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Because of not knowing the reason - I am assuming you beleive that you did nothing wrong - I beleive that the bride should pay for the dress!
If she kicked you out, I think she should have to pony up for the dress. It would have been different if you just decided that you didn't want to be in the wedding any longer.
Agree...assuming you did nothing wrong, she should pay.
I will admit, I'm suspicious of "for no reason" - there's ALWAYS a reason. However, assuming the reason is related to drama with the bride and not with the bridesmaid, then the bride should pay. If I asked one of my bridesmaids to step down a month before my wedding and she had done nothing wrong, I would pay for her dress. However, the dress would become mine, and I'd try to sell it online.
I do agree, though, that to ask you to step down and not offer a reason is rude. That's the least she could do.
She needs to pay and it's unfortunately very important that you get her to just so you can 'set the tone' for your future relationship. She needs to know she can't walk all over you.
If you did nothing wrong, then the bride should pay for the dress.
I'm curious about why you were taken out as a BM...have you talked to her about it? What does your brother have to say about it?
Actually no matter who did the wrong thing, if the bride kicks out a bridesmaid, she should pay for the dress. It's the cost of such a dramatic action, and I'd say this whether you were the bride or the bridesmaid. ;)
I think the bride should be responsible. But, she did offer to split it with you. Seeing as how it's family, i'd probably just cut my losses and move forward
Surely there is a reason though. There is never absolutely *no* reason unless she's just completely nutso. And even then, she probably would have a lame one, like she decided she wanted her dog as a bridesmaid...=]
You should find out why so you can fix it
I would say that she should cover it since she decided to kick you out, especially if she knew you got your dress!
If she doesn't go for that, I would at least take the half.
No matter what you did, if she kicks you out, she needs to pay. The same thing happened to me once and I ended up stuck with the dress and have never spoken to her again. But if you can't get more than half I guess you have to take it unless you want to take her to small claims court...
That's weird that she didn't give you a reason. Maybe you should focus on asking her about that, and then worry about the money.
Why did she 'kick' you out? Depending upon that, she should buck up and pay for the dress.
Wow, I'm sorry that happened to you! You shouldn't have to pay for a dress that you have no intention of using. If you can't talk to the bride bring it up with your brother. Wouldn't you want to know the reason why you got booted?
I'm with Marigold. If she asked you, and then booted you -- for whatever reason -- it's totally her responsibility. Anything else is just completely unfair and wrong.
Since you did nothing i said yeah she should pay you back and she didn't even give you a reason holy crap.
for no reason??? who does that? it sounds like she wouldn't know what ettiquite was if she just booted you out of the wedding like that. i would take the half and run before she changes her mind again!
I receied this ridiculous email and at the end she said that I was being kicked out and that she wanted to pay for half of the dress. She is looking for a fight to have a reason. I have let it roll off my back...but I feel she should pay for the dress and she is more than welcome to keep the dress.
Wow, that's pretty messed up. She has to have some hidden reason, even if it's mean or lame. People usually don't do that to other people for no reason. But things can sometimes be weird with FH sisters in general. I know i have some FSIL drama myself that I don't feel responsible for at all. But I think she should have to pay for the dress, fo sho.
I'd take the money and run. Yes, she should pay for all of it, but it doesn't look like she's willing to - and, based on what you've shared so far, it sounds like she's just digging up trouble for trouble's sake. You can certainly ask for the whole thing, but I wouldn't expect or anticipate getting it back.
Yes, if indeed there is no reason, she should definitely pay for the dress, not just half the dress. But since she offered to pay for half, it might be better to not start anything and just forget about it and pay for half the dress.
I hope she ends-up paying for it... I hope that you FSIL can have an amicable relationship... for your FI's sake (yours too!)
She should by the dress, unless for some reason you want to keep it.
I think if you decided to kick a bridesmaid out of your wedding (no matter what the reason) you should offer to pay for any expenses she has incurred due to your wedding. However, because she is soon to be your SIL, I would take her offer of half and run. Because I would be dying to know, I would also get the reason out of her at any cost - what can I say....I'm a VERY curious person!
@EJS: I LOLed when I read about your doggie bridesmaid replacement scenario! Thanks for the giggle!
If the bridesmaid (you) had done something awful that merited being removed from the wedding, I would say you needed to swallow the cost. But if there was no solid reason, you shouldn't have to foot the bill. Very inconsiderate and a poor way to begin her life as a member of your family!
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I was asked to be a bridesmaid in my brothers wedding back in May (the wedding is in November). Almost a month before the wedding I am kicked out by FSIL for no reason. We ordered the dresses in June. Now I am stuck with a dress that I cannot wear. She offered to pay half but I think she should pay the whole amount. I would appreciate your thoughts and opinions.
Thanks,
Southern Lady