Post # 1
I am trying to figure out what I am going to do for my wedding favor, and orginally I was going to do a donation to the American Cancer Society in honor of my parents becasue they have both passed away from cancer. I have noticed that a lot of people get offended with donations because they feel that they don’t want their name associated with certain charites becuase of their own personal beliefs. I don’t think anyone would be offended by it that is coming to my wedding, but I kind of got worried because I know the ACS does test on animals; therefore, I was thinking that I can give everyone a cancer ribbon cookie that is individually wrapped with a note stating that it honors my parents. I really want the favor to honor my parents in some way because I don’t feel like just mentioning them in the program is enough for me. Do you think the cookie is a good enough favor, or should it be more?
Post # 3
I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. FWIW, I think donating to the ACS in honor of your parents is a lovely idea. I would not be offended in any way. As far as the cookie – I think that is absolutely enough for a favor!
Post # 4
The only name that will be associated with any donation to a charity is the name of the donor(s). No one lists all their guests names.
Having said that I am in the camp that says a donation is not a favor, it is something you do with your money instead of a favor.
Most favors are a complete waste of money. If you want to honor your parents, by all means use your money wisely and make a donation to the ACS.
Just don’t have a favor. You don’t need to tell your guests you made the donation.
We don’t broadcast or publicize our other charitable donations.
I don’t understand the need that some couples have to tell their guest about their donation, unless they think their guests will think ill of them for not having a favor.
Post # 5
@julies1949: I am going to make a donation either way, and have done so in the past, but I thought it would be rude to just not have a favor and not even mention it.
Post # 6
Two of my cousins did donations instead of favors. There were little notes with the places cards. I think your idea is very lovely and I think you should do it 🙂
Post # 7
@onyx81: More and more weddings I attend don’t have a favor. I think more couples are getting comfortable with the idea that unless it is a cultural must, many favors are a complete waste of time and money.