Post # 1
I went dress shopping this weekend for the very 1st time and I must’ve tried on a million dresses! There were a handful that I felt I looked nice in, and a few of them stood out for me. But, I did’t get that “feeling” or overwhelming sense of “this is the one”. I tried on gorgeous gowns hoping and waiting for it…but no tears of joy, no overwhelming feeling, nothing! Don’t get me wrong , I really liked alot of those dresses! But again, I didn’t get that “feeling”.
Do all brides get that feeling? How did you come to decide that this is “the one”? How many dresses did you try on before you picked your dress? I am kind of freaking out because I think I’m relying too much on this “feeling” but passing up beautiful dress in the process. My mom thinks I should wait a few weeks and come back to the store to try on the dresses that “stood out” to me, again. Then see how I feel about them. My friend thinks I should just keep looking. Any advice?
Post # 3
I didn’t get the feeling, didn’t cry, nothing like that. I just felt great in it. I actually was between two dresses. I thought I would get the other one. I decided to put them both on again just to make sure I loved the other one. I put mine on and started to realise that I loved it and felt beautiful in it. When I put the other one on, I just looked at it in the mirror and said “Nope, it’s the other one”.
If you aren’t sure, try some more on. But if you’ve got a few that you love, put them each on again and see how you feel in them.
Post # 4
I knew when my FMIL and sister started crying. When I first put it on I was talking to my sister and realized she was whispering. They had the feeling for me haha! I was just glad to finally find one after 3 trips to 3 different stores and tons of dresses!
Post # 5
I just knew. i actually knew it could be the one before I even tried it on. When I tried it on, I didn’t want to take it off… that is how I knew. Plus I had a vision of what I wanted my dress to look like for ages and it fit that vision.
Post # 6
@HeathenSwan: There was one dress in particular that I looked amazing in. My only “complaint” (if any) was that it was too simple, would’ve liked to have more detail. My bridal consultant suggested just accessorizing to get that “complete look”. Now that I think of it, I probably would’ve gotten that “feeling” with this dress had it had more detail, the dress was still gorgeous and I looked very nice in it.
@AliveWithLove: I had abaout 2 dresses I tried on, and my mom and sister had the “look” on their faces, practically glowing, lol. They really liked the 2 dresses (which are also the ones that “stood out” for me as well). So they got that “feeling” but I didn’t lol.
@bridalprincess: I think what made it difficult for me was I didn’t really have any real idea of what type of “look” I wanted, I basically just walked in blind and kind of hoped for the best.
Post # 7
I found a dress online that I couldn’t get out of my head until I tried it on. I figured I’d try it on and be like, “ehh, at least I can mark it off the list.” But it was different. I loved it. It felt special without being over-the-top to me. I did cry, but only after they put the veil on me.
Before I decided I was between 2 dresses and my MOH asked “Well if you get one, which one are you going to sit up wondering about?” And that’s when I knew to pick my dress 🙂
I also shopped at 3 shops, but over 2 days, and what felt like a 100 dresses later… you’ll figure it out and you’ll uh-may-zing!
Post # 8
I looked at a lot of dresses too and had several that I liked. I couldn’t make up my mind, and I decided that I needed to just choose because I wasn’t ever going to get “the feeling”. I went dress shopping a bit more after that, and finally found THE ONE! I started crying as soon as I put it on. My mom started yelling at me, “Lean over! No tears on the dress!!!”
However, I’ve been known to cry at Home Depot commercials. If you’re less of a big baby than I am, you might not start bawling 😛
Post # 9
I didn’t cry or get any overwhelming “This has to be the one” moment.
For me it went like this: I loved the first one I put on. It suited my figure perfectly, it was a beautiful gown, and it was super comfortable. But I obviously wanted to try on more, so I did. I tried about 7-8 other dresses and eliminated most of them pretty quickly. It came down to just one other possibility. I did really like both dresses but at first I couldn’t really say which one I liked better.
