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Wedding First Kiss Etiquette

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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    This is a first kiss article that I got off the web somewhere. I have had it for quite awhile. I can't remember where I got it, but it does have some good advice.

    The best thing about the ceremony.......the kiss!! How do you pull off an appropriate ceremony kiss without coming across as a total makeout session?

    Here's a couple of hints:

    • Make eye contact with EACH other only (even a glimpse out of the corner of your eye towards your friends can change the dynamic of the moment)
    • Lean in for contact
    • Try not to let your guests know exactly how much tongue is involved (obviously!)
    • Don't make the kiss so short your guests might wonder if you're really attracted to each other, but don't make it so long guests have the opportunity to skip out on you without you noticing (studies show roughly 4 seconds is the average)
    • Slowly pull apart
    • Smile & keep your eyes fixated on each other while you are announced to the crowd as Mr & Mrs.
    • Turn toward your audience
    • Strut all the way to the reception!
     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Haha, would have been nice to know for ours!  We went a little longer than the 4 seconds and there were a couple wolf whistles and nervous giggling afterward.

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    lol, we are going to try to practice, so we don't get those or the "guests might wonder if you're really attracted to each other" response.

     
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    Ms Mini    July 17, 2010   Medicine Hat, AB

    I have seen some recent pics where you can clearly see the grooms tongue ... so gross, I think about 3/4 of the first kiss pics have visible tongue in them!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    Ewww!!! Ms Mini!

     
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    MollyE    June 20, 2009   Lancaster, PA

    I think we did all of this except for when we were announced husband and wife we looked at the crowd.  It felt natural to look at the audience as we were being announced.

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    these are great hints.  When we kissed (I didn't realize it until I saw the pictures) I was so paranoid about our noses hitting awkwardly that I turned my head almost totally sideways.  Looked so awkward!

    But I went to a wedding a few weeks before ours where the bride and groom literally both had their tongues out before their mouths met.  They made out for a full 25 seconds before finally separating, flushed.  The rest of their guests were flushed as well...from totally embarrassment!  I'll never forget how awful that was!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    MollyE: It will probably be natural for us to look at the crowd too, but we are going to try not too. I love the pictures of the couples that are looking at each other while being announced.

    That would just seem like forever, if you were one of the guests lattelove.

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    Multiple little kisses after THE kiss, hugs, giddy excitement all make for great pictures. What doesn't make for a great picture?  The .1 second pec.  HOLD the kiss so your photog can get a few frames off.  If it's too quick it may get missed. :-)

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    This was really helpful, and a good reminder to practice, which we need.  Definitely want to avoid any awkwardness.  Thanks! 

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    Great advice KLP.

    You are very welcome verosara.

     
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    Goldilocks1107    September 2010   Madison, WI

    I've been told to expect a dip. I told him good luck because bending isn't something my dress really allows me to do. I just hope I don't fall over!

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    hahaha this topic always makes me think of this ;o)

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    Mermaid1082    September 4, 2010   St Louis, MO

    This is cute!  Fi and I have been practicing our "church kisses."  Kiss

     
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    melv0802    September 18, 2010   new jersey/philadelphia

    thanks for the advice=) good article!! aw the weddingsinger..such a great movie;)

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I bet if you practice your dip goldilocks, you will do just fine.

    hotchilin, that will probably be me and my fiance. I love the weddingsinger.

    That is good mermaid. We have been practicing too. I still laugh though, so we are going to have to practice for awhile, but we don't mind.

    You are very welcome melv802.

     

     
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    MstoMrs      

    great tips thanks!

     
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    Hotchild-  Wedding Singer was the first thing that popped into my mind as well :)

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    You are very welcome MstoMrs.

     

     
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    We didn't plan anything for the kiss but when I saw the video it was very funny.  I was basically like "Come 'ere" and kind of pulled him... haha!

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    lol @ hotchild in the city! Me, too!

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    I want him to dip me too after the kiss!

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    @ Hotchild - me too! FI and I actually have a running joke about it. We send each others magazine articles and silly pictures about first kisses, etc.

    It'll probably totally backfire on us & we'll end up just laughing at each other when it comes time for us to kiss. 

     
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    Nexus-6    March 12, 2010   Portland

    I haven't thought about this, but I will make sure we practice :)

    It also reminds me of when I was a kid and I watched my parents' wedding video and they did a whole major-tongue makeout thing and I thought it was so gross!

     
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    charmedlife    May 22, 2010   South Texas

    Oh the wedding tongue from the wedding singer. That always pops into my mind when talking about kissing in church.

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    We totally have to practice!

     
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    Love the article!  Who knows what'll happen when we're in the moment though.

     
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    Sharron04    April or May 2011  

    These are some great tips thanks!

     
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    moneypenny02    August 8, 2010   Los Angeles

    My FI is already all nervous about kissing in front of his mother!! He is generally kind of anti-PDA so it will take some work to get him comfy enough for a real kiss--even one with "church tongue".  I told him if his mom wants grand-kids, then she wants us to kiss!!

     
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    elisterine    June 25, 2011   Chicago

    Good tips! It makes me nervous to think about everyone watching us kiss...but I also don't want to make it so fast that people think we're not attracted to each other, as suggested by the article!

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Um, I honestly dread the kiss so much we might not even have one. SO uncomfortable. He kissed me at midnight on NYE in front of his parents and I almost died.

     

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