Post # 1
I started looking for a dress back in September. I have gone to Davids and then approximately 6 other bridal shops in the area. I have tried on every Maggie and Casablanca dress out there it seems and I am finding the more shops I go to, the more the dresses are the same ones I have already tried on.
My problem is this: I like a lot of dresses. I really like them. But I don’t love them. I have not loved one so much that I felt amazing and didn’t want to take it off or loved it more than any other dress.
There was ONE dress at David’s bridal that I DID feel that way about EXCEPT I did not like the fabric. It was made of jacquard and reminded me of a tablecloth. But the dress itself was amazing. I was in tears when I left the store because I would have bought it right then if they made it in another fabric (and they said it only comes that way).
So I have been looking and looking and nothing. And now I am to the point where I hate everything and at the last shop we went to, I wouldn’t even try on most things because I can tell just from looking that I won’t like it.
I am getting married May 8. I will not have any free weekends in December to go searching for a dress which leaves me two weekends in November. I really think January will be too late so I am feeling so much pressure.
I thought about going to Davids and buying the dress I love with the fabric I don’t love and dealing with it. But a small part of me is still hesitating.
What do I do??
Post # 3
How about showing us pics of the dress you want and we’ll hook you up with some ideas?
I think you still have time. And i wouldn’t want to wear a tablecloth either.
By The Way, I wasn’t “in love” with my dress when I bought it. I liked it. It looked good on me. I could afford it. I paid for it.
I loved it the day I wore it =]. I think I would have loved a lot of dresses that day. I think there’s a big hype around “it’s the one! it’s amazing! It’s magical!” and sometimes, it’s just a very practical decision. You’re buying a dress. And you’re getting married in it.
Post # 4
How about a custom made version of the DB dress? That way you would get a perfect fit, the fabric you want, and probably a very decent price. (and EJS, I’m sorry to disagree again :-), but I bought three dresses to find the ‘one.’ And yeah, I’m totally embarrassed about that, but it meant a lot to me to find the right dress. I think it depends on how each bride feels about her dress. Some people are perfectly happy in a beautiful dress and others, like fussy old me, have to fiddle to get it exact.)
Post # 5
I think that what is really going on here is that I lack total confidence in myself and worry WAY too much about making other people happy. I am worried that I won’t buy a dress that fiancee loves and I want to blow him away on our wedding day. He is just not someone who constantly compliments me on my looks or outfits and it sounds sad to say, but I kind of need that to feel good. We have discussed this and he feels that I should just KNOW that he is with me because he is attracted to me and that I shouldn’t need to hear it from him. So I think that is what is holding me back. I love that tablecloth dress but think he might not.
Post # 6
Can you send us a link or post a pic of that dress at David’s Bridal that you like?
Post # 7
I seem to be having trouble uploading pics or links so maybe this will work? These are the two dresses. The first one is the tablecloth one and the second is one I also like a lot.
Post # 8
I agree with ejs. There’s so much hype surrounding the dress, and I was one of those brides that fell into the the “liked it a lot, didn’t love it so much that it made me cry” category.
You might be one of those brides, too.
I also could have loved a few different dresses. In the end, as long as you like it, it flatters you and you feel beautiful in it, that’s all that really matters. Just keep in mind that not everyone gets emotional or finds “the dress.”
Post # 9
I think both dresses are really pretty. I don’t mind the fabric on the dress that you said reminds you of a tablecloth…I think it makes it really unique. Do you not like the fabric because YOU don’t like it or just because you think your fiance wouldn’t like it? I think you should focus more on what you really like and what makes you really happy rather than worry about whether other people will like it.
Post # 10
Maybe you could go back to David’s and try on the first dress again and see how you feel. I’m with the other girls who said that they didn’t cry… I didn’t cry at all when I decided on my dress. I really liked it, but no waterworks. My mom is emotional too, and she didn’t cry when she saw me in any dress…. the only time she cried was when she heard our first dance song lol.
Basically, like Tulip said, if it’s what you like then get it! Your Fiance will think you look beautiful no matter what, IMO, all brides look beautiful 🙂
Post # 11
From those two pictures, it looks like the style you like best is a fitted, beaded bodice, with a slightly dropped waist and an A-line (or slightly fuller) skirt. There aren’t a huge number of Maggie or Casablanca dresses that fit this description. There are, however, quite a few Allure dresses like this. How about:
There are more on their site if you look back through the seasons. These dresses will probably be more expensive than David’s Bridal, but I used to work at a shop that carried Allure gowns, and our prices topped out at $1500 CAN for the most expensive dress in the store. Keep in mind that you lucky Americans pay about 40% less for your bridal gowns than we do.
Post # 12
I thought the same way that i would never be able to find my dress, im getting married may29th and finally found the one a couple days ago!!! I did the whole David’s bridal too and thought i found the one there but i didnt love it just like you, i only liked it alot. Trust me, you will know when its the one! And you WANT to love it! Dont make impulsive decisions out of desperation and just settle! Keep looking, you will find one, dont get discouraged, put everything else aside for now and focus on searching for the one for you! Because it all matters about how you feel on your wedding day, and you want to have a dress on that you absolutely LOVE, not that you had to get because of no time, you have to make time for your dress girl! Everybody will be anticipating on the bride at the ceremony and reception, everybodys eyes will be on you all the time and you want to shine! Try boutiques in your area, good luck!
Post # 13
I didn’t cry when I found my dress, but boy did I bawl when I put it on after the alterations!
Don’t let the wedding hype get to you! January will be plenty of time for them to get you dress, as most places only need six weeks.
By The Way: I just looked over the Alfred Angelo website and here are a couple I found:
You’ll be fine and you’ll look gorgeous on the big day!