(Closed) Wedding Gifts

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My understanding is that it’s ‘preferable’ or expected that you open gifts when you receive them, and send a thank you card straight away — that way people know that their gift has arrived.  I’ve never been taken aback to receive a thank-you card before the wedding — I find it reassuring!

Isn’t your FSIL being a bit melodramatic about this? I don’t think you should feel guilty at all, what you’re doing is what most people do.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I second Wonderlanded’s comments.

Maybe your FSIL is upset because she can’t make it and thought opening the gift at the reception would remind you of her?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

When I get them I feel like a kid at Christmas, so I ask FI if I can open it, he usually wants me to wait for him than we open together. If she wanted you to do it after the reception she should have told you, or sent it to you later. I say open and get the thank you card out of the way!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve never heard of opening gifts at the reception.  I agree with Br1tSh1n1ngStar, she should have specified if she wanted you to wait.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s perfectly fine to open the gifts. Etiquette experts say that the gifts shouldn’t be used until after the wedding – in case you call it off and have to return them. I’ve heard of people opening gifts at a “gift opening party”, although I’ve never been to one, but opening at the reception? When would you have time?

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