It ended up being a weirdly logical decision in some ways. For example, my consultant pointed out that I was judging one dress based on how it compared to the other one. I wanted to make some changes to one of them, whereas the other one I didn’t want any changes made. And I kept finding new things I liked about the first dress, and I didn’t want to take it off…which kind of led to, hey this is my dress.
When I got home, I went back through the pictures my sister took of all the dresses I tried on and it’s funny, I can see it in my face that I liked the one I ended up with the most–but at the time I would have sworn that I wasn’t sure.
Post # 10
I don’t think all brides get “the feeling” and I never thought I was going to but I did – after 3 stores, 8 hours and about 50 dresses! – It was the last dress I tried on! I say, keep trying on dresses and don’t settle just yet – give it a few more dresses! Good luck!
Post # 11
You have the wonderful luxury of having TIME on your side!
Keep looking. Take notes. Refine what you really like and what you absolutely do not like. Then, take a break for awhile, and then look some more.
Don’t order anything until you either 1) find THE ONE, OR 2) you find yourself in the timeframe where you need to place an order. There is nothing at all to be gained by forcing yourself to commit to a dress unless you either WANT to or HAVE to make a decision. And, try to have FUN while you’re looking!
By the way, in the process I described above, you’ll know it’s THE ONE, if the thought of “losing” that dress (i.e. having it become discontinued and not available to you by the time you need to order is FAR more upsetting to you than possibly not seeing every dress that’s “out there.”
Enjoy this wonderful time!! 🙂
Post # 12
I did not cry. It was the dress I felt most comfortable in that I could imagine getting married in. and was most ME.
Post # 13
I think the idea of that incredible ‘the one’ feeling is a touch overrated. Nobody cried when I found my dress, but it did feel different.
I’m not very girlie, I never dreamed of weddings or imagined my dress, the prospect of having to choose one scared me silly and a lot of the dresses I tried on made me feel like a madwoman in fancy dress.
When I put MY dress on, it felt right, it felt good, I felt like a bride and I felt like, yep, I could happily get married in it. However I’m sure I could have got that feeling from more than one dress, had I kept on looking.
Post # 14
@Liecey84: I felt the exact same way when I went dress shopping. I went to about 4 different bridal boutiques and tried on what seemed like a million dresses and was able to narrow it down to 2 but did not have “that feeling”. On a random night my mom and I decided to go to a bridal boutique after work. The bridal consultant pulled a few dresses and I started trying on. This one dress made me think “hmmm I feel like a bride in this” my mother wanted to see it with a mermaid slip underneath to make the bottom fuller … so I tried it on again. As the bridal consultant tied me up and placed the veil on I looked in the mirror and had “that feeling” and I started to tear up. I guess all it took was the mermaid slip to give the dress the perfect look. I knew at that moment that this was *the dress* and have had ZERO dress regret. Everyone told me that I ordered my dress to soon but I don’t … I love it as much now as I did 6 months ago. Not sure if others have had the same expereience but when I had “that feeling” as I looked at myself in the mirror all I could think about was my FI looking at me as I walked down the asile … that’s what really made me tear up … no other dress made me feel that way.
Post # 15
When I shopped there were a lot of dresses i liked but never got that feeling, then I went back for a second try on to pick which dress out of the ones I liked. I ended up trying on another dress at the end of the appointment, completely differen than the others. When I was in the dress I didn’t realize it was the one. But after I took it off. We were plannin on going to antoehr store and I realized I didn’t want to try on any more dresses. That’s how I knew it was my dress.
Post # 16
I haven’t actually bought mine yet but I am 99% sure this is it. I’ve tried it on twice and it is the most flattering thing I have ever put on my body. It’s not at all like what I thought I wanted when I first started looking but I can’t imagine not wearing it. There are so many other gorgeous dresses I’ve tried or want to try but those sessions only last about a week, and I keep coming back to this one I love (Enzoani Farlow). Like you I have a ton of time, so I’m not in a rush. I can love other dresses temporarily but Farlow is the one that sticks.
So I guess I’m saying… Give it time, since you have it?