Wedding dress: Not one, not two but THREE!

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m more concerned by the fact that your reception runs well into dinner hours and you are not serving dinner to your guests.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I don’t think it will be crazy to have 3-4 dress changes. I’ve seen weddings with multiple dress changes before. Most of those brides managed it just fine, so you’ll likely be able to as well.

The only advice I have is to go with the flow and not worry too much about having to change into the other dresses. Focus on having fun and enjoying your wedding. If you for some reason can’t change your dress, don’t worry about it; having a good time with your husband, family, and friends is what’s most important. 

Are you going to do a recap? I would love to see all of the dresses you’ll be wearing.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

chxryl:  Assuming you’re Chinese, this is not unusual at all to have multiple dresses. Enjoy! make sure you don’t take too much time changing dresses – enjoy your wedding too.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

chxryl:  I think it’s a little unrealistic to have this many changes. Will you need to be bustled too? If so, this is probably going to take up more time than you are anticipating—especially if you are trying to maximize your time with your guests. 

Just so you know, it’s very possible to not do a first look (since you said you aren’t keen on it anyway) and still make it to your reception in a reasonable amount of time.  You can always schedule individual bride and groom shots with your respective families and wedding parties before the ceremony, then do a couple group shots afterwards, dismiss the wedding party and close photographed family into the reception and then complete your photos as a couple. This usually doesn’t take that long if everyone is cooperative and the photographer is on-time. Of course this also depends on how many people and shots you want photographed.

Plus, I’m assuming that you want your couple’s portraits in your ceremony gown any right? If that’s the case taking those photos in a separate first look dress wouldn’t make much sense or save time.

These are just things to consider before making your final decision. You might be able to cut down on one of your changes.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If you’re Chinese (which I’m guessing you are based on wearing a tradiitonal chinese dress), then no.  Part of a chinese wedding is for the bride to do multiple dress changes.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

franklymydearidont:  

depending where she lives, 7 isn’t that “well into dinner hour”. I know where I live there are lots of people who eat at 7 or 8pm. They can have appetizers at her reception and go home/out to eat dinner if they are still hungry!

To answer your question OP, I personally would think it’s too much to make so many dress changes, but if you really want to, it’s your decision! If you love the mori dress though , you should wear that one most! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

califlorican:  This is just bad etiquette all around. There are appropriate times to serve appetizers but it is NOT 6- 7pm. One can serve apps after lunch–starting at ~2-3pm or so or after dinner starting at ~7:30-8pm, but to serve only appetisers and have the reception run into the dinner hour is clearly bad etiquette. I see she is trying to do the after lunch, but the appropriate course of action would be to have the wedding earlier in the afternoon and not run into dinner. Or later, after dinner.

Some people eat dinner at 5. You might eat dinner at 8. Good for you. Most people eat dinner around 6 pm or so and that is traditionally considered the dinner hour. I wouldn’t be surprised if guests left early because they were hungry.

Your point doesn’t even stand to reason–if guests left her reception at 7pm, how likely is it that they would all be in and seated wherever they will eat in the next few minutes? I can tell you that’s not very likely. So yes, for all practical purposes, her reception leaves guests without dinner during the normal time people eat dinner. Her guests will most likely have to eat closer to 8pm if they don’t leave early.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It’s not unsual to have a lot of dress changes if you’re Chinese.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

  

franklymydearidont:  id like to ask a question: if her guests are served enough apps that they aren’t hungry why is that poor etiquette? Would it be better to serve a rubber chicken dinner than potentially a wide variety and numerous amounts of apps that appeals to a greater number of palettes?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

fscarlett:  Will they be served enough apps that they aren’t hungry? That’s a big question.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

OP’s question was about her dresses, not about her choice to serve appetizers at HER reception. It blows my mind that people are commenting on the etiquette of food being served at her reception when she’s not asking for anyone’s advice!! I get that this is an open forum but she posed a question about her dress in the “Dress” section. Not only that, but how can you say that it is bad etiquette when you don’t have all of the information such as the amount of food that she’s serving. 

 

OP, I think you should wear what you want. It’s your wedding and as long as you’re comfortable with the multiple dress changes (and realize the amount of time it could take), then go for it.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m chinese from Singapore, and brides usually have 3-4 dresses on their wedding day. One for the wedding ceremony, one for tea ceremony, two for reception (first being the gown from wedding ceremony or a completely different one). So I don’t think it’s crazy to change so many times! 

I wish I could have this many changes too! But I’m travelling to Singapore with my wedding dress and one is big and heavy enough. 🙁

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t think that having a dress change is a bad idea, but I would be worried that changing that many times would make it hard to enjoy your wedding. I would try to cut one change out. Maybe just stay in your Chinese dress until the end of the night?

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