Post # 1
I made some really really big mistakes when planning for my wedding, and I regret them so much 🙁 Mainly, I didn’t follow my plan if the weather forecast looked bad, and I didn’t really come up with a great rain plan anyway for my outdoor wedding. I just had an open tent with no sides, and I knew I needed to get tent sides if it looked like it was going to rain, but somehow I choked and never ended up doing it. It was like I froze in the last few days before the wedding and got overwhelmed with everything unimportant thing I still needed to do, yet I didn’t do the most important thing of all. There was a huge scary storm, my guests near the sides were poured on, and the tent flooded with about an inch of water. I feel so terrible and mad at myself for not doing something I knew was really important. I’m normally organized and responsible, but somehow I was such an idiot during wedding planning and I wish I could go back and do everything differently.
Did anyone else feel like they made a huge mistake at their wedding, or have any advice for how to get past their mistakes?
Post # 2
Aww, I’m sure that your memory is worse than reality. You are likely exaggerating in your own mind because you are feeling guilty. There’s nothing to do, but just get past it, and enjoy your memories, photos, and marriage.
Outdoor weddings (or ceremonies) though, not a fan, just too risky and not worth the extra stress. Just my opinion.
Post # 3
The best advice is to just accept that it is in the past, and move on. Apologize to your guests, because that will probably make you feel a lot better, but understand that they all know you personally do not control the weather. Then accept that it was a really unfortunate situation, and move on. Please don’t trick yourself into feeling like you need to spend thousands of dollars on a ceremony/reception do-over right away. If you feel like throwing a 10-year anniversary party, then by all means, do that when the time comes, and use the lessons you learned to help it be the best party anyone has ever been to, but don’t make any do-over plans (especially if they involve money) while you are still upset and emotional. The “weddingbee way” seems to favor doing things over rather than accepting what is in the past and moving on, and it is always foolish to make extensive or expensive plans when you are upset.
Post # 4
I’m sure that your memory is making it worse in your mind than in actuality. You are married! Yay! Celebrate on!!
Post # 5
kberg445: Getting sides for the tent is only important in hindsight. It would not have mattered at all if the weather was better, and forecasts are only reliable 24 hours in advance. You know the 5 day forecast is totally made up, right? So stop beating yourself up! Whatever you were doing before the wedding obviously was important, and it’s only dumb luck that one thing you ended up not organizing did matter — it just as easily couldn’t have mattered.
Try to look on the bright side: at least your guests who got soaked will have a funny story to tell and a vivid memory of your wedding! Plus there’s something romantic about the whole thing. Have you seen the movie In Time? The wedding scene in that film is totally rained out and it’s so touching.
As far as wedding disasters go, it could’ve been way worse. To get past it, try to focus on all the things that went RIGHT, instead of this one thing that went wrong. At the end of the day, if you married your fiancé, you didn’t do anything wrong. Did you have a photographer? You can get some amazing photos in the rain! Post them here!! Outdoor weddings are great.
Post # 6
kberg445: Oops it was ‘About Time’, not ‘In Time’. Here watch this, it’ll make you feel better: http://youtu.be/ksn1zUkcKys
And they lived happily ever after.
Post # 7
valintine: Love that movie.
kberg445: Valintine is right. So is Horseradish. Apologize to your guests, and then begin the process of making a funny story out of the whole shebang.
Post # 8
kberg445: i bet your wedding was lovely! We would love to see some pictures! Maybe it will make you feel better to share 🙂 love and hugs x