Post # 1
hello ladies!!! so i cant find my dream dress…i never thought this would be so hard for me. i was never the marriage type, i didnt dream about my wedding/dress as a child, it just wasnt for me. untill i met my fiancee he made me want to get married, excited for that commitment and to spend the rest of my life with him. so i thought id find a dress easy. before i went shopping i reaserched dresses cut out a bunch of pictures out of mags. i knew basically what i want, lace romantic ivory kinda vintage feel and somewhat of a train. so i went to a few stores and tried on a bunch of dresses and found nothing that gave me the feeling “this is the dress!!” i tried on several different styles of gowns and there were some i liked but never “the dress”…my friends said not to settle but im starting to think maybe i should just go buy one of the dresses i liked but didnt get the feeling i hoped for in. like maybe theyll do even though in my heart i know its not what i want. i just am worried ill run out of time(wedding 9-10-11) or wont find what i want in my price range(2000) i dont have many stores around me in southern MD one is a davids bridal i did find one i liked there but not the dress. so i guess im writing this for support and to hear your stories, if anyone went through what i am? thankyou so much for the help/advice in advance
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I went to so many stores and tried on so many dresses and I just couldn’t find a dress I wanted to spend the money on. I finally found one that wasn’t perfect, but I looked amazing in and was a great price. I also thought it would be a dress that my FI would love, so that was big reason why I went with it (I kept asking him what he pictured me in because I was so lost). I love my dress, but it is not what I originally invisioned. Unfortunately those types of dresses just didn’t work on my body or give me a bridal feeling. Keep it up, you will eventually find one that will work perfectly.
Post # 4
awww dont lose hope!!! i went to 6 bridal salons before i fould my dress! and some people just dont get that feeling youre talking about…. its just one of those things. im sure you will find the perfect dress for you!!!!
Post # 5
Hang in there! I have been to 6 bridal shops and am still dress-less! I started my search with one thought (Princess, ball gown) and have totally shifted to my recent visition (more formed, dropped waist/fit n flare). Be patient and if you need to, take a mini-break from the search. I have no doubt that we will find that perfect dress! What about a mini weekend getaway with some girlfriends to a nearby town if selections in your home town are limited? I’ve even started playing with the idea of making a gown, but that opens MANY doors and it would be oh so much easier if I could just find “the one” but so far still looking 🙂
Post # 6
I hear ya, @anmparlett. I went to 10 or so different bridal salons and didn’t really find anything. I was expecting the whole “try on a dress, fall madly in love with it, and squeal and cry that you look and feel like a bride,” but it didn’t happen. (I actually bought a dress that I liked, but realized I just did so on a whim because I never thought I’d find one I actually loved). A bit downhearted, I took a break from wedding dress shopping for a couple weeks.
Like you, I was looking for an ivory romantic, lace dress that was sort-of vintage but sort-of quirky (no train here!) and I randomly found it on The Limited’s website.
It arrived in the mail a couple days ago. As I slipped it on and stared at myself in the mirror, it fit perfectly, it felt perfect, it looked really great…There was no pressure, no time limit, no opinions, no price to think about, just myself and the dress and my thoughts of “I am actually getting married. I am actually wearing a dress that I could wear on my wedding day. This is feeling so real.” And it all felt so right.
I kept the dress. And I absolutely love it.
I pray that you have a similar experience; that you’ll just know when you find the one, even if it isn’t all sudden and squeal-y. Keep your chin up and your thoughts positive; your dress is out there, and you still have time.
Let me know if I can help in any way.
Post # 7
wow thankyou ladies for the help…im really glad i stumbled upon this site..and i wont give up im going to go out this weekend with my future MIL and SIL so lets keep our fingers crossed!!! and its so nice to hear other ppl feel the same as i do, i am type of person who overthinks everything so thats why i think i maynot get the exact feeling “this is it” maybe it will be i really like this dress and its what i want. also ill go check that site out
Post # 8
@anmparlett: I agree, don’t give up hope! Unless you’re looking for something so specific that nothing else will do, with so many pretty dresses out there one’s bound to win you over. And 6 stores is nothing, haha. I went to 21, some of them multiple times!
$2000 is a pretty good budget. Enzoani Blue and Pronovias/La Sposa have beautiful lace, vintage looking dresses in that range. You can look up the designer websites and see which stores carry them in your area. Good luck this weekend!
