Wedding Dress Panic (a month till the wedding)

posted 1 month ago in Dress
Post # 2
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2593 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

apracticalbride : I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way 🙁

Do you have any photographs of your dress?

Perhaps a few tweaks could really elevate it to something more in line with what you dreamed?

x

 

Post # 3
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3 posts
Wannabee

If you truly dont like the dress and feel like you wont be confortable on the day of your wedding…here is  my suggesiton…there are many sites to get very inexpensive dresses. ASOS has a bridal section, MODCLOTH and a I can give you a few others but I just have to think about it…to early in the morning. 

Be honest with your grandmother…she knows you best and will completely understand.  She too was a bride once and knows the stresses.  Take a piece of the dress your grandmother made and ask her to make it into a small bow or perhaps a a cut out heart and have her embroider yours and your fiancees name and your wedding date on it.   Then have it sewn inside the gown…where it will be forever.  This way you still have your grandmothers creation a part of the day.

Post # 4
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595 posts
Busy bee

apracticalbride :  Can we see the dress? 

It may not be as bad as youre thinking and maybe some fresh eyes will help you see where little adjustments can be made to make it what you want. 

Post # 5
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m sure I’ll be in the minority, because some of you bees are cold blooded when it comes to your weddings… But there is no way I’d have my poor grandma toiling away over a dress and then decide at the FINAL fitting, “sorry grandma, I don’t like it. Not wearing it”. I’d never treat my grandma that way… I’d just be underwhelming on my wedding day before I choose to do that.

Im sure there is something that can be done with this dress. It sounds like you chose a design that isn’t flattering for you, and your grandmother’s craftsmanship isn’t the problem. Tell her that you picked a bad design and you want to make some changes to the dress. Maybe add a layer of lace over the entire thing w/ an extended train. Or wear a tulle shirt over it. You didn’t give any details about the dress or post any pics, so I don’t know exactly what to suggest. Also did you try the dress, as is, with accessories? A veil makes every dress feel more bridal. 

Post # 6
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I agree that it’s impossible to judge without pictures. I agree with ReeluvsRo. I wouldn’t get another dress, because the fact that your GM made that dress for you is extremely sweet and sentimental.

Post # 7
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Could you post photos? Maybe it just needs a few touch-ups.

Post # 8
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Beach

Do you have pics? Is it possible for you to wear it for the ceremony and a few pics then maybe wear a 2nd dress for the reception? It sounds like your Grandmother worked really hard on it and would probably be a little hurt but I would suggest being honest and talking to her about the idea of changing into a reception dress after the ceremony.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think you should wear the dress.  It’s hard to say without seeing it, but try adding a fancy belt, jewelry and a kick-ass veil and see if it’s workable.

You can always purchase a party-dress for the reception that you’re excited about, that could be the best of both worlds.  Good luck!

 

Post # 10
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1999 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

At the end of the day it’s just a dress. It doesn’t have to be the most amazing thing that makes people gasp. But obviously you want to be happy in it. Show us pics, bees are great at this kind of thing! 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I would try my hardest to salvage grandmas dress. How sad for her to spend so much time on it I would imagine she would understand if you wanted something else but she would prob be sad inside. I also understand you wanting something else, but most things can be easily changed to be more interesting or expensive looking. Please post pics of the dress and some dresses or things you like that are inspiration for you so we can give suggestions! 

Post # 12
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Can you maybe take the dress to a different seamstress for suggestions or tweaks? Perhaps a fresh look from someone else might be just what you need to get the wow factor. Or a pretty sash or darling shoes?  

I’m sure you’ll be a gorgeous bride on your wedding day!! No matter what you decide. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I think it has huge potential. For starters I love the neckline and the lower half of the sleeves. The fabric looks beautiful. Very flowy. I think all the alterations you wish to make are spot on. Bet you when it’s all done you will feel quite different.

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