Post # 1
Hiyo : )
Okay this is regarding wedding gifts.
Our wedding is coming up – Oct 2nd – and we have received some gifts. My parents sent us 3 gifts and told me to open them. We also received 2 gifts from my FH sister – we opened those too, but when we called her to say Thanks (we are also sending out Thank You Cards as well – of course!) she was like “WHAT – you opened them already!!! you were suppose to wait until the reception.” I feel horrible – I’ve only met her once and has recently moved out of the country so she wont be able to make the wedding. I need some feedback please, what do we do with the gifts we receive early before the wedding?
Do we open them now? (and send out thank you cards already). Do we open them after the Honeymoon? (there wont be any opening at the reception & we are leaving almost immediately for HM)
Thank you so much!
Post # 3
My understanding is that it’s ‘preferable’ or expected that you open gifts when you receive them, and send a thank you card straight away — that way people know that their gift has arrived. I’ve never been taken aback to receive a thank-you card before the wedding — I find it reassuring!
Isn’t your FSIL being a bit melodramatic about this? I don’t think you should feel guilty at all, what you’re doing is what most people do.
Post # 4
I second Wonderlanded’s comments.
Maybe your FSIL is upset because she can’t make it and thought opening the gift at the reception would remind you of her?
Post # 5
When I get them I feel like a kid at Christmas, so I ask FI if I can open it, he usually wants me to wait for him than we open together. If she wanted you to do it after the reception she should have told you, or sent it to you later. I say open and get the thank you card out of the way!
Post # 6
I’ve never heard of opening gifts at the reception. I agree with Br1tSh1n1ngStar, she should have specified if she wanted you to wait.
Post # 7
It’s perfectly fine to open the gifts. Etiquette experts say that the gifts shouldn’t be used until after the wedding – in case you call it off and have to return them. I’ve heard of people opening gifts at a “gift opening party”, although I’ve never been to one, but opening at the reception? When would you have time?