Wedding gift not intended for bride?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“We” got a Keurig.  DH doesn’t drink coffee, hot chocolate, or any hot beverage.  So, it’s MY coffee maker.  Meh, both of you won’t use every single gift.

I mean, if someone bought you a purse or something that might be a little… odd.  But things intended for use in the home probably wouldn’t strike me as that strange.

Post # 4
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would take the computer.

Post # 5
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I had a close friend who registered AND received Star Wars Lego Sets for their wedding gifts. Those were really just for the groom!

I think it’s okay to have some gifts that are more for one person out of the two.

I mean I assume I will get a lot of home and kitchen stuff that let’s be honest even if FI “benefits” from it…like he sleeps on the sheets or gets food I cook in the kitchen, he could not really care less if someone gets me a new kitchen tool or beautiful new bedding. So I’d be fine with someone who is close to him getting a gift that the groom would love as much as I love a nice set of bedding! LOL. 


Post # 6
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The boss offered a computer (even if it is  a bit self serving). It might seem a bit ungrateful for FI to have to say to him, @Kwhoa:  would rather have a vacuum cleaner.

Accept his gracious offer and you can use FI’s current computer.


Post # 7
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I don’t understand how this would go down. Your FI would say “No thanks, we’d rather have money?”

Post # 8
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s an odd wedding gift, but I would just go with it.  Can you have his current computer?

Post # 9
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would graciously accept any gift he wants to give.

Post # 10
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m confused – so your Fiance isn’t willing to share a computer he won’t even be using? If it’s a backup that means he will only need it if something happens to his. Why can’t you guys have seperate user accounts on the computer? I guess I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t be willing to share. I think you should definitely take it and tell your fiance he better learn to share! Ha ha 🙂 

Post # 11
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would accept the computer. You both aren’t going to use every wedding gift!

Post # 12
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

To be honest, I would be highly ofended if I offered someone a wedding present and they said no, pretty much no mater what it was.  My FI’s firm often gives office stuff for wedding presents.  I think the last one was a nice pen or something else similar that gets kept in the office.   If they did that for my FI, I would just smile and nod.  These aren’t “my people” and are going to think of my FI more in the wedding gift giving thing, and that is okay to me. 

Post # 14
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kwhoa:  A computer is a great gift.

Why not take his old computer for yourself and give the new computer to the FI.

I got a Keurig and my DH does not drink coffee or tea.


Post # 16
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Hotel Baronette Renaissance in Novi

Sort of in the same boat – FI’s boss also owns a really prestigious DJ/Event service in the area.  She basically told us she’s getting one of their DJ’s, got on the phone, and made it happen.  Then called it our gift.  Not that I’m complaining (I’m actually happy it’s something my parent’s don’t have to pay for, as they are paying for everything else without any help), but it was just… odd.  I would never have been able to afford their services, so I guess it’s cool.  Plus it’s also the work game – you can’t really say “no, sorry boss,” and choose your gift with your boss.  It’s one gift, and I’m sure you can both use it at some point.  I know I have a crap load of stuff on our registry that FI doesn’t give a flying fadoodle about, so it’s all good.

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