(Closed) Wedding Gift Dilemma

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@LibbyJ:  I don’t get the whole idea of brides and grooms getting gifts for each other. We recently got married, and we didn’t get each other gifts – that was mainly because we both paid for the entire wedding ourselves. I think he got a little nervous as it got closer, because he asked me if we were getting each other gifts, and I told him immediately, absolutely no! I let him know immediately that I wasn’t expecting a gift from him, and he shouldn’t from me. I think he was very relieved! But like I said, this was because we both spent a lot of money on the wedding – we went 50/50, so giving each other a gift seemed totally pointless.

I don’t know what your situation is (if you guys are paying for the wedding, or your parents, whatever) – but have you actually had the discussion about even giving each other gifts in the first place? Maybe you can scratch that idea, and focus on planning the wedding.

 

Post # 4
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145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hi,

My fiance is also a musician and a music teacher Laughing I dont know your future husband, but my experience with this is that a guitar is something they need to pick out for themselves. My fiance always has to go to the music store and play the guitars he is interested in to find out if they have the right feeling and sound that he wants. It is not something I would ever buy for him without his input. I dont want to put down whatever decision you end up making, but I would tread carefully if you decide to get him a guitar.

I don’t think we are getting each other gifts, but that is mainly because we are paying for a good portion of the wedding so that it pretty much our gifts to each other.

Post # 5
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@LibbyJ:  Libby, I forgot to add something to my previous reply: I  DID surprise my husband  with a grooms cake, which they put next to our wedding cake (it was a smaller cake, with his favorite flavor, with a special design that had to do something with his hobbies), so I guess that was KIND of a gift – although we could both enjoy it.

maybe you could get him a grooms cake with a music symbol as design? Again, I don’t know what your and his expectations are as far as giving gifts to each other.

Post # 6
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3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would just buy what you want to buy and not worry about outdoing him. My DH makes a lot more money than I do and has for most of our relationship. As such, his gifts always outshine mine dollar-wise. For our wedding gift, I got him boudoir photos and he got me a huge RHR that we were eyeing for an ering initially. Clearly, that’s a HUGE price discrepancy.

I think the point here is that you each get the other person something they’ll love and cherish and the money value shouldn’t be a worry, whether it’s $0.05 or $5000. You’re getting married now and going forward, you both will be a team. Plus, you have no idea what he’s getting you; maybe he’s been squirreling away money all this time too.

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