Post # 1
I have a little dilema. My SO and his family were invited to a fellow family friends wedding. SO as well has his 4 other brothers (3 of them including SO are over 18) live at home with their parents. About a week ago I was informed by SO that I was invited to this wedding. (which happens to be in a week and a half).
I am trying to figure out if SO and I should give a seperate gift. In the past in my family if the invite was addressed to My parents and us kids (even though we’re all adults) we always just gave one card/gift. Problem is, I don’t know how the invite was addressed/if SO got his own:
I asked him how I was invited, if the family got one invitiation, if he got a seperate one with a plus guest, or my name on it etc. His mother is a little overbearing (i’ve written about that before) and may have possibly opened his invite if she saw the envelope and knew it was the invite to the wedding. He has asked if he received a seperate invite/how I was invited and she never gives him a straight answer. Its always “oh mmr66 is invited”
Also, the bride and groom are very laid back and it is very possible that I was invited via phone call/email to SO’s mother….HELP lol
Post # 3
Can you not just directly ask his mother if she is purchasing a gift on behalf of her family?
Post # 4
As adults (and part of a couple), I would buy them your own gift, even if his mom purchases a group gift…
Post # 5
@SeaSalt: All she told me was that “SO will be signing my card” but where does that leave me? what if SO received a card adressed to “SO and mmr66” I have only met this family once before and I definitely don’t want to be rude!
Post # 6
You and your SO get a card and put a gift in there. Your SO can sign his mom’s card and don’t make a big deal about it. When you get to the reception, just take your card out of your purse and put it in the basket. That way you are covered!
Post # 7
I was thinking the same thing and mentioned it and she thought that was too much. I wanted to run the situation by the hive as i’ve only attended one wedding in my adult life lol
Post # 8
@mmr66: Well, there’s no law that SO can’t sign 2 cards. If you’re that concerned, the two of you can go in on a gift together, or simply get them a card signed by both of you. IF you don’t know the bride and groom at all, you probably don’t have to worry about either, but it’s sounds like you’d feel better to err on the side of caution, and it neve hurts to purchase a gift to congratulate the newly married couple and as thanks for hosting you.