Post # 1
I’m invited to a friend’s wedding ceremony, but not the reception. I’ve always attended wedding receptions where I’ll give at least $100 to the couple, but have never attended wedding ceremonies. I’m wondering if I’m expected be giving a wedding gift/money since I’ll only be attending the ceremony?
Post # 2
nan897: Is it common to invite people to only the ceremony where you live?
I would mail a nice card. There isn’t likely to be an easy way top leave it with a family member at the ceremony. Giuft tables are usually at the reception.
Post # 3
My parents always have. Especially if they were invited to the reception. If you were invited to the reception, it’s what’s appropriate I think.
Post # 4
I would mail a card but no gift unless I was particularly close to the couple (In which case they’d get an ass burning lecture. If we’re so close, why no invite?) if I was *not* invited to the reception. I find that couples expecting gifts but only inviting to the ceremony comes off as “Give us stuff but we won’t give you dinner.”
Post # 5
Hyperventilate: Yeah, exactly my thoughts on it. If they can’t invite you to the reception, then give them something smaller or nothing. But if they invited you to the reception, and you can’t make it, it’s not their fault and they shouldn’t suffer because of it. 🙂
Post # 6
nan897: Wow, I’ve neer heard of that! Is the reception on a different day than the wedding ceremony? Do you know of others who are going to this reception? Is there any kind of post ceremony treats or cookies – I mean you have to thank your guests for witnessing your wedding and technically even a little cake and punch is appropriate for post ceremony.