Post # 1
So we received our very first wedding gift in the mail yesterday. Although I’m really excited I am one of those people who can stare at a gift for weeks until its time to open them. So I am really insisting on not knowing what it is until our wedding week or after we come back from the honeymoon. (I know what you’re thinking, this girl is EXTREMELY patient/ crazy—I get that a lot). So my thing is, am I supposed to send the Thank you cards immediately (meaning I would have to open it) or can I send the Thank you cards after the wedding (EXACTLY 1 month away).
Please help! Thanks.
Post # 3
Personally I would send the thank you card now because I LOVE LOVE presents and cant have something in my house for 5 mins w/o opening it!
But in your case because you want to wait I would maybe just call or email to let them no you recieved it and then write the Thank You after the wedding
Post # 4
If you haven’t opened it then I’d wait until after the wedding + honeymoon. Personally we opened all our gifts as we got them and sent thank you notes accordingly. I see no reason for waiting until after the wedding.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I think if you’re within a month of the wedding and receive gifts, it’s fine to wait until afterwards to send the Thank You…If it was earlier, I’d say to send a note so people know you got it but I think once you’re in the home stretch of a month out, you’re excused from Thank You note duty until after the wedding…Mad props for being able to wait to open stuff until then!
Post # 6
Etiquette wise, you are supposed to open the gifts/send thank yous when you receive them. You are not supposed to use the gift though until after the wedding.
If you don’t open/send a thank you soon after receiving the gift, the gift givers may not know that you received it. Further, if you leave it until after the wedding it will just be more work, as you will already have a TON of thank yous to write!
Post # 7
You should send the thank you card now, so that the giver knows that you received the gift. Plus, as hergreenapples pointed out, it will cut down on the work you have to do after the wedding!
Post # 8
Personally I’d wait. I love receiving a wedding photo of the couple with the thank you card, so I’d want to wait until you have those to send out. I’ve received a couple of gifts, but I’m not sending my thank you’s for them until I do the rest after the wedding.
Post # 9
@hergreenapples. You know what that makes perfect sense. I can definitely wait until AFTER the wedding to use the gift ;p THANKS
Post # 10
My thoughts are you should open the gift and send a thank you card for what the gift was. If you don’t send a thank you card then the gift-giver might think you didn’t receive it or that you are rude and don’t intend to send a thank you. Also, you need to open it in order to thank the person for the actual gift, not a generic “Thanks for what you gave” kinda thing.