Post # 1
Heres my current TO DO WORRY LIST:
1) Finding a job
2) Moving into house
3) Help plan a baby shower for FMIL
5) Helping with womens confernce
6) Getting rid of fleas before we move
7) Managing our money
And finally 8) Our wedding planning.
this past month im head is going crazy! Theres so much to do in so little time. And i honestly feel like i havent been doing crap for our wedding. We sorta have the major purchases but still need a photography. Its the LITTLE THINGS that were missing.And cant find the money for since he just lost his job. WHAT AM I GOING TO DO?!?!? I dont even know where to begin. This is my first wedding, my first everything, with moving out, getting a job! My life is changing within minutes and i am honestly freaking out a little on the inside, can i show my FI? Not really… WHY? Because then he will freak out, and we dont want that.
So any bees have any re-insurance? Any advice? Any tips? ALL IS WELCOME.
Post # 3
It sounds like you’re in a tough spot and I am sorry to hear that 🙁
This doesn’t work for everyone and you may be doing this already, but have you tried putting specific dates and times in your diary where you absolutely commit yourself to working towards each of those goals? Such as tomorrow morning you are going to spend three hours looking for and contacting photographers and then in the afternoon you’re going to look into how to sort out the flea problem. Another time you could set aside for creating a spreadsheet for all your finances and working out a realistic budget, then taking it to your fiance to get you both on board with it. Maybe you could dedicate an hour or two each day to check new job postings and send off your resume to a bunch of places. If you are finding you are crazily busy, try to push back on the things that can wait or can be done without you. I am sure the people involved will understand.
I know it is super stressful to think about the huge list of things that need to be done. It makes me panicky when I have that too. But you need to break it down because you can only do one thing at a time anyway. Make a plan for how to get these things done by splitting it all up, take a deep breath and then really commit to it.
Post # 4
yikes! you have a lot on your plate :/ is there a way you can talk with FI about helping with some of this stuff (packing, finding movers or making a moving plan… at least getting boxes, defleaing whatever you are tryingto get fleas out of) so you feel less overwhelmed? mybe he could start looking for photogs and getting rates while you are planning the conference?
you dont have to throw this list at him and start shrieking about how you are freaking out (thats what i would do though!) maybe give him some small part of the crap that is stressing you out.
just think, no matter what, in less than 4 months you will be married!
also-totally off topic, but you MIL is having a baby????
Post # 5
@bostongirl27: you MIL is having a baby????
My thoughts too!!
OP, three words: delegate, delegate, delegate. Can you reduce your participation in MIL’s shower? Cut back your responsibilities for the conference? These are things that other people can be doing, people who aren’t moving, looking for jobs, and planning weddings.
Finally, don’t stress too much about the wedding. Those little things are just that, little. It will all be great.
Post # 6
hahaha yeah shes been divorced for sometime but has been a man for over nine years, had a couple failures with babys, finally got married like 1 or 2 years ago, so she waited a child with him. Shes 42 years old and is definitly pregnant! too pregnant, if that makes sense XD. but yeah its kind of a weird situation, her son( my finace) is 20 XD. so yeha lol