Post # 1
Y’all… I am learning that wedding events are very awkward! This past weekend I had my bridal shower… I was super nervous about it! It was beautiful and so well done by my maid of honor. Still, a bit more awkwar than I expected! Some family of mine seemed a little grumpy/needy… The opening all the gifts was super embarrassing for me! I was surprised at how self conscious I was! Also, I learned that it’s pretty awkward for everyone to see the range of gifts… At least it seemed to be! Some people were incredibly generous and others went off the registry and got some very cheap gifts that they need reassurance on! One girl even came without a gift?! Is this the norm? I felt so awkward! I am a bit nervous for the bachelorette weeken and further awkwardness!
Thanks for listening…
Post # 3
I haven’t had a shower or anything, and I doubt I will. But in my case anything where I’m the center of attention tends to be a little awkward. So I can relate in that sense!
Post # 4
I’m goofy awkward. But, fortunately for me and unfortunate for everyone else, I like being the center of attention.
Basically I’m excited for my shower, but I can almost guarantee that I will trip at some point, knock some colorful food down the front of my dress, and say something totally uncomfortable and awkward.
I always thought that I would be in control and have it figured out by this age. Nope!
Post # 5
I don’t think it gets better with age, judging on the other awkward people as well!
Post # 6
I think the reason why some wedding events are awkward is because the attention is put on you. I am the type of person who doesn’t like to be the center of attention to begin with! So I wouldn’t worry about it or feel too badly! Have fun and enjoy it! =)
Post # 7
@futuremrsmazhari: I haven’t gotten any less awkward with age (I’m almost 33), so I wouldn’t put your eggs in that basket. I think the gifts thing is really one of my least favorite social activities, which is why I didn’t do a shower. I think the parties where you’re just hanging out and having a good time is going to be way more fun, and far less uncomfortable. Take my opinion with a grain of salt though, I hate being the center of attention, I’m awkward, nerdy and generally socially retarded.
Post # 8
I had my shower 2 weeks ago, I didn’t find it awkward at all.. it’s all the same ladies I spend time with, it’s not like it was total strangers watching me.. even with 30+ people watching me open gifts I still had a great time.. I guess I would say I like being the center of attention, it was overwhelming though. I feel like I hardly got the chance to actually talk to people. I’m beyond excited for my bachelorette party in 3 weeks..
Post # 9
I agree! I actually am refusing to have a bridal shower, even though I’ve received a lot of complaints about that. I just don’t like this idea of making people buy me a present, and then forcing them to come watch me open them…! It’s just weird to me, and I also don’t like making people go out of their way for me, and clouding the main event with all kinds of other stuff. I just want to have my wedding ceremony, and the reception to me is more of a thank you for traveling to see me, here’s some (hopefully) delicious food and booze.
Post # 10
My bachelorette party was a surprise, and SO awkward for me because, while I appreciated the hell out of it, I don´t like a bunch of people staring at me, saying congrats, etc. Food, games & booze were a good distraction, though. The gift opening part was SUPER awkward.
Post # 11
Ugh, I’m right there with you. I HATE, absolutely HATE opening gifts in front of people, especially when I’m the only one doing it. Awkward. And I’m having two showers, so even better.
Post # 12
I haven’t had my shower/bachelorette yet, but I’ve been to some awkward ones! But, I know my mom’s family is super sweet and will talk to everyone. My dad’s family will stay to themselves, and Fiance family probably won’t be able to come as they are all from out of state! So I’m hoping even if someone feels awkward, that it isn’t me 🙂
Post # 13
For those of you who don’t like opening gifts in front of people, you could have a display shower (also known as a presentation shower). Just ask whoever is throwing you the shower to mention somewhere on the invite something like:
“So our time can be spent with the Bride-to-Be, Please bring gifts wrapped to see. Clear paper works fine – Or wrap it in twine. We’ll put them on display so we will all have more time to enjoy the day.”
Guests bring the gift unwrapped with a bow or clear wrap and the card. The gifts are displayed on a table and the future bride and guests can look them over, open the cards and spend her time mingling with her guests.
I find this type of shower much more civilized. Just make sure the host has a tag for guests to tag what gift they brought, that way everyone can see and the bride will know who to thank for what later!