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I just thought I’d mention the dress I originally fell in love with. It’s Jacquelin Exclusive 9802. At first I found it priced around $800, then eventually found it online for around $650 (my budget was supposed to be $500!).. but I got very frustrated because I couldn’t find any place local to try it on which was the deal-breaker for me. Maybe not for you though. For me I was just concerned about fit because I didn’t want something that wouldn’t “forgive” my post-kids tummy, but yeah, I still think about this dress a LOT and keep thinking maybe someday I’ll buy it for a vow renewal. 🙂
I ended up finding something I REALLY loved. Not quite as much as this but close enough and for about $550 less so I went with that.
Anyway here are pics… when you said lace/ivory/romantic/vintage feel with somewhat of a train of course I had to post!! It’s hard to see but it has little tiny buttons allll the way up the back where the unlined lace area is. Of course you may want 50’s vintage in which case disregard this one, I love the 30’s feel/cut of it myself! 🙂
Post # 11
Trust me when I say that some people just don’t get THE FEELING. At least I didn’t, and I won’t. Its not like me to do something like that. I think, analyze, feel, go with my gut…but I don’t get emotional and make rash decisions.
I had a similar experience, dress shop after dress shop, tons of dresses that I liked, maybe even loved…but I didn’t get “the feeling”. I felt worn out and defeated.
I might suggest going dress shopping for yourself. This is what I did and it gave me alot of clairty about what I wanted. It wasn’t even that my friends & family were pressuring or disagreeing with me on dresses…they were so supportive. I just didn’t feel like I could make my decisions in my own way (you know the thinking, the analyzing, the going with my gut).
I ended up finding a GREAT dress. It didn’t give me the feeling, but it almost did. I’ve occasionally had second thoughts, but I always come back to the same point…there is NOTHING any other dress could give me that my dress can’t.
Post # 12
same boat here.. been trying dresses since november and couldn’t find anything i like.. i must have gone to 10+ stores… there are some likes.. but nothing i love… and the time is ticking too.. boo i’m goign to 4 bridal stores next week…
Post # 13
Well, i also never got the feeling. Lets just say in 6 foot tall double d boobs and about a dress size 8. I just couldnt find anything in my price range. 1000.00 or less. I was getting desprate. My wedding is in april 2 2011. I finally found one that was nothing like i wanted, but my family said it was made for me and the shop owner assured me it could be altered to close to what i was envisioning. Well lets just say 6 wweeks till wedding, and i finally gave up. After a dozen appt with the seamstress trying to make it work, the dress couldnt be altered how i wanted it. Now its to late and i wish i had just kept looking. I agree you might not get the tears and such but you will know what you feel beautiful in and that is what you want to feel like on your day. I gave in, got desprate, and listened to others and now i will walk downthe aisle in a dress that i dont like but i have also came to a realization that im still getting married to my soulmate and its not the end of the world. So what i am saying is, trust your own instinct. You know what you want and dont get a dress you will only like if it can be altered in a certain way. Take your time. Take the time to look is the main thing.
Post # 14
I was going to “settle” on a dress, but decided to go looking on ebay after I saw the Disney Princess line (I know, I’m hopeless). I then found a gown I LOOOVE and I’m really excited about.
Like you, I NEVER dreamed of my wedding and couldn’t fathom what I’d want, now it’s like things are just falling into place and there’s nothing for me to really stress over (wedding wise, that is… everything else, YES! LOL!). Even the venue has us penciled in for our weekend and is really helpful.
If you don’t mind buying online, search all the wedding websites. Check out eBay. Oh, and don’t forget consignment shops, thrift shops, and Good Will and Salvation Army stores. They often have beautiful gowns like you’re looking for!!!
Post # 15
I was losing hope too. I probably tried on 40 dresses. But I found mine yesterday at a store I had been to a couple of times. I had never tried it on before, because I thought it looked at little funky on the hanger. One thing about wedding dresses, if you somewhat like it on the hanger and its in your price range, take a chance and try it on. It was a off the shoulder dress so it looked a little different on the hanger. I really didn’t get “that feeling”, but I was smiling in it. My mom, sister & one bridesmaid were all in agreement that after all the dresses, it looked the best on me.
Post # 16
yeah, i tried on 97 dresses before i picked mine. and internet searched hundreds.
you can find it! don’t lose hope!