Post # 1
Our wedding isn’t for quite some time but I’m getting antsy and want to get started with planning everything! This weekend there was a wedding fair literally down the street from our apartment, so we went to take a look.
Now I wasn’t expecting much from it, so I wasn’t surprised to see 90% handmade rings (not jewelry, just rings), a few venues, plenty of photographers, and a few wedding planners at their booths. What did surprise me was that every single one of them handed us flyers, tried to talk to us to explain their business or give more information to the extent of seeming pushy, EXCEPT the wedding dress creators. None of them approached me, or even tried to look me in the eye. My fiancé was approached by plenty of the tuxedo/suit booth people, but I suppose I wasn’t part of the target audience, and I guess it annoyed me a little.
That, and a jeweller who said my engagement ring’s center stone looked cloudy and discolored when discussing zirconia, but the look on his face when I told him it was moissanite and diamonds made up for it.
I guess I needed to vent, feel free to ignore!
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
perlerose: I’m sorry you left the fair not feeling great. As a plus size lady, the wedding planning process can be daunting because insecurities like to rear their ugly heads! Good luck to you in the months to come!
Post # 3
They were just stuck up morons. People who can’t be welcoming and fun are miseries. Shame on them. You will find a fantastic dress and you will be a beautiful bride. Don’t let people who do not know you define you. Have confidence. You have a man who wants to marry you! He is pretty damn confident.
Post # 4
perlerose: I didn’t have a great time at the fair I went to either. All the food vendors were great, and we got tooooons of free samples, but none of the dress vendors (except one!) would even look at my mom and I. Now, my mom’s a sassy lady, so that did not sit well, and she would just go up and start talking at them. It was funny! Until of course, one vendor was talking to another bride and her mom about budgets. Apparently, any budget under $5000 is just not worth talking about. Whaaa? All the jeweler vendors also didnt’ like my ring, except for the one that I was very certain was about to yank it off my hand.
Fairs are ridiculous. The vendors that can’t be open, charming, and business like will get little business. You, however, are awesome and deserve people that treat you well!
Post # 5
perlerose: I did go to a wedding expo in August and was mostly non-wowed too. I wasn’t offended as most people did try to get us interested in their booth (including the few bridal shops). One shop I flat out asked if they had a good selection of plus size dresses (a more independent shop) and she admitted they don’t have a huge selection in store but can bring some in if I wanted.
I chose in the end to go to Alfred Angelo and to David’s Bridal. Alfred Angelo was so kind and attentive and sensitive to the fact that I was petrified to try on dresses and it ended up being fun (they didn’t have a HUGE selection of plus size dresses but the store itself was kinda small). I found my dress at David’s which was a little bit less attentive (my assigned sales person was also helping someone else) but every bit as nice and sensitive. David’s had aisles and aisles of dresses in my size to try on! Dress shopping was (much to my surprise) a fun experience, tiring for sure, but fun.
I’m a size 24ish (sometimes 26, sometimes 22 depending on retailer) and I found LOTS of dresses to try on. Don’t be scared, go in understanding that not every dress they put you in will fit, and some will look hilarious (I laughed out loud a lot of the time) but a lot will look awesome and flattering.