Post # 1
Hi I just joined the site today and was hoping to get some peoples opinions. My wedding is June of next year and I am hearing I need to start looking for a dress soon. Unfortunately my brides maids are pretty tied up right now (1 in another state, one expecting her first child any day now, and 2 working 2 jobs right now so they litterally have 1 day a week off and it changes frequently). My mom and I are not on good terms and his mother who I am close with is also in another state. I made an appointment to look at dresses and the way things are going I don’t have anyone to take with me.
Is it ok to go alone to try on dresses for the first time? Has anyone else done it and did you eventually take other people with you after you found some you were undecided about to make that final decision? Did you buy one without anyone knowing and did you regret it later?
Post # 2
Similar to you I recently just joined the site, wedding is jul 2015, and no relatives or bridesmaid close by.
I am definitely planning on dress shopping alone. Some of the advice I read said to at least go alone once or twice to get an idea what you like or don’t like without being under influence.
Post # 3
MrsC2015: I am also getting married in June 🙂 I actaully went dress shopping alone and bought my dress without anyone there. My bridesmaids live 1 hour in a half away. My mother and I don’t talk and my fmil works alot. I feel that you get a feel for what you like and don’t have other opinons to fog up what you really want. Of course it’s nice to get some input. Sometimes I wish I would have had someone else there. I cried when I put my dress on. It’s so lovely. Now when I look at other dresses, I can’t picture myself in any other one than the one I have. If you can pick your fiancé out by yourself then you can pick your dress out by yourself. When the people at the dress store nag you to buy buy buy, tell them you have no money and are just browsing. That way you feel no pressure 🙂
Post # 4
MrsC2015: I’m also getting married in June.
My bridesmaids and family are all in the Boston area and I’m in DC. I did end up traveling up there to look with them twice (when I had already planned to visit). But while I was here I ended up asking two close friends from work to join me (not bridesmaids) – since I respected their opinion too.
Post # 5
MrsC2015: I’ve replied to a few of these posts but I was such a huge fan of wedding dress shopping alone that I love to share it. I went during the work week on my lunch hour and after work a few times and it was awesome. I didn’t go alone for the first trip, and honestly I’d probably feel a little weird going alone on a Saturday or Sunday when the place is packed with groups, but workday afternoons are seriously some of the best times to shop for dresses. You have the whole place to yourself, you don’t feel rushed (most times the consultant seemed excited to have something to do), you aren’t fighting for mirror space or waiting in the dressing room halfway dressed for a consultant to remember to come zip you up. They were also plenty patient to take photos for me, from multiple angles, they were really much more helpful than the consultants I experienced on the weekend trip with my mom and girls. It was also significantly more efficient, when I was shopping with the group I had to stay in dresses that I knew were a no while they looked them over, but by myself I could nix a dress in 5 seconds and move along. It’s also a lot easier to stay on budget when you don’t have people who don’t care about your financial situation pulling whatever dress they like and letting you fall in love with something out of your price range (I stilll think about this Lea Ann Belter that was like $2600…sigh). Post lots of photos of your dress search and the ladies here can be your shopping entourage 🙂
Post # 6
Jeez, I’d recommend going alone. There is nothing crazier or more unpleasant than having a bunch of different women shouting their very different opinions at your while you’re trying to find the perect dress for you. I took my mother with me and even though we have similar tastes and both loved my final selection, it was still time-consuming and tiring to try on all her picks. I took my in-laws to a fitting, as well, as it was pure insanity. The amount of fussing over all the perceived inperfections in my dress drove me insane and made me feel so insecure. I regretted bringing everyone the second we arrived. So go alone and cherish it; the opposite is worse!
Post # 7
Absolutely. Then you don’t have several opinions, preferences, & tastes altering your own. I almost bought the wrong dress because of people’s opinions. Plus you have all of us to help you decide. We require pictures of all of your top picks lol!
Post # 8
Thanks girls, I was wondering if they would allow you to take pictures of the dresses but I see other brides posting theirs on here so at least some do. I was feeling a bit weird about it but I tend to be a people pleaser and maybe going to this by myself is the best way to manage it for at least right now. I will be happy to show some of my top picks on here for your opinions!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens
I was planning to go alone, after much debate and feeling pretty sad about the whole thing. Then on the weekend I popped into a dress shop with my FI, not planning to tryanything on but just get a feel for the shop. Well, I ended up finding what I think it s my dress and FI has seen it. It was great to get his opinion.
Now that I feel more comfortable, I am going to another shop alone next week to try some more on and make sure I don’t like something else. I think it will be easier than having other people there. I will take FMIL with once I am sure what I want, just to get a second opinion.
I think any way you do it is fine, as long as you are comfortable.
Post # 10
I have been dress shopping alone twice now and really ended up liking it. My mom isnt prioritizing it and I felt like she didn’t want to go out of her way (ie: take a bus into the city ect) when I had available time.
at first I felt a little sad/pathetic but I actually felt I got a way better feel for what I wanted in a dress, not what someone else wanted me to have in a dress. I also found I didn’t waste time playing dress up for people who pulled what they want to see you in, even ehen you don’t like it.
I think ink its great to start dress shopping alone, but take lots of pictures. Once you narrow it down to a style you like bring a friend….or don’t! You may be surprised how much you like dress shopping alone, I was.
Post # 11
MrsC2015: I called bridal salons ahead of time and said I wasn’t able to bring my mom and asked if I could take pictures. 2 out of 3 places did!
Post # 12
I did my first trip alone–I actually really liked it. You bond with the consultant and learn what you like. It’s also fun to ask other brides in the store to give their opinions. I wouldn’t worry about dress regret–I think dress regret actually happens most often when brides are swayed by their entourage.
Post # 13
I’ve been dress shopping about 6 or 8 times… always alone. My bridesmaids (whom I haven’t asked yet!) live in different cities and so does my Mum.
I’m a very independent person and am used to shopping alone. I want to keep my dress choice a surprise for everyone except my Mum until the day. I’ve enjoyed the process and am 95% sure I’ve decided on a dress. I wasn’t allowed to take photo’s but sent my mum model photos of my top 2 picks.
I say make an appointment, go along and see how you feel about it. I found I got so caught up in trying things on and figuring out what I felt good in that I didn’t miss having a support cruise.
Good luck – be sure to keep us updated 🙂
Post # 14
I went shopping alone but sent my mum a few photos 🙂 My moh is joining me for my final visit in a few weeks just to give an opinion on colour (ivory vs antique) but the design choice was made by myself solely with no regrets! 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: Train station ceremony / Hilton reception
MrsC2015: I just went to my first dress-shopping appointment earlier this week and I went alone! I’m in somewhat of a similar situation, although my mom is the one further away from me and the fiance’s mother would be toxic. The difference between me and you is, I don’t even have bridesmaids or that many girl friends… which is a big reason why I joined this site in the first place.
It’s totally fine, go by yourself. It helped me think more clearly anyway and the girls who worked there were very respectful and I didn’t feel like I was being judged or something by going by myself. AND another bride was trying on dresses alone, not too far from me. They should be used to seeing that and if they act like you’re weird for being alone, take your business elsewhere!