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In my experience, it normally takes 4-6 months for the dress to come in once you order it, and then you'll need about a month and a half (give or take) for alterations. So for your wedding, you'll probably want to order your dress not later than 7-8 months in advance, which would be Sept-Oct 2009, but that's pushing it.
My suggestion would be to go try on dresses and see what you like. It took me almost 2 months to find a dress that I loved and that looked good on me. The style that I thouht I liked didn't really look good at all on my body type, so I was litterally trying on dresses just to see what the shapes looked like on me! It was crazy. But, I like you, wanted to lose a ton of weight before trying on dresses. In the end, I had to just order my dress at the size I was then (EVERYONE looks good in a wedding dress, no matter what their size!!!) and I worked out and did WW for the 6 months it look for the gown to come in. I went for 3 fittings and had the dress taken in 2 sizes - and the end product was fantastic.
Good luck and don't wait till the last minute to order your dress... rush fees are EXPENSIVE!!
I agree with everything the previous poster said, but I also wanted to add that I got a corset style dress for this very reason. It will be very forgiving with some weight loss (or gain). It's honestly not my favorite look, but the things it does to my shape are amazing. :)
Thanks KTdid23! You make a really good point about setting aside a good amount of time to actually find the dress...hadn't really factored that in....so thanks for making that point. And yeah, the last thing that I want to do is to put a rush on the order, definitely do not have money for that in my budget! Really glad to hear that you had your dress taken in two sizes, and that you were very happy with the results. Thanks for your post! :)
Another great point aja0829! I will definitely try some corset-styles on during the "hunt"! Thanks!
You have more than a year before your wedding before you get married so you plenty of time to buy a dress. Ideally you want to buy it six months before you get married so you don't have to pay rush fees. Don't worry about it too much because even if you do lose weight from the time that you buy the dress to the time of your first fitting, they will have seamstresses on hand that can do wonders in sewing the fabric in to fit your body.
Yup, definitely true! I think part of my thing is also that I want to lose as much weight as possible before I even TRY the dresses on. I really want to enjoy the process of trying on dresses, rather than feeling self-conscious about how much weight I have to lose! I guess I'm a little nervous about trying my first wedding dress on, and feeling like a blob (for lack of a better word)...especially since my Mom and BMs are all very in shape (not that they would ever make me feel bad about it!)...I know that sounds sort of childish, but I don't know....guess I can't help how I feel :) I just want to feel good about myself when I try on the dresses!
I can understand because my maid of honor has been struggling with her weight as well since gaining weight from college. She really didn't want to try any of the dresses on knowing that she wouldn't feel good in any of them. But after trying on a few, we did fine one or two that I thought looked nice for her to wear to the wedding.
Yeah, luckily I have supportive friends that completely understand why I am putting off dress shopping :) One nice thing is that wedding dress shopping has been a great motivator in pushing me to eat healthier and work out regularly....so that has been a huge plus! Glad your friend found something she is happy with :)
I just had to order a second dress because I lost weight after ordering mine. My wedding is in September, but they said the dress would be in before June, and alterations would start in July. If you go to a place like David's Bridal, the dress is likely to come in sooner. But be careful, because if you don't get a "good" salesperson, they will try to sell you any dress quickly, telling you "it looks great!!" I was lucky on our 3rd trip to the store..the woman was honest and let me know when I looked like a cream puff.
When they re-ordered my dress, they gave me a warning not to lose much more weight. Although I do have a corset, they said it is misleading. They said a lot of people think there is room to play with when you have a corset, but it is actually not reall true. A too tightly tied corset looks odd and obvious. They said if I lose more than 5 more pounds then the dress just won't fit again.
Lose the weight first. Then look for a dress. I made the mistake of buying a dress and then I lost a lot of weight and I had the dress altered, but it was altered too much and ruined the shape of the dress. I had to get a new one.
I began to lose some weight (5 lbs) before dress shopping. That way I felt like I was on the right track, and felt confident about myself. It took a long time to find a dress, so I had more time, and lost a few more pounds. I'll still have to have it altered, but I pretty much plateaued with weight loss. Still, toning is changing my shape as well. So my wedding is in July and I'll probably get it altered in June.
Good luck, have fun, and don't let this make you feel bad about yourself. It should be good fun!
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Thanks ladies! Yeah, I'm gonna put in as much energy and effort now as I can to lose the weight, and then hopefully I won't have to worry too much about major alterations! Thanks for shaing your advice/support! And thanks doctorgirl! :) I'm not gonna let this make me feel bad about myself....when it comes down to it, I know that every bride looks beautiful on her wedding day! :) Everyone still thinks ordering it 6-8 months before is the way to go???
I'm having a concern if my dress will fit. When I first bought my dress they wanted to order a size 16. I was horrified, and ordered the one that I had tried on which was a size 14. Even though I've lost 10 pounds since I ordered my dress. I'm beginning to become more worried if I made the right decision about sticking to what I tried on (the size 14). My uncle (my wedding planner) and I thought it looked fine but the saleslady thought otherwise. I'm hoping with losing the 10 pounds since first trying on the dress (and hopefully a few more pounds in the next couple months), the dress will fit better.
Sounds to me like the dress will fit you perfectly! And even if it doesn't, it doesn't sound like anything a good seamstress can't fix! Plus, it's sooo much better to have something taken in than to have it let out! :) I'm a little nervous about the same thing though...having the dress people tell me that they're going to have to order me some sort of scary size!! Good for you for sticking to your guns, and ordering the size that you were most comfortable with! We brides have to stick up for ourselves!! :)
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Hey Hive!! I have a couple of wedding dress related questions for you. I'm getting married in late May of 2010. I've been putting off going wedding dress shopping, much to the horror of my mom and friends who are chomping at the bit to see me in a wedding dress :) The thing is, I really want to lose a significant amount of weight before I order my dress. I know that my FI will think I look beautiful even if I don't lose the weight (he's great like that), but I won't feel comfortable if I don't...and really won't feel comfortable having my picture taken a bazillion times!! I also don't want to be stressed out over worrying about ordering my dress too late, and running the risk of not having my dress come in on time! I realize that I can have my dress altered once it comes in, but I'm afraid that if I alter it too much that it could change the whole look of the dress....I've heard of that happening before. So...after that long-winded explanation (sorry!)....my question is...how late can I safely order my dress in order to lose as much weight as I can, yet have it arrive in enough time so that I'm not going insane worrying about it to get here? What do you ladies think?? Any suggestions would really, really help! Thanks :)