Post # 1
So this Friday I will be moving to another city, about a 12 hour drive away from home. It was a pretty sudden move, so all of our planning has gone into getting our home ready for rent, plus finding a home for rent, and some family stuff in betwee.
Originally we were going to get married in April of 2012, but have realised we would like to elope in Jamaica in November. Thing is, now I have to go wedding dress shopping alone, as I do not want to go with my fiance, I want it to be a total surprise, do not want to go with the only lady I know there, FSIL, since we have nothing in common, and aren’t close at all, and have no other friends there!!!
Has anyone gone alone, do you think it will be that bad?
Post # 3
It might be a little weird at first, but once the sales person realizes you are there to buy a dress, I think it will be fine.
My BFF bought her dress alone!
ETA: I think it will also help you pick out something you LOVE and not be influenced by others!
Post # 4
I went by myself the 3rd time and it was the best choice I ever made. I was able to take my own time and get strangers opinions. Strangers are more honest with you because they are not tied to you emotionally in anyway. I loved it.
Post # 5
@Cash000: I went by myself once. It wasn’t so bad in the beginning, because you could really communicate with the attendant about what you liked, and what you didn’t like. You also don’t have varying opinions in your way when you have a particular idea about your dress. Also, it’s nice if you have no idea what you want in the first place.
When I did have people with me on the occasion my aunt and friend came along, they were engaged in maybe the first 2 or 3 dresses I tried on. After that, I saw the boredom written on their faces. So, I think going alone has its merits. I also know where you’re coming from though.
I asked my mother over and over again if she’d like to come with me so that we could bond over the experience, but she kept flaking. That really stung. I won’t lie. It’s not an easy thing to go by yourself if circumstance has forced it upon you, but it’s not so bad once you get going with the gown shopping. It’s more efficient, to say the least.
Post # 6
I went with my sister once, with my best friend and mom once, and then by myself. Going by myself was the best decision! Everyone had so many different (opposite) opinions about what looked best. Going by myself allowed me to decide what I liked! I actually purchased my dress that day.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! You made me feel better. My fiance says I could just fly home, but I am very reluctant to take that out of our wedding/honeymoon fund!
@StuporDuck: Sorry about your mom, thats kinda sucky! Glad it all worked out anyways and you enjoyed the experience 🙂
Post # 8
I went alone and I actually liked it. No one else’s opinion to hinder your own, which was nice. When my best friend got married there were about 10 women she knew there and it made the dress decision very difficult. She finally decided she was done for the day and her and I went together.
I picked out my dress and then took my grandma with me (she paid for it), but I enjoyed trying on dresses that I LIKED rather than others saying “try this one” which is what happened to my friend, even though the styles they chose were nothing like what she was looking for.
I think you will be just fine, and if you want your friends to see a few different dress choices to let you know what they think, take your camera phone and text them to them. You may end up going back a few times, just so you can get the dress you want.
I sent a photo to my friend of two dresses I liked (since she is in another state) and she was honest about which one made me look the best, even in a crappy phone photo. It helped, but I really LOVED going alone. And, it’s a secret to EVERYONE until the wedding 🙂
Post # 9
Thanks! Yeah you are right, it probably will be more smooth sailing than anything. Guess I always just invisioned my sisters and mom being there, but oh well, they would probably just get on my nerves more than anything! haha.
Seems like everything will be done alone, even down to the marriage, since we only invited our moms, and my fiances mom can make it, but mine can’t for financial reasons. 🙁 I really wish we could pay for her, but unfortunetly can’t.
And you are right about everyone else not knowing what it looks like, totally a bonus, for your type of wedding. As for me, doesn’t matter anyways, since we are “eloping”!
Post # 10
I went with girlfriends sometimes and alone sometimes and I liked both. There is something to be said about seeing how you feel alone! Without any other opinions, and without wanting to please others…
Post # 11
I went alone, in the middle of the week and in the middle of the day and had the time of my life. I got to try on every dress in the store since the consultants were bored and I felt like a total queen for a day. I took myself out for a nice lunch and a pina colada. I will always cherish that memory of that perfect day, I know that it sound stupid, but I will.
Post # 12
The first time I went it was me, my sister/MOH, my mom, and another BM. It was pretty good and I ended up buying a dress that was on clearance and pretty nice. But I think my sister really influenced me on getting that one rather than to keep looking. Over the next several months the dress regret started creeping in and I went on my own with 2 specific dresses in mind to try.
I fell almost instantly in love with one of them and announced the next day (when we were all getting ready to go BM dress shopping) that I would also be purchasing another wedding gown. Really though, being able to just please yourself rather than a bunch of other people is very freeing!
Post # 13
@tksjewelry: I love your post about your perfect day! I have been reading these posts about wedding dress shopping alone because I have been debating about flying home and making a big weekend out of it or just going alone. During the middle of the day sounds perfect. I feel as a Wednesday fun day off work is right around the corner!
Post # 14
I went with my chief bridesmaid today for the first time but for any further dress excursions I will have to go alone – I’m not too worried about it as I had a really good experience today and I’m looking forward to trying on a few more dresses (even though I might’ve found my ONE dress today already).
Post # 15
I have gone by myself the third time out because I just wanted the decision to be made by me and only and what I wanted. It was the best decision I ever made! No people in the background saying there little commments I dont want to her..It was great!!!
Post # 16
I didn’t really enjoy dress shopping, but I found it more pleasant by myself. When I went with my mom, she kept going ga-ga over dresses I really disliked even though she theoretically liked the direction I wanted to go in, and asking the consultant really weird questions… I love my mom, but it was way easier to just take my opinions along and not have to worry about anyone else or try to have an emotional reaction to each dress.