- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
So we’re supposed to get hitched in July 2011 and I am having an awful time about organizing the reception (pretty much nothing is planned in fact). But I don’t think I really want it! The cost is entirely on us and I don’t want to go into debt for the wedding, preferring to keep what savings we have for buying a house or moving. Plus I am overseas and only a small amount of my friends/family will be able to come whereas the wedding will take place in his country of residence and thus with all his friends/family – making me very resentful.
On the other hand, I would be really happy to have our families meet, and so perhaps do some sort of meal for just our family.
Otherwise, I would really prefer just to do something along the lines of an elopement – just us when we tie the knot.
He doesn’t understand. He’s freaked out that I don’t want a traditional wedding, but does not help with planning anything… instead waits to figure out what I’ll do. But I need his motivation, his help – and I’ve told him that.
We sent “save the dates” (not actual invitations) and he’s really concerned about the commitment we’ve made to these people, plus to those who have started planning our bachelor/ette parties. (FI: “other people are actually committed to this wedding…”)
Which brings me to another question: Can you do a bachelor/ette party with people if you’re not having a reception or if they are not invited because the reception is held only for a very small group?
Sigh, I really feel I am getting no support from my FI.
Help me, bees!