless you think I’m a lunatic.

 

🙂

 

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