Wedding favors?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Its perfectly fine to not have favors. A ton of bees arent having them.

Post # 4
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@jb20:  I don’t think people really mind either way. We are going with favours but just a simple nice/quality chocolate in an organza bag. The organza bags are really cheap off ebay and you could put anything in them.

I have hear of others using the wedding cake as the favour.

Not many people really like favours and many are either left behind or just get thrown in the bin when people get home.

Post # 5
1243 posts
Bumble bee

@jb20:  Not bad etiquette at all. We didn’t have any. They are a complete waste of money IMO as you will never find something everyone ikes (other than some sort of candy perhaps) and most of them go in the trash.

I don’t want shit around my house with my wedding date and our names on it (i.e. our napkins we had made simply had an emblem that tied into our theme, and matched our colours, nothing else), I sure don’t want shit with someone else’s names and wedding date.

If there are two things that are a complete waste of money and I don’t know why anyone bothers with (beyond feeding their own egos with getting stuff with their pictures and names on it) it’s STDs and favours.

Post # 6
10838 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@jb20: Not a bad thing at all. I echo @SeaSalt:‘s words of


I sure don’t want shit with someone else’s names and wedding date.

So unless it’s not edible I wouldn’t bother.

Post # 8
1243 posts
Bumble bee

@jb20:  I should say that I ordered little matchbook sized note pads, and they had our wedding date and names on them HOWEVER we had a few on all the tables, and made an announcement that our guests should feel free to use them to make requests to the DJ. It was VERY important to us that people DANCED, and having attended many functions there with DJ’s, and having to submit requests on napkins or scraps of paper from my purse, i wanted to make it easy for them.

I honestly don’t know if guests took and kept them (I wouldn’t lol).  I’ve only come across about half a dozen around here, but I suspect there is a whole box of them somewhere that I haven’t found yet.  I hope not, because I won’t be using

Post # 9
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@jb20:  Honestly, unless it’s a delicious edible favor, I probably won’t even bring it home as a guest.  To me, those little frames, coasters, etc are all just clutter.  We ended up doing edible favors for less than $1 per guest (sweet n salty snack buffet).

Post # 10
5781 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Even the edible favors end up getting thrown away. I can’t tell you how many cutesy bags of Jordan almonds got put in my purse for nibbling later, then got forgotten, then got pitched into the trash 3 weeks later. I’ve done that at like 5 weddings, put my favor aside for later and eventually ended up throwing them away. At my sister’s wedding they put little flower pots as centerpieces and filled them with Lindor truffles (yum) as a pseudo-favor, and she and her hubby had leftover Lindor truffles for like a year!

Post # 11
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jb20:  if it’s not in the budget, i wouldn’t worry about favours.  the only favours that i like are the edible ones.  anything personalized i leave behind.

i did gourmet chocolates and they were all gone at the end of the night.  guests even asked where they were from b/c they were so good.

Post # 12
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We originally weren’t going to do favours but wedding cake at our venue was ridiculously priced so we decided to have the regular dessert and then have cake balls as favors. In my experience, people don’t care much about favours unless they are edible. 

Post # 13
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I just went to a wedding last night, and the favor was a candle in the shape of a wine glass. My fiance and I were one of the last to leave, and we saw sooo many empty tables with the favors still on them. I think you should do edible favors or nothing at all.

Post # 14
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@jb20:  Ditto what everyone else said!  The reception, not the favor, is how you thank your guests.

Post # 15
1531 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldnt even bother with edible favors.  Totally unnecessary.

Post # 16
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re not doing them, we could afford to if we wanted but like PP said, it’s unusual to find something everyone will actually like and i don’t like to waste money. We’re already paying for a meal and alcohol for everyone i really don’t see the point in favors.

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