Wedding Favors?

posted 3 years ago in Favors
  • poll: Are wedding favors a must have?
    Yes : (27 votes)
    25 %
    No : (82 votes)
    75 %
  • Post # 3
    4468 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Jules0218:  favours aren’t mandatory- often they are just discarded by guests! We did jars of local jams and pouches of macadamia nuts for our Maui wedding, plus made a donation to charity on behalf of all out guests. Consumables and charitable donations are the best favours imho, or I think it’s acceptable not to have any either.

    Post # 4
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    The favor is usually just something that thanks your guests for being there. You paying for their dinner has nothing to do with whether or not they should get favors. It’s okay if you don’t want to.. just don’t use the excuse of “well, i’m paying for their meals”.

    You are the hostess, it’s your job to make sure your guests have a good time.

    Post # 5
    42135 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    In some cultures they are pretty well mandatory. In others, not so much.

    If your favor is some little chachka engraved with your names and the date of your wedding, please save your money.

    Please don’t confuse a charitable donation with a favor. They are an alternative to favors for people who want to donate the equivalent amount of money to  a charity of their choice and feel the need to tell their guests about it.

    Post # 6
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    It’s not mandatory and not even completely expected, really. I have been to 2 weddings recently and neither of them had favors and it wasn’t about money or anything. They just didn’t. I don’t expect to be treated like royalty when I go to a wedding, a meal and a good time is more than enough in my book. 

    Post # 7
    922 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Jules0218:  Definitely not mandatory, but if you do decide to give favors, make them something useful or edible. I can’t even count how many monogrammed glasses, skeleton keys, bubbles, flower seeds, etc I have left behind at weddings. 

    Post # 8
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m doing homemade edible favors…it’s not going to cost me a whole lot and I definitely don’t want to be the bride that doesn’t give out favors just because I paid for everyone to eat and drink.

    Post # 9
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Hi @Jules0218:  I see you are NEW to WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    Favours / Bonbonnieres are not mandatory… however they are something traditionally that is often seen in some cultures as a bit of “momento” to be taken as the Guests leave…


    • Scottish = Wedding Fruitcake
    • Europeans = Sugared Almonds

    In North America over the years different things have been given that were personalized or not… and it all began with Matchbooks (not expensive) but has expanded into to areas that make it very expensive if not prohibitive for many couples…

    Such as Picture Frames, Engraved Champagne Flutes, or full on Gifts.

    As I say, there is NO RULE that says you have to do this.  Do it only if you like, and if you can afford it.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 10
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Edible. Always go edible. 

    Post # 11
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We are giving favours to our guests, simply because we would like too. Its not mandatory, but it depends on how heavy you would like to go with ettiquite and tradition.

    Its true, most guests throw them away, and those same guests might complain if you dont give favours. Its up to you. you can get relatively inexpensive ones, depensding on what your after, but its a personal thing. In my view, wedding guests should be able to have a nice meal, good company and a good time and enjoy being with the couple. If their good time at your wedding hinges on if they recieve a favour or not, then they’re probably not the best company to begin with! lol

    Post # 12
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Jules0218:  I’m not doing favors, mostly because of cost!  Even if I did have the money I don’t think I would of really had one!

    Post # 14
    8388 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Jules0218:  I think wedding favors are a fun way to add something personal to a wedding, but definitely not neccessary.  As a guest the only favors I’ve ever really enjoyed were the edible ones; things like mini picture frames, coasters, etc, tend to get left behind.  For our wedding I made edible favors using a recipe I made up.

    Post # 15
    1779 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We wanted to have a candy bar because they look awesome but we are also using it as our ‘thank you’. Guests can take home a little Chinese take-out container full of their favorite candies at the end of the night. 🙂 Double-duty!

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