Post # 1
I’m trying to figure out how much my Fiance and I should give as a present at a friend’s wedding today. We usually give about $100 but now that I’ve been reading more about weddings, I understand it’s more appropriate to cover your food and I doubt that would.
Can I also take the amount I spent on her shower present into account? Would the $70 I spent on the shower present help make up for only giving $100 at the wedding?
Unfortunately, our wedding isn’t for another three weeks, so I don’t know how much, if any, they will be giving us. And she rescheduled her bachelorette party for the weekend of my shower so she didn’t give me a present for that, which means I don’t have a comparison either.
Am I just being horribly cheap?
Post # 3
Give whatever you feel you can afford. I think $100.00 is fine, especially since you gave her a $70.00 shower gift.
Post # 4
I determine the total amount I am comfortable spending on a wedding and then divide it by shower and wedding. If someone got me a $70 shower gift, I’d be fine with far less than $100 at the wedding.
Post # 5
Don’t try and keep score with what you’ve already given her or what you think she might give you. Gifts are about giving what you are comfortable with and can afford, not paying back the couple for what they chose to spend on their wedding.
Post # 6
I don’t think you’re being cheap at all. Where I’m from, only 1 gift is customary…either at the shower or at the wedding. I agree iwth gcwest, gift what you can. Unless you’re the couple’s family, there is no need in helping pay for THEIR wedding…IMO.
Post # 7
If I’m invited alone & they are a good friend: 50
If I’m invited alone & they aren’t a good friend: I decline & send gift card
If both my Fiance and I are invited, and we can not attend: 50 dollars
If both my Fiance and I are invited, and we are friends with either the bride OR groom: 60-75
If both my Fiance and I are inivted and we are friends with both bride AND groom: 100.
I don’t base it on the style of the wedding, I base it on the relationship between me and the person that invited me. Personally I don’t expect more than 100 per couple, and most people were not invited to my shower – we had a small family shower.
Post # 8
You aren’t cheap at all. Give what you can afford. They will be grateful no matter the dollar amount.
Post # 9
Wedding’s should be about a joyous occassion that you are sharing with friends and family. Shouldn’t be about the money/gifts you are receiving so give what you feel comfortable with giving and don’t benchmark it against what you think they’ll give you. Base it upon your relationship with her as well!