Post # 1
When we were planning my wedding, my mother and Mother-In-Law talked together about how weird it was that we were having gifts sent to my now-DH’s apartment, and that there wasn’t going to be a display. Apparently, when they got married, gifts were opened, then put on display at their parents’ houses with cards under them saying who got it for them. Guests, and people who came into town for the wedding and were received by the MOB then got to walk around and see all the things they’d gotten and look for their name or gift.
Have any of you done this or heard of it being done? I live in the deep south, so maybe that’s part of it?
Post # 3
i’ve never seen that personally, but i have seen it in the movie “father of the bride”! i’m guessing (not sure) that it’s not too common anymore? at least, i haven’t seen it done in texas
Post # 4
@sweetpea87: Sounds like an old tradition and something possibly seen in more affluent homes. Are you all having out of town guests over to your mother’s house for welcome get together or anything? Where oh where is Emily Post when you need her?!
Post # 5
I have heard that it is a “southern” thing. But, I’ve lived in the south my entire life, and I’ve only seen it done at a shower for FI’s cousin. Someone took every gift and arranged each one on a large table like some sort of showroom display. Then, after the gift opening was over, everyone formed a line and stood there looking at the stuff. I thought it was weird since we’d just watched FI’s cousin open all of the gfits. I didn’t see the point in standing in line to get a close up view of someone’s new home decor.
I have never seen it where someone has their gifts on display in their parents’ homes, either. I know for a fact my mom wouldn’t want a bunch of people stopping by to stare at my new pots and pans, lol!
Post # 6
The ladies who threw my shower did this, but it was only for the shower… though it was a lot of older generation ladies. I think it is a somewhat outdated tradition.
Post # 7
It used to be done here a long time ago, but I for one, think it was not a very kind thing to do.
I don’t think any of our guests should be put in the position where people are comparing who gave what gift. And you know that people do that!
Post # 8
I hadn’t thought about the comparison thing. My mother was a little upset I didn’t do it, but I just couldn’t come up with a reason why I should have. And I don’t remember that from Father of the Bride! Interesting.