Post # 1
Am I trying to lose weight/tone up/whatever similar descriptive phrase for the wedding AND for me? Why yes, I am.
But that is MY personal decision for MY own reasons and I feel that, as women, we need to stop being each other’s worst enemies when it comes to situations like this.
Am I overweight? No. I am I a super skinny size 2? No.
So why on earth do my friends (who I know mean well) make references to “oh, you’ve got a year before the wedding!” “You have to diet with me – you know you want to because you’ve gotta wear a wedding gown!”
Not the mention the obnoxious ‘Lose Weight Fast Brides!’ ads that keep popping up on the side of my Facebook.
Of I course want to look (and more importantly feel) fabulous and sexy and amazing on my wedding day. But hell, my FI proposed to me with my body just the way it is, and he makes me feel more beautiful than any diet/workout routine ever could. Something tells me that he – the most important person to me on our wedding day – will be more than overjoyed with me just the way I am. Everyone else can just shut up.
Post # 3
Totally agree. Even though I am in the process of getting in shape, much like many other brides, it isn’t merely for the wedding. And frankly, you should walk down the aisle feeling like yourself! I hate all the pressure about losing weight. It’s almost as if you don’t lose weight before your wedding, it’s made to feel like a huge failure. Totally lame.
I say, we just walk down that aisle feeling beautiful, comfortable, and most of all HAPPY no matter what size that is!
Post # 4
Ugh. I agree too… and I’m getting really annoyed about my friends who are getting married and practically starving themselves to “fit in their wedding dress”. Although I keep feeling the intense pressure as well, I think most people do it because all eyes will be on them that day. But honestly, have you ever seen a terrible looking bride? I haven’t.
Post # 5
I feel you. I get this all the time. And I am a size 2. I’m all for people making their own decision to get healthy/tone up/lose weight for special events, but when did it become okay to assume anyone else was?!
Post # 6
I’m with you! I’ve started taking dance classes and things like NIA because I want to gain confidence in my body, not necessarily to lose weight (although that would be fine, too ).
Post # 7
Lol I love this! I think this is how a lot of girls feel! I def. want to get more tone and do more exercising and eating healthier for the wedding, but I have set no goal weight, and I have no real expectations of weight lose for the wedding. FI loves me and how I work and I am 100% happy with who I am and how I look so hey if I do lose a little and tone up awesome! if not oh well the worlds not going to come to an end!
Post # 8
Ugh! I hate hate HATE those facebook ads that say things like “the wedding dress diet”. They need to STFU.
Post # 9
a little after we got engaged, the girlfriend of husbands BM asked “so how’s the diet going? how much weight are you trying to lose?” uhhhhh…what makes you think im on a diet? I mean I was, but how rude! she basically called me fat, and Im like a size 4. why do we always have to be on diets? This happened 2 years ago and I still remember it.
Post # 10
I went to a bridal fair a few months ago and there was a booth there for plastic surgery. REALLY?! What, we can’t look good on our wedding day without nipping a little here, tucking there… SICK WORLD.
Post # 11
I completely agree with your rant. It kills me that people expect me to be dieting before my wedding. I am a big runner and I am registered for a marathon (my 5th) that is 1 1/2 months after our wedding and friends/neighbors/coworkers keep making comments that I must be doing it to lose weight. Arg! i’m doing it because I love running, thats it!
I just don’t understand why I am supposed to “magically” become smaller on my wedding day. Most of my guests have known me for 10-27 years, shouldn’t they know by now what I look like?!?!
Thanks for letting me rant a bit too – I needed it.
Post # 12
Ahhh, so true! I couldn’t agree more. I am actually working on losing weight by my wedding day, but not for the sole purpose of looking hot and thin on my big day (although that would be a nice bonus). I’m doing it because I need to lose weight and get healthy. When I got engaged, my FI didn’t care what I looked like! Now people ask me all the time how much weight I’m trying to lose because of the wedding. Ahhhh!!!!!
One of my friends who got married this past May (and who is also the appropriate healthy weight- didn’t need to lose a pound) kept trying to diet and practically starve herself. Seriously! It’s become insane how everyone thinks they have to lose weight, or that someone getting married is going to.
P.S. I hate the Facebook ads too. WITH A PASSION.
Post # 13
I agree! I’m glad I didn’t have a lot of people bugging me but I wanted to get in shape for myself not because I was getting